Christmas day

[peekachu]

It was never stated if the other dad was near said care home or not! Just that it was 40 mins each way for the OP

I mixed up the dads It was this comment I was thinking of, she said her husband’s dad is on the way to the care home. So it must be fairly near? Who knows!

 

[Gee_whip]

Because you say it’s ’killing You’ to drive 40 mins there and back to your dad to leave your ‘babies’ but you leave them to go to work / school for full days. Just really bizarre

I like to imagine somewhere in his care home her dad is posting on tattle right now “my selfish twit daughter and her mole husband won’t collect me to spend Christmas Day with them despite both driving and their kids being old enough to be without mummy and daddy for a couple of hours”

what do you mean your husband “won’t” collect your dad? You realise you married a fool yes?

if you hate your dad just say that.

side note- children who marry off and then completely neglect their parents really bother me one day you were his “baby” and he probably put you first, shame you’ve forgotten that

happy Christmas to all the normal people

 

[Cry me a river]

Poor dad
I would give everything to spend just a minute with mine

 

[Gee_whip]

Poor dad
I would give everything to spend just a minute with mine

Same. My dad died last year. What I’d give for just one more Christmas with him

 

[Former_Antelopee]

I mixed up the dads It was this comment I was thinking of, she said her husband’s dad is on the way to the care home. So it must be fairly near? Who knows!

I'd probably say something was on the way if I was passing by the town/village etc, I just think it would be very lucky if it's on the exact route without any diversion when it's 40mins away. Even 5mins would add an extra 20 mins overall drive for the husband when he is already driving more than 40mins each way for his own dad

 

[Tula]

Poor dad
I would give everything to spend just a minute with mine

ditto

 

[ShadesMint]

..

In an ideal world OP's husband would do the morning journey, picking up both dad's while OP stays at home with the children and preps for lunch. Then OP could take both dads back in the evening while the husband baths the kids and does bedtime. Kiddies get to stay at home all day with their new Christmas goodies, and both parents get to spend a decent amount of time with their kids and enjoy Christmas. OP wants to be told that she's not selfish for leaving her dad in his care home and not leave her (2 and 5 year old) "babies". I'm sure there is more to the situation than the drip feeds have let on, but that seems the gist of it to me.

Op has said she doesn't want to leave the kids at all, even if it's with her husband. So her husband would be doing both trips. Except he won't because he's refused to do the extra driving to pick up her dad. So she's doing it instead and taking the kids with her. After he's picked up his dad(?). Or is she picking him up too? Who knows. It all makes perfect sense..

 

[peekachu]

I'd probably say something was on the way if I was passing by the town/village etc, I just think it would be very lucky if it's on the exact route without any diversion when it's 40mins away. Even 5mins would add an extra 20 mins overall drive for the husband when he is already driving more than 40mins each way for his own dad

I think it’d still make more sense than both of them driving. OP said the care home is 40 mins away, so it sounds like the husband’s dad lives closer. He probably just can’t be arsed.

Wait... are you the husband? Planning to sneakily grab an extra slice of Yule log whilst your wife is driving, aren’t you!

 

[Welshgirl1987]

How do I close this thread ?

 

[Strawberry13]

How do I close this thread ?

Special password to close the thread,

I will tell you it if you tell us if your Dad is spending Christmas Day in the care home or not.

 

[Cry me a river]

How do I close this thread ?

Have you tried deleting it 🫢