Does anyone else dread going out?

[LittleB]

I’m aware that I sound really boring here

I spent pretty much all of my twenties going out, 3 times a week, partying, girls holidays and weekends away etc.

But since I’ve had my children (both currently under 5) I just can’t be arsed. In fact, I dread it. I hardly ever go out to be fair but I’ve got a night out coming up and my friends have roped me into going to a festival in the summer and I can’t think of anything worse.

Just wondered if I’m the only boring one out here?

 

[Blonde_moment]

The older I get, the more I enjoy staying in and generally just spending time alone. If I do go out with friends, a nice lunch is enough for me. All day drinking sessions etc are just too much effort and I don’t really enjoy them.

 

[derbyshiregirl]

I feel you! I’m the same since having a baby, it’s a great excuse to stay in lol. I’ve also got a night out in a few weeks and am already hoping it gets cancelled xx

 

[Bereb45]

I didn’t ever get into going out drinking as such. But when I did go out I’d make such a fool of myself as I was such a lightweight. I’d much rather go out in the day, preferably for food!
I regret never being able to build a friendship circle but i’m happy with my somewhat boring life. This quiet life suits the introverted me to a T. x

 

[bubbadabut]

Fully paid-up member of the "Antisocial Social Club" here!

I have 4 kids and it's a nightmare getting anyone to look after them. When we do, I just spend the whole time fretting that they are wrecking the other person's house. I love going out shopping on my own though. That's my solace.

 

[LittleMy]

Yep. 33 yo here, two young children. Always been an introvert but I enjoy my own space and have come to embrace it more as I’ve grown older and friendships have drifted/people are busy with their own lives. I don’t often get any time without my sons and even when I do, the last thing I want is to get dolled up and go out drinking. I’d sooner catch up on things that need doing and relax in the comfort of my own home. My children can be so noisy and full on that I really need the moments of peace and quiet to keep me sane (both are on the spectrum).

 

[Couldlifeeverbesaneagain]

Tbh I don't enjoy is as much I used to. Always feels like other people are getting on my nerves and I can't relax. I like personal space, I like being able to hear my friends speak and I like not feeling like I've wasted money. I'm 31 and feel like I've become a right grumpy b. No kids but married and used to love going out out but now I cba and see it as a chore on the days i do go out. Not sure if this is a phase or if I'm just more mature now.

 

[Milktray]

I hate it now. I did it all in my youth and I've now retired from party days. Seriously though, Im only in my 40s but I absolutely hate anything social.
Its all too much effort and the negatives of a night out, outweigh the positives.

 

[cuncuncuncucncnncncnc]

I am 20 and when I was 18,19 I used to literally love going out especially clubs, I used to literally go every weekend and beg people to come out with me. and recently im the same I don't have kids like your self and I don't really have a reason to feel this way ive just lost all appeal to drinking id rather work and get my money up, I think as you get older the appeal to go out and drink dies down and suddenly it doesn't feel as appealing. plus I hate being hungover so I couldn't think if anything worse haha

 

[masterone]

Certified introvert. 3 kids 1 in his teens middle one about hit her teens and a 5 year old. I hate going out. I find myself talking each person into it only when it's totally necessary to venture out of the house, it's so not worth the effort. Love to stay in, lockdowns were great for me as I didn't have to make excuses to avoid going out with family and friends. My biggest peeve is the drama that comes along with days out, end up going with extended family and it's just so exhausting.

 

[Ellelalala]

I have two under 5 as well and feel much the same. I'm hoping that that'll change as the youngest gains more independence. I think I'm just touched out and have so little time for myself currently that any extra effort feels unappealing.

 

[sh1tsandgiggles]

Hi everyone, I think I’ve found “my people”

im 39yo, I used to go out soooooooo much when I was younger, all the London clubs, local clubs, my ex bf‘s dad owned a party restaurant in a large town and so free drinks, food and fun all the way. Fast forward to now, I have a lovely blended home we share 2 kids, (2 teenagers) 1 toddler and I HATE GOING OUT! As others have said above, a nice lunch out is enough for me, I love that.

If I’m honest…. I don’t think lockdown helped much. I think I’ve become a virtual recluse anyone else?

 

[Ellelalala]

If I’m honest…. I don’t think lockdown helped much. I think I’ve become a virtual recluse anyone else?

Lockdowns have definitely not helped. I had my youngest a few months before everything went crazy so it basically hit right as I was ready to resume a more normal life post partum. And now I think I've just become accustomed to not socializing very often in person.

 

[sh1tsandgiggles]

Lockdowns have definitely not helped. I had my youngest a few months before everything went crazy so it basically hit right as I was ready to resume a more normal life post partum. And now I think I've just become accustomed to not socializing very often in person.

No way! Me too! My LO was just turning 8 months when it hit!

 

[SophSpinsSillyStories]

Lockdown has compounded this for me. I have two under three so I’ve barely been out since 2018. We went out on Friday for the first time in forever, the next morning two of our friends texted to say they’d just had positive lateral flows - so this week has been stressful, we’re doing lateral flows every morning in the hope that we can still host my little boy’s birthday party at the weekend (his first ever party as he’s had lockdown birthdays). I question whether it was worth going out at all!

 

[cuncuncuncucncnncncnc]

Lockdown has compounded this for me. I have two under three so I’ve barely been out since 2018. We went out on Friday for the first time in forever, the next morning two of our friends texted to say they’d just had positive lateral flows - so this week has been stressful, we’re doing lateral flows every morning in the hope that we can still host my little boy’s birthday party at the weekend (his first ever party as he’s had lockdown birthdays). I question whether it was worth going out at all!

I feel you! beginning of 2020 I was petrified of leaving my house, then in 2021 when we was allowed and this year I started thinking life is too short and just went out, but then evrytime id meet someone it seemed the next day they let me know they've got covid! which I was pissed off but weirdly enough each time even though I was around them all night or day I never got it off them! the one time I actually got it was when I was actually going nowhere so its very strange but I hope that gives you some hope and eases your mind that you won't get it !

 

[Ellelalala]

No way! Me too! My LO was just turning 8 months when it hit!

Awww, mine was four months. It's weird. She's not a Covid baby, as in born during the thick of things, but her whole entire life has basically been affected by it.

 

[LittleB]

Feeling slightly relieved it’s not just me seriously though I hate the hassle of trying to find an outfit, and then to spend the whole time pretending I’m enjoying myself. And don’t even get me started on having to dance on a night out literally can’t think of anything worse!

 

[MrsFishandChips]

I’m a proper home bird. I have to proper get in the mindset to go out now, compared to pre lockdowns where I couldn’t wait to get out the door. Think it’s a combination of feeling fully content, settling down and also not conforming to doing tit I don’t want to do anymore. I wouldn’t care if I never seen a nightclub again!

 

[eyes wide shut]

I’m aware that I sound really boring here

I spent pretty much all of my twenties going out, 3 times a week, partying, girls holidays and weekends away etc.

But since I’ve had my children (both currently under 5) I just can’t be arsed. In fact, I dread it. I hardly ever go out to be fair but I’ve got a night out coming up and my friends have roped me into going to a festival in the summer and I can’t think of anything worse.

Just wondered if I’m the only boring one out here?

No you are not the only one. I dread going out mostly because the majority of people out there are plain idiots. Since the pandemic have have become worse about going out not because I’m afraid of catching covid and stay home bathing in dettol all day it’s just during lockdown I became comfortable at home and my surroundings and close ones I don’t want to lose that now. I don’t want to go back to normal as I liked that normal. Hard to explain it’s not social anxiety it’s just I simply don’t want to be there amongst it all.