Hi everyone,
I’ve know about this for a long time but only had a proper in depth look through the last few days,
ive been struggling to see photos of her etc. so I’ve avoided looking.
But I have been kept updated with any supportive messages that’s been posted here.
I just wanted to say for myself I am SO thankful. Knowing people have seen this for what it is and stood by me, believed me, it truly means a lot! I’ve felt validated because somtimes I have questioned myself & felt really paranoid.
I just really wanted everyone who is supporting me know I am genuinely so thankful & that support has helped me see there are many decent professionals/people who would never dream of doing what she’s done.
I’m also standing with and feel love towards those who have said they’ve been affected by her too.
There’s some other avenues I can explore to try be heard. But at the same time the fact people are now talking about it, seen my evidence & shared their own stories is incredible. Please keep talking about this within your networks - because ultimately too it’s not just about me, I am so terrified other survivors/victims stories can be easily exploited. I’m terrified they will be retraumatised like I have. Consent, clear consent, informed consent is incredibly important, more so to abuse survivors. I also fear the gaslighting, bullying etc. survivors may face like I have. I am fortunate I’ve had support to recognise that behaviour from JT, but they’ll be many who won’t and that’s incredibly dangerous. It truly makes me sick to my stomach the hypocrisy, the denial, the fraud. It scares me that the ones who look up to her are looking up to an abuser. All she and VF project, talk about and preach, when they do the opposite. It’s dark and it’s incredibly concerning.
I’ve come across people who’ve said they’re ashamed they were ‘sucked in’. Please don’t be, it’s not your fault. Abusers know how to manipulate. People have also said they’re ashamed because they’ve hurt me for initially supporting her. Please know I don’t see it like that. I trusted her, I was sucked in, that’s why I shared my story in the first place. What matters now is you do everything in your power to help survivors stay away from her and VF.
I was so terrified when I got the response from the BPS, I was terrified it meant no one believed me, that it made me look like a liar. I have no idea why the BPS didn’t do anything - only that she will have had a full legal team, they’ll be loop holes everywhere. It made me so glad I’d posted it all online, cos I’d have been completely silenced otherwise.
Again, I am truly thankful and humbled. Who would have thought little old me would cause such a thing but also be backed by people who don’t even know me?! It’s really what’s kept me going and kept me alive to put it bluntly.
Take care x[/B]
I’ve know about this for a long time but only had a proper in depth look through the last few days,
ive been struggling to see photos of her etc. so I’ve avoided looking.
But I have been kept updated with any supportive messages that’s been posted here.
I just wanted to say for myself I am SO thankful. Knowing people have seen this for what it is and stood by me, believed me, it truly means a lot! I’ve felt validated because somtimes I have questioned myself & felt really paranoid.
I just really wanted everyone who is supporting me know I am genuinely so thankful & that support has helped me see there are many decent professionals/people who would never dream of doing what she’s done.
I’m also standing with and feel love towards those who have said they’ve been affected by her too.
There’s some other avenues I can explore to try be heard. But at the same time the fact people are now talking about it, seen my evidence & shared their own stories is incredible. Please keep talking about this within your networks - because ultimately too it’s not just about me, I am so terrified other survivors/victims stories can be easily exploited. I’m terrified they will be retraumatised like I have. Consent, clear consent, informed consent is incredibly important, more so to abuse survivors. I also fear the gaslighting, bullying etc. survivors may face like I have. I am fortunate I’ve had support to recognise that behaviour from JT, but they’ll be many who won’t and that’s incredibly dangerous. It truly makes me sick to my stomach the hypocrisy, the denial, the fraud. It scares me that the ones who look up to her are looking up to an abuser. All she and VF project, talk about and preach, when they do the opposite. It’s dark and it’s incredibly concerning.
I’ve come across people who’ve said they’re ashamed they were ‘sucked in’. Please don’t be, it’s not your fault. Abusers know how to manipulate. People have also said they’re ashamed because they’ve hurt me for initially supporting her. Please know I don’t see it like that. I trusted her, I was sucked in, that’s why I shared my story in the first place. What matters now is you do everything in your power to help survivors stay away from her and VF.
I was so terrified when I got the response from the BPS, I was terrified it meant no one believed me, that it made me look like a liar. I have no idea why the BPS didn’t do anything - only that she will have had a full legal team, they’ll be loop holes everywhere. It made me so glad I’d posted it all online, cos I’d have been completely silenced otherwise.
Again, I am truly thankful and humbled. Who would have thought little old me would cause such a thing but also be backed by people who don’t even know me?! It’s really what’s kept me going and kept me alive to put it bluntly.
Take care x[/B]