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dancingqueen5678
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shit friends
freddiesmum09
Active member
Faux penis. Like real penis but not attached to the man that you don’t really need. You can put it back in the bedside drawer once your done, it doesn’t blackmail or gaslight you and makes you come every timeDid you substitute it with anything else?
watermelon sugar
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Shithead friends and toxic family members
bubbadabut
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Watching soaps. Never once felt like dipping back into them. I just stopped caring about the characters and the fact nobody could have a normal pregnancy/wedding. 
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freddiesmum09
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Penis
lemonlime
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Facebook and LinkedIn.
Permanently deleted them some years ago and I feel better. I couldn't give two figs about what old school acquaintance has been made executive and which person I barely know has been on the most amazing tour of south Asia. It was bringing me down and making me compare my life; deleting them meant I was free of information from people whom I'd never hear from ever again. Social media is honestly hell. I now only have a tiny insta account with like 15 people I know and like to hear from; some of my closest friends aren't even on it and even that is too much sometimes.
Permanently deleted them some years ago and I feel better. I couldn't give two figs about what old school acquaintance has been made executive and which person I barely know has been on the most amazing tour of south Asia. It was bringing me down and making me compare my life; deleting them meant I was free of information from people whom I'd never hear from ever again. Social media is honestly hell. I now only have a tiny insta account with like 15 people I know and like to hear from; some of my closest friends aren't even on it and even that is too much sometimes.
Renegadedancer
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Needy friends, following the crowd, saying yes when i didn’t want to, worrying about what others think.
elloelloello
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Smoking! I used to smoke from about 16-23 years of age, when I was pregnant with my first child I quit, haven’t touched a cigarette since! The smell of them makes me feel sick. Can’t believe I ever smoked to be honest.
Also gave up caring what other people think about me about a year ago and I haven’t looked back
Also gave up caring what other people think about me about a year ago and I haven’t looked back
Dragon100
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5 years ago I gave up diet coke and have never looked back. I was trying to cut down on my spending by taking my own lunch to work rather than popping out to buy a sandwich. I noticed a nice metal water bottle on offer when doing my food shop and decided to buy it and save on buying the 3-4 500ml bottles of diet coke I was drinking a day - more if I was driving to a pub or to a meal out.. The bottle paid for itself in a few days!! It was hard, I'm not going to lie, I went through withdrawal, the first few days I felt awful and assumed I was coming down with something, I had headaches and brain fog for about 3 weeks, and if I was not occupied I would just fall asleep. I lost count of the number of times I fell asleep on the bus home and missed my stop, I would get home prepare my lunch for the next day before sitting down as once I sat down I would be asleep and hubby would wake me and send me to bed hours later and I would struggle to get up the next day despite having 10 hours sleep - I would wake up shaky and dizzy - this, along with the tiredness, lasted months.
I will never drink diet coke again, its evil stuff.
On the plus side my bank balance has improved, I feel more healthy now, I have more energy and my blood pressure has gone down! I am now saving more money as without diet coke I have enough energy to walk to work and back, ditching the bus unless we have heavy rain.
Best thing I gave up.
I will never drink diet coke again, its evil stuff.
On the plus side my bank balance has improved, I feel more healthy now, I have more energy and my blood pressure has gone down! I am now saving more money as without diet coke I have enough energy to walk to work and back, ditching the bus unless we have heavy rain.
Best thing I gave up.
bunnyboo
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1. Apologising for my mental health - I was raised by Irish Catholic parents who see mental health problems as some sort of a self-indulgence, 'feeling sorry for yourself' etc. I'm over that attitude. It's ok to be not ok. It's ok to ask for help.
2. Smoking - OK I still have the odd cigarette, like 1 a week.. but I used to smoke 5 - 10 a day! Absolute waste of money.
3. Social media -I found Facebook to be particularly triggering.. 'friends' with people I hated, seeing people achieving posting about new homes, cars, their kids.. all stuff I can't have right now because of my mental health problems.. it was honestly making me more depressed.
4. Toxic friends and ex - I was friends with several people who used to manipulate and gaslight me, and I accepted this as normal due to being raised by a narcissistic mother. From years of therapy, I have learned to set clear boundaries and have a (reasonable) expectation that I should be treated with respect and dignity.
2. Smoking - OK I still have the odd cigarette, like 1 a week.. but I used to smoke 5 - 10 a day! Absolute waste of money.
3. Social media -I found Facebook to be particularly triggering.. 'friends' with people I hated, seeing people achieving posting about new homes, cars, their kids.. all stuff I can't have right now because of my mental health problems.. it was honestly making me more depressed.
4. Toxic friends and ex - I was friends with several people who used to manipulate and gaslight me, and I accepted this as normal due to being raised by a narcissistic mother. From years of therapy, I have learned to set clear boundaries and have a (reasonable) expectation that I should be treated with respect and dignity.
rainbowlemon
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At the moment it's therapy- not saying I didn't grow and change, but the last 8 months or so of it was just spent going around in circles and I did it for almost 4 years. It's nice not analyzing every single thing.
under the ivy
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Biting my nails
Watching soaps - I honestly can’t remember the last time I watched them, I still think Curly in is Corrie
And like a few have mentioned, bad friendships & chasing after people.
Watching soaps - I honestly can’t remember the last time I watched them, I still think Curly in is Corrie
And like a few have mentioned, bad friendships & chasing after people.
Sunlifeover50
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I’m in a situation right now where “being kind” has kicked me right back in the teeth with a neighbour. Our other neighbour handled the same situation in completely the opposite manner (called the police and basically told this woman to F off) and is having absolutely none of the problems we’re having with her now.
massive learning curve. I now see why so many women of a certain age appear “grumpy”. They’re not bloody grumpy they’re just experienced enough to sniff out BS a mile off.
