Does your partner like your Mum?

[watermelon sugar]

So many posts & threads about MIL experiences, it made me wonder, does your partner like your Mother!?


My Mum is known for a controversial comment or two - really winds my fella up. I think he cant stand her really but pretends to like her for me. He is probably dying to say something. They have banter but it's very obvious there is tension!


How about you?

 

[Web30]

I think he does to a point. She does annoy him at times but she does me so...

He gets on really well with my dad though.

 

[cushtybert]

He gets on well with mine and all of my family. Wish I could say the same for me and his family. They’ve been rude and obnoxious from the start

 

[LittleMy]

Honestly, I’d say the same. My mum is very blunt and has no filter. I’m good at tuning her out because I’m used to it, but I sometimes think he doesn’t quite know how to take her. She nags him more than I do!

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Well my partner has never actually met my mother or father face2face primarily because the latter both live in South Africa.

However, we've had Skype and Zoom calls over the last year or so, and I think relations are fairly cordial even though my mother thinks I'm a bit of a cradle snatcher at choosing someone so young (she's 24 ffs!)

Not sure my partner's mother likes me much though. Always moaning about something or other: doesn't like my hair, doesn't like clothes, my shoes, my purse; doesn't like how tall I am; doesn't like my accent; doesn't like the way I cross my legs; doesn't like the way I hold a cup of tea; doesn't even like my car!

Make of that as you will

 

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

I think he does, or he at least tries for my sake, but I do think she drives him loopy. She’s constantly wanting pictures, shelves ect put up, and I mean, every weekend there’s something. Also when he first met her, she was quite rude to him for a long time because that’s what she’s like with new men she meets as she doesn’t trust men...

 

[Heybooboo]

Yes they give him the love he’s always wanted (and needed) from parents. We lived with them before we got our house and live close to them now which was his decision. He’s re living his childhood in a way, I know that sounds weird. His mum passed away a few years ago and my mums always been respectful and told him she won’t ever try and take her place but she is there for him whenever he needs a mum figure.

 

[Gembo]

My mum was an alcoholic and could be quite cutting. She absolutely adored my husband though I and think he was the only person I’ve ever known her not to have a bad word for. They did get on but my husband used to tell her off when she was being out of line and I could see sometimes she would be just about to say something nasty and think better of it because he was in the room. I think he was the only person who could say anything that she would listen to. The whole situation caused us a lot of stress though and put a huge strain on our marriage at times but he put up with it all and made an effort for me because he’s a really amazing person and I’m eternally grateful.

 

[Platypusfattypus]

My parents died years before I met my husband but I think they would have gotten on, esp my dad. They have quite similar sense of humours. I always feel sad he never got to meet them. Im really lucky to have lovely in laws, I'm really close to my mother in law

 

[MrsJones83]

No

I know my mum thinks I can do better than him, and she can be quite dismissive of him.

It doesn’t bother him, but he winds her up in return, and thinks she’s stuck up. He does appreciate she does a lot for our family though.

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

He sees how much her behaviour upsets me, so he's got a very healthy attitude of being polite but distant.

 

[GossipMongoose]

He does, he probably likes her more than I do (my mother and I have a difficult relationship). He’s very patient with her, even when she doesn't deserve it.

 

[F the dust.]

Yes...and I'm not just saying it cos she's a fellow tattler

 

[HoGi]

Yup they get on like a house on fire. We joke if we were to split up she would keep him and never speak to me again

Like someone else said, I think its because she gives him the love and attention he doesn't get from his own mum

 

[F the dust.]

I think my parents have been better parent's to my hubby than his own! He's from a huge family and he is one of 10...my kids barely know them and although they live about a mile away never visit...birthday cards are either delivered via an auntie at 8pm on the day or my husband has to collect them. It's sad cos he's a good man and a fantastic dad to our 4!

 

[Causewaygal]

No he doesn’t like her ... but then neither do I

 

[Renegadedancer]

He likes my mother , but I can’t stand his mother!

 

[Tilly3]

My husband adored my late Mum and it was reciprocated, she thought the world of him, more than me I often thought!! She was a beautiful soul, very kind and extremely loving. She didn’t drink much but when she did ( 2 G&T tops) she was soo funny and she used to hug the life out of him and tell him he was her Son not son in law, funny that she never did that with my sisters hubby though, but then he’s a miserable twit!!
We miss her so much

 

[Itsallaboutmememe]

He‘ll never meet them–if he does then it’ll be over my cold dead body

shes a narc and my father her flying monkey

i just can’t be doing with the stress so they will never meet

he’ll never meet any of my family and I’m at peace with that

i bloody adore his family tho

 

[under the ivy]

My ex never liked mine because she says it how it is and is blunt - like mother like daughter She has a heart of gold though and always made an effort around him.