I’ve been waiting for a Clem thread - long post ahead sorry! I’m super torn about her - I enjoy her arguments but totally agree that she ignores nuance. I find her frustratingly condescending, as if us poor little women (whom she hasn’t deemed worthy of her feminist crown) need her to guide us. She talks down to her audience, with an approach that ignores our own autonomy, circumstances and ability to assess our own situations. It ironically reminds me of the approach that conspiracy nut jobs take, that smug “well you wouldn’t understand, you are simply blind to x and y” - as if those of us that dare to disagree with her lack critical thinking skills. I think it would be exhausting being her friend with her holier than thou approach - the whole time you’d be nervous that she might publish a public call-out or throw you under the bus.
My partner and I are educated from top universities. Shockingly, he is receptive (and has initiated discussions about) to discussions regarding the mental load, weaponised incompetence and domestic inequality - concepts that she did not invent, but seems to think she is the spokesperson for. Marriage is something we have discussed and are excited for (and no, de facto does not provide identical privileges). We complement each other, respect and love each other in a way that is different (but not less than) than that provided in a platonic friendship. Yes, I am sure my partner is a rare find but he is the nuance, the grey and genuinely improves my life - something she seems to think doesn’t exist or, more frustratingly, that he (and my beliefs about him) are a mirage, and I’m too stupid to realise that. That I need her, in her top feminist of feminism glory to show silly little me the truth - or rather her version of the truth. Honestly, sometimes I find her exhausting.
we have already spoken on the thread about how their (online) friendship basically stopped after the elopement.
