I’ve heard women say things like this (that they miss it etc) I’m sure these are the kind of people who just don’t know how to get validation in any other way than from other people, being catcalled or having you bum pinched or whatever is a compliment no matter who’s giving it.
I had an awful experience with a man and a much older woman said she could see why it happened to me because of how I looked in comparison to another woman who was going through something similar and the same older woman said that the other woman must have been lying because she wasn’t attractive enough (to be sexually assaulted)
BIB - This sort of comment sickens me.
grape etc isn't about sex. Many of these men are rich enough and powerful enough to get sex anytime they wanted and off very beautiful young women. Others are in relationships where they have an active sex life.
This abuse is about power, control, misogyny and the thrill they get from forcing themselves on someone who doesn't want anything to do with them, who is frightened of them, or has even trusted them, and is too young or powerless, or vulnerable, or "plain" to be taken seriously if they try to complain.
I had an argument with someone on Tuesday who was saying the girls brought it on themselves by going with these men in the first place. NO! They were young, trusting, star-struck, possibly foolish - but if they said "No" then it doesn't matter that they've had a drink, gone to a party, accepted a hug - they have NOT agreed to sex. And a bloke might be disappointed, annoyed, even frustrated, but it doesn't give him the right to
grape or abuse a woman or girl.