Does your partner like your Mum?

[Tricham]

I think so. I think he has been irritated by her in the past maybe, particularly when we lived with my parents in our early 20s, just because they have their differences. My partner is happy being alone (or just with me), not much of a talker, whereas my mum is quiet, but equally, she likes to talk .. but he has always respected her and appreciates what she did and what she still does for us. I'd say they have a better relationship than my MIL and I. MIL is a harder person to be close to.. but maybe I'm biased!

 

[ChloChlo]

My mother passed on. But my abusive ex husband did not like her and did whatever he could to prevent me talking to my family. He wanted what little he could to do with her. In hindsight I think he knew that she would work him out really quickly. She did not, for obvious reasons like him. I wouldn't listen to her pleas and warnings not to be with him but it fell on deaf ears.

My first ex husband liked her. But he was overtly nice and saw the good in everybody. He was a bit dopey, he looked and behaved like Rodney Trotter, my mum secretly thought he was an absolute plonker like him at times and would pull faces behind his back.

 

[LittleMy]

Honestly, I’d say the same. My mum is very blunt and has no filter. I’m good at tuning her out because I’m used to it, but I sometimes think he doesn’t quite know how to take her. She nags him more than I do!

 

[Koakes]

Definitely not. My mother is definitely a piece of work and he gave her the benefit of the doubt, even after all the stories he heard about her from myself and siblings. But he eventually got to see her true colors which unfortunately came out at my sisters wedding for everyone to see and understands why we all have had no contact with her for most of our adult lives. I will say our life is much better without her drama!

No, my husband dislikes my mother. Not because of anything she has done to him but because of the stress and upset she has caused me. Tbh he would prefer if I went NC.

He has always said the last straw for him was her kicking up a fuss about the seating plan the night before our wedding, threatening not to come etc if we didn’t change part of it.

We only got married last year so he’s not had to see her much since due to the pandemic. Think he’ll be sad when it ends in that way

Your mother sounds like mine! She had a fit and disowned half her family for not being able to attend my sisters wedding due to financial or health reasons

 

[Pinkblush]

My mum gets on great with him indoors, they have good banter etc but his mum doesn't like me. In spite of him having lived here five years before he met me his mum blames me for him not going back home to australia. When she visits she can be quite sarcastic and makes constant digs and it can be anything from the way I cook roast potatos to my son's floppy shoulder length hair but she does it in a jokey way but I know she means it. She only visits once a year so I'm really lucky I don't have to put up with her nonsense full time. I don't get involved in the face time sessions. Its just him and the kids. I'll give a wave and quick hello but that's it.

 

[Lizzie Mintdrop]

My partner and my mum get on well enough. There's not much to dislike about my mum, she's lovely. They would never ring each other though, all their contact is centered around me so lately that has been video chats or phone calls and they will chat then. I've never met my partner's mum, she left when he was 5, there was a custody battle, his father won, she tried to kidnap him, she failed and he never wanted anything to do with her after that

 

[SunshineDreamer]

Yes, they get on scarily well to the point that he’ll go out to lunch/dinner with her on his own and talk to her for hours.

 

[Causewaygal]

No he doesn’t like her ... but then neither do I

 

[JLXRD]

No, my husband dislikes my mother. Not because of anything she has done to him but because of the stress and upset she has caused me. Tbh he would prefer if I went NC.

He has always said the last straw for him was her kicking up a fuss about the seating plan the night before our wedding, threatening not to come etc if we didn’t change part of it.

We only got married last year so he’s not had to see her much since due to the pandemic. Think he’ll be sad when it ends in that way

 

[IncognitHoe]

I don’t like my fellas mum never have and never will

 

[Skyeball]

They aren't close but they get on fine. My mum isn't a very demonstrative person and my husband is introverted, so they could hardly speak to each other but that would be their personalities and them being true to themselves, not a sign of a problem.
Me, my dad and my sibling never draw breath for talking so it all balances out.

 

[HoGi]

Yup they get on like a house on fire. We joke if we were to split up she would keep him and never speak to me again

Like someone else said, I think its because she gives him the love and attention he doesn't get from his own mum

 

[Pixipoppy]

My boyfriend likes my mum, she’s generally a pretty inoffensive person - just friendly and unassuming so there’s no reason for him to dislike her. I also have great in laws too so very lucky on both fronts!

 

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

I think he does, or he at least tries for my sake, but I do think she drives him loopy. She’s constantly wanting pictures, shelves ect put up, and I mean, every weekend there’s something. Also when he first met her, she was quite rude to him for a long time because that’s what she’s like with new men she meets as she doesn’t trust men...

 

[JoeBloggs]

Mine does, they kind of act more like his parents than his own. My parents can be a little emotionless, so can I which he finds frustrating. I have only met his mum 4 times in 11 years, she's okay and I feel rather indifferent to her. My husband doesn't want her in his life and I respect that.

 

[tskiry56]

My partner likes my mum and my mum likes him. She sees how different he treats me compared to my ex who she hated for years I can’t agree more with her as he repulses me now. I can’t believe how brainwashed i was by him.

 

[StrawberryCream]

My husband and my mum get along but they don’t agree on anything political and my mum always has to get the last word in and is such a know it all which annoys him and me to be fair I get on with his mum really well, she’s like my second mum and can phone her any time and feel I could tell her anything!

 

[Hello Kitty]

Yes, but I don't like his mum

 

[WilmaHun]

Yes, for the most part he does. He has commented that he wishes she'd have more of a sense of humour sometimes and not take "banter" to heart. I'm always told that I'm very similar to my Mum though so I'd be deeply offended if he didn't like her

 

[GossipMongoose]

He does, he probably likes her more than I do (my mother and I have a difficult relationship). He’s very patient with her, even when she doesn't deserve it.