I was wondering if you lovely ladies could give me your views on my predicament?
I have known this guy for 10years, from my local. Used to have a laugh, but we were both married. One night he got pissed and told me he was obsessed with me Thought I was gorgeous but obviously both being married nothing could happen.
My marriage wasn't great,, husband is quite emotionally abusive.
He got divorced about 7 years ago, I left my husband a few years back but then stupidly gave him a second chance as he promised things would change.
They didn't and I have now told my husband we need to divorce but it's going to be hard sorting out finances etc
So I bumped into this guy a few weeks ago, got chatting. He has a girlfriend now but told me she isn't the one (I know don't flame me)
He started messaging me, just general chat that then got quite flirty, then very dirty! We FaceTimed and had what I guess you would call virtual sex. He has the most amazing body and is very very sexy. Told me he wanted to hold and kiss and make love to me. That he had never cheated on his girlfriend but he always had a thing for me and couldn't believe his luck that I was now available. He said he would sort things out so we could meet up.
He is quite fragile as he nursed his dying mum a few years back and when she passed it did mess him up a lot.
So I messaged him the other day. He replied that this was wrong, he had to respect his girlfriend and he needed to block me.
I just don't understand?? I feel quite upset by it all. I know it's probably for the best as I have a divorce to sort out but it was such a good feeling being wanted by someone and I feel slightly heartbroken.
So you need to separate some of these things out - looking at them all at once will probably overwhelm the sanest person.
This man: well honestly, I think you know he’s a chancer and maybe the lovable rogue character. You were flattered by his attention years ago but were sensible not to pursue it. He caught you at a vulnerable time, and now it seems he’s satisfied his curiosity and I would imagine knows he has you on the hook suddenly his gf is really important to respect.
I don’t need to tell you that having any involvement with someone in a relationship puts you on shaky ground. Whatever you’re told about the relationship is what you choose to believe when you like/fancy/fall for someone. I know because I wasted 4 years of my life on a man who told me his relationship was over. You have to look at the actions not the words - if the gf is still in the picture it’s because he still wants to be in a relationship with her.
The fact he stated he never cheated on her seems to be an unnecessary detail. I would imagine this is not his first rodeo and it’s likely not only has he cheated on his gf but that it was probably done to his wife as well. I’m not saying that to make you feel bad - he’s clearly a bit of a manipulator: he’s already got you making excuses for him - his mother’s death although sad has nothing to do with him cheating on his gf and leading you on.
As you said you have a lot on your plate with your divorce and getting involved with someone else may not be good timing for that being processed smoothly. If your ex got wind of it might it impact on how assets are divided?
I would try and take what happened with the FaceTime guy as a sexual release and an ego boost and leave it as that. Perhaps you’ve been worn down by your husband and made to feel undesirable, but this proves that is far from the case. Just don’t waste your time moving forwards on cheating men with empty promises. You deserve more.
I told him he could make it up to me by never contacting me again.
then actual clips from porn videos. In the middle of the night when she was asleep and not reciprocated at all. So she woke up to all of this and didn't really know what was going on. He laughed it off and said he was horny and sent ANOTHER photo of his cock, like what?!
