So this one is a curious and controversial one for me....I should start by saying I don’t have any children so I’m going off by what I have witnessed from others. My best friend had two children with her ex. They had an on-off relationship because he has a history of violence and drug use and even stole from her and her children. When she left him, he then took her to court over access because he wanted more access and the court settled in his favour! To this day, I still don’t see how a court can grant extra access to someone like that. On the flip side, I know someone who was together with their ex for 15 years and married for 10 years with a small child. The ex left him and in the divorce, the ex got the house, primary custody of their child, the car, part of his income and was making him pay large sums till the CSA stepped in. The ex still has made it difficult for him to have access at times and has at times, pursued him for money even though he pays every time through the CSA. My debate here is why do these situations appear to be resolved unfairly sometimes? I’m aware that some people abandon their child and don’t pay and that’s plainly wrong however equally, these people also seem to get away with it. Please discuss!