Does anyone else dread going out?

[cococookie]

I was out every weekend in my early 20’s, I loved it. Even went out once whilst it was snowing, nothing would stop me going out on a Saturday night

29 now, I have two children. I have no interest in going out these days, don’t even miss it.

 

[Melissa25xo]

I could of wrote this myself! Going out out bores me to tears finding something to wear, waiting ages for a taxi home, doing rounds. I had a baby 2 years ago and id much rather be with him, or have a bath, Netflix and an early night.

 

[eyes wide shut]

I’m aware that I sound really boring here

I spent pretty much all of my twenties going out, 3 times a week, partying, girls holidays and weekends away etc.

But since I’ve had my children (both currently under 5) I just can’t be arsed. In fact, I dread it. I hardly ever go out to be fair but I’ve got a night out coming up and my friends have roped me into going to a festival in the summer and I can’t think of anything worse.

Just wondered if I’m the only boring one out here?

No you are not the only one. I dread going out mostly because the majority of people out there are plain idiots. Since the pandemic have have become worse about going out not because I’m afraid of catching covid and stay home bathing in dettol all day it’s just during lockdown I became comfortable at home and my surroundings and close ones I don’t want to lose that now. I don’t want to go back to normal as I liked that normal. Hard to explain it’s not social anxiety it’s just I simply don’t want to be there amongst it all.

 

[Mgman1965]

Maybe it's different for men, but I'm 56 and still love a party and going out and travelling.

Not so keen anymore about drinking myself into oblivion, as got older, have realised you don't need to be drunk to have fun.

 

[Ellelalala]

If I’m honest…. I don’t think lockdown helped much. I think I’ve become a virtual recluse anyone else?

Lockdowns have definitely not helped. I had my youngest a few months before everything went crazy so it basically hit right as I was ready to resume a more normal life post partum. And now I think I've just become accustomed to not socializing very often in person.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Definitely!! I’ve always been a home bird even before my son… unless it’s with my boyfriend every now and again for a meal or something but I’d rather do that during the day than the evening. I much prefer being in at night with a takeaway or just some snacks.

 

[miamae]

No I am exactly the same. I had my youngest at 16 and was on my own for years so I never got to really experience the party scene. I'm only 23 now but i'm a mum of (nearly) 3 and still have no desire to go out and get drunk etc, give me some good food in a restaurant and a few drinks and then I'll happily go home and be tucked up in bed by 10 I'm such an old soul at heart

 

[Ellelalala]

I have two under 5 as well and feel much the same. I'm hoping that that'll change as the youngest gains more independence. I think I'm just touched out and have so little time for myself currently that any extra effort feels unappealing.

 

[Rosie glow]

I'm a total home bird, I don't drink or smoke so never been on to pubs clubs etc. I'm quite happy staying in.

 

[Kim Mild]

When I read the thread title I thought it was about people with agoraphobic tendencies
I don't dread going out out , I just think it seems like too much hassle, then there's all the consequences after like dealing with the kids the next day and lack of sleep etc. I don't go out anyway.

Since lockdown, I find going out during the day quite an upheaval. It takes ages to get the kids sorted and out the house. Especially in the car by the time they are strapped in .

If I'm not out with the kids , I'm out with the dog . I find that a chore most of the time tbh . I do have to keep a close eye on the dog's behaviour, especially if there are other dogs about. Occasionally, I find a dog walk enjoyable, which surprises me these days. We tend to walk local ( there are some nice places to walk) , I don't have time to go to a destination to walk.

I'm hardly ever out on my own . I find it overwhelming when I'm child free , I don't know what to do with myself and I think of too much to do in too little time .

 

[LittleB]

Feeling slightly relieved it’s not just me seriously though I hate the hassle of trying to find an outfit, and then to spend the whole time pretending I’m enjoying myself. And don’t even get me started on having to dance on a night out literally can’t think of anything worse!

 

[LittleB]

Also, does anyone else do that thing where you get your hopes up that the night out is coming to an end but then someone in the group suggests moving on to another venue

 

[candyland_]

I cba but I enjoy it once I’m out.

 

[sh1tsandgiggles]

Lockdowns have definitely not helped. I had my youngest a few months before everything went crazy so it basically hit right as I was ready to resume a more normal life post partum. And now I think I've just become accustomed to not socializing very often in person.

No way! Me too! My LO was just turning 8 months when it hit!

 

[rainbowlemon]

I’ve been out to clubs around seven times in total in my twenties. It’s not just me- I’d find the music too loud, hated being seen as meat and just want to go home by 12 instead of staying out dancing all night. I’d go just because I wanted to spend time with my friends.

Just be honest and say no if you don’t want to go.

 

[1001 others]

I don't like going anywhere - even to the supermarket or hardware store feels like a challenge nowadays!

 

[derbyshiregirl]

I feel you! I’m the same since having a baby, it’s a great excuse to stay in lol. I’ve also got a night out in a few weeks and am already hoping it gets cancelled xx

 

[mcfeez]

Sometimes I dread it but my friends and I go out so rarely now its always really fun when we do so I do look forward to it.

My husband and I love to go out just the 2 of us, usually for food and then the bar after and then home quite late - tbh those are some of the best nights now.

 

[mixusmaxus]

I’ve never been interested in going Out Out. Don’t think I’ve even been to a proper nightclub! It’s just not my scene. Happier in a museum or art gallery. They have wine too. Often for free

 

[cuncuncuncucncnncncnc]

I am 20 and when I was 18,19 I used to literally love going out especially clubs, I used to literally go every weekend and beg people to come out with me. and recently im the same I don't have kids like your self and I don't really have a reason to feel this way ive just lost all appeal to drinking id rather work and get my money up, I think as you get older the appeal to go out and drink dies down and suddenly it doesn't feel as appealing. plus I hate being hungover so I couldn't think if anything worse haha