Do you believe in 'when you know, you know?' with partners?

[HanB33]

I'm going to sound off my rocker but here goes.

With my partner I knew immediately. It was just a sort of spark deep within my gut when we first locked eyes. It felt like deja vu. It was as if everything in my universe, and his, fell into place. We've been inseparable since. I have never felt anything like this. It's so natural. It feels like we've spent so many life times together and we are just meant to be. We both have the same dreams and goals within life, we are eachothers best friends.
We recently had our first child and it's the perfect little family. I feel very lucky and blessed. I can't wait to fill the house with shitty little nappy machines!

.....though maybe, just maybe we are too far off into our own little bubble and have gone loopy.

 

[OatMatchaLatte]

YES! I had the torpedo effect with two guys previously - where you become infatuated. With my now fiance, there was none of that. I felt calm, happy, secure, relaxed and excited...and there was no drama. That's how I knew.

 

[Pinkii]

For me personally yes, it was so weird. I had never had that with any guy before.

As soon as I laid eyes on him something inside me said ‘you’re going to marry that guy’ which is weird because he is not my usual type or like any other guy I had been with and most would put that down to hormones and I did find him attractive but it wasn’t a case of wanting to tear off his clothes kind of thing so have no idea what that voice was.

Worked out well though

 

[Gembo]

I think it can be different for everyone. When I met my husband I didn’t get an initial feeling of he’s the one but when we started dating it was different to any one I’d dated before, there were no mind games, we texted all the time, I never felt like I should wait so as not to appear too keen, everything was so effortless and easy and we were both open and upfront about how we felt. That was the point I knew, because he never left me in any doubt as to how he felt about me and we just always wanted to be together

 

[Pinkii]

Well your response made me wanna cry so we're going to all end up a pile of blubbering messes. I want to tell everyone about it but I get scared incase people are feeling bad about their relationship and me boasting about mine will make them feel worse.
I'm so glad nobody (yet) thinks I'm mental, ha.
I truly hope if you all haven't already, you can find the happiness I am experiencing. I wish I could share it with you all!!!

no its lovely, people need to talk more about their wonderful relationships. I feel like everyone is so cynical when it comes to love now and many single People feel like they might have to settle or get into or even those in unhappy relationships who stay. Your relationship is how it should be. You’re building a life with someone so you have to love it.

 

[Rlaw1978]

I was introduced to my now husband at 16. I didn’t even know his name but I knew I was going to marry him when I saw him. It’s going to sounds really weird but when I saw him, time slowed down and he literally glowed.
We didn’t even keep in touch or date until a good 3 years later. During that time I didn’t even think about him to be honest. But we have now been married for 20 years and have 4 kids.

 

[AbsolutelyFine]

Nah, I dont believe in it. Relationships are hard work, not in that theyre difficult, but you both have to work at it. Life throws a lot at us and its so easy to drop the ball as a couple. I'm probably too bitter after some bad relationships though

Same. I'm in awe at the confidence from some people just KNOWING they're going to marry someone. What if he's not into you?! What if they're already in a relationship? Lust at first sight is a very powerful thing and of course, sometimes these feelings do end up as long term relationships or marriages. But you can't possibly know you're going to marry someone at first sight, sorry. (Apologies if I sound bitter by the way! I'm actually the biggest romantic at heart, but one too many frogs will do that to a girl!)

I do agree with what someone said earlier, though: when it's right, it should feel easy. No games, no second guessing, just knowing you're both into each other. That must be nice.

 

[prinnygrace]

100% believe it. From the first time I met my boyfriend we were just extremely content together. He just felt like “home”. I definitely believe that you know when you’ve met “your person”.

 

[MancMum]

Yep definitely believe it in. Feel like you’ve been with them 3 years after 3 months. Don’t settle for anything less ladies

 

[HanB33]

i have been in so many relationships where I have convinced myself it's true love but looking back it was just being comfortable and loving someone through care. Not being in love.
I hate people glamourising toxic relationships, mind games etc. "Ooh its normal to have arguments!".

I have never even had a tiny argument with my current partner. I understand people have disagreements every now and then but to constantly be arguing, getting one over on eachother then relying on eachother to perk eachother up is very toxic.

You definitely have to love yourself, or be open to loving yourself before you can find something that really works for you and your other half, respectfully and honestly

 

[Carmen 6]

I'm going to sound off my rocker but here goes.

With my partner I knew immediately. It was just a sort of spark deep within my gut when we first locked eyes. It felt like deja vu. It was as if everything in my universe, and his, fell into place. We've been inseparable since. I have never felt anything like this. It's so natural. It feels like we've spent so many life times together and we are just meant to be. We both have the same dreams and goals within life, we are eachothers best friends.
We recently had our first child and it's the perfect little family. I feel very lucky and blessed. I can't wait to fill the house with shitty little nappy machines!

.....though maybe, just maybe we are too far off into our own little bubble and have gone loopy.

Made me cry....adorable.

 

[HanB33]

Made me cry....adorable.

Well your response made me wanna cry so we're going to all end up a pile of blubbering messes. I want to tell everyone about it but I get scared incase people are feeling bad about their relationship and me boasting about mine will make them feel worse.
I'm so glad nobody (yet) thinks I'm mental, ha.
I truly hope if you all haven't already, you can find the happiness I am experiencing. I wish I could share it with you all!!!

 

[MrsWolf]

I met my husband at work, he was a new manager in the business and just came to the end of his first shift as I was starting mine. I was stood at the main entrance as he walked round the corner towards me and honestly I was in awe, the first time we spoke I couldn’t get any words out and actually looked like a bumbling mess. As the cliche goes I just knew he was “the one”. I had a twat of a boyfriend at the time, so after a swift dumping.. I started getting to know my new boss! Happily married and planning a family now - I’m definitely the boss now too

 

[Kmt2019]

Yes for me. I remember when we first met and we had mutual friend who we both told, ‘can you be in love with someone after only just a week’. But we both had such an instant connection, my heart would literally jump out of my chest every time I thought of him or when I would see him. Sounds weird, but I had a very specific details of what I wanted in a partner in looks, personality, tastes, career and ambitions, and he ticked every single box and more. Sometimes I think I manifested him, because he is perfect for me and definitely my soul mate. We just had our first child and it makes my heart burst seeing my partners features in our baby. He has his dads eyes and are just so beautiful. And also seeing how much of a brilliant loving and caring dad he is. I would happily live in our little bubble forever, just us and our offspring!

 

[LaurieLaurie]

I’ve thought it twice and I was wrong both times I didn’t think I was going to marry them though but I thought they were like nothing I’ve felt before.

I’ve just started seeing someone new after lockdown and there’s definitely something about him. He says it about me too so we will see.

 

[Fenella]

Yes when I first met my husband in the flesh it was like a cliched film trope- he walked through a busy bar and it was as if the hubbub of talking went all quiet and the outer edges of my vision were blurred but he was in perfect focus as he walked through the middle of the crowd.

i may have romanticised that memory a little bit but that’s genuinely how it felt and I just knew that’s who I was going to marry, which was weird for me as I’m usually so unconfident and pessimistic!

 

[Begborrowsteal]

im definitely bitter because i just think.. who actually knows. It wont be til youre on your death bed for certain; a year from now, 10yrs from now, it could all go tits up. Enjoy your partners, work hard at it, and hopefully thats enough

 

[LaurieLaurie]

YES! I had the torpedo effect with two guys previously - where you become infatuated. With my now fiance, there was none of that. I felt calm, happy, secure, relaxed and excited...and there was no drama. That's how I knew.

This is how I feel about the men I mentioned. I’m usually infatuated from day 1 but with this one I just feel content.

 

[Fancyfeathers]

I knew I wanted to marry my partner since day 1 but he led me on for 17 years and every year we would make plans and when didn't happen the more my heart broke. I knew after 4 years it wouldn't happen but i loved him and stayed he passed away 2 years ago and i always imagined being his wife.

 

[BigBrenda]

Yeah when I was 16 I was looking through my then bfs Facebook photos he was a massive prick and I hated him but he wouldn’t leave me alone!. One day I see a photo of him with this guy who was absolutely gorgeous so I messaged him and said are you single? He said yes. I’m now 26 have three kids with him and married he is my soulmate my absolute best friend he would do anything and everything for me. He’s done more a less all night feeds for our babies. Cooks all the time helps me raise the kids and tidies. He’s just amazing. He works hard he treats me like a princess. Everyone always laughs when I say it but when I see his pic I knew he was the one . From the first day I messaged him we’ve never ever gone a day without speaking or nothing. I love him to bits.