Your boyfriend just sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. I'd be showing him the door and that would be that. I know that's easier said than done but for me his whole attitude stinks and that isn't someone I'd be looking to build a future with. That poor child sounds like it has a dad who couldn't care less if said child existed and that's really sad to me, this is coming from someone who hasn't got kids and doesn't want any in the immediate future. If I were you I'd walk away. I really hope that child has at least got other loving family members around rather than the mum and dad who both seem useless.