Being harassed

[Agent Cooper]

I’m quite sure you can change your number without losing your contacts and messages. Don’t answer his calls or texts, don’t communicate with him and he will eventually get bored of it. He probably wants closure so trying to talk to him will only fuel his obsession. So sorry you have to go through this, sounds so scary and unpleasant x

 

[lurkingaround123]

Keep a log of every contact he has with you, write it down and if he makes threats, make sure you have screenshots and records of them

Good that you’ve changed your number, have you had any calls/contact since you changed it?

Honestly what a freak

No calls as it stands. I’m still a bit worried at the thought of him coming to find me or finding my number which might be irrational but will probably ease in time

I’m just thinking about the next time he calls and gets ‘the number you have called has not been recognised’ hoping it doesn’t send him in to some blind rage.

 

[Snippysnips]

Thank you everyone, I have changed my number and everything has stayed on my phone how I wanted it to. I want to go to the police but for some reason a chunk of the malicious calls are missing on my phone history. I have a mate who works for Apple who I've asked if theres a way to get them back, if there is I will pass the information on to the police again.

Your phone provider should be able to get a history of calls an maybe even deleted texts, I'd definitely contact them as well, they might even be able to help you with information the police may need an advice you on things

 

[lurkingaround123]

Don’t put any information about your upcoming trip to London on social media, don’t tag yourself in places. Keep it private. He’s only going to know you are there if you provide the information.

True, I don't really use social media as it is, I need to keep telling myself of the millions of people in London, it is unlikely I'd bump in to him, and he is very unlikely to be doing the things we have planned for our trip or anywhere near the places we are going

 

[lurkingaround123]

Omg this has happened to me too and I’m genuinely wondering if it’s the same person from what you’ve described I’m so sorry your going through this, he sounds obsessed

a young lad who lives right in the centre of London, no real education, flits round from job to job, first name begins with A

it’s absolutely insane, I’m sure we’ve all been there where things have ended when we didn’t expect and it doesn’t feel nice but go out with your mates, treat yourself, work on you then come back better

 

[lurkingaround123]

Your phone provider should be able to get a history of calls an maybe even deleted texts, I'd definitely contact them as well, they might even be able to help you with information the police may need an advice you on things

I gave my provider a ring just before and they said they can't give me a log of all my incoming calls but they can give it to the police, makes no sense really does it but such is the UK justice system. I rang the police and told them the previous crime reference number, said its been happening again but I can't provide them evidence due to the above reason and she said I'll get a call back to discuss with an officer.

My bf and I are going to London quite soon, and I have been a few times since the stalking started, I know its a big place and we're very unlikely to see this maniac but at the same time it feels weird to be going right by there.

 

[Scorpihoe]

Keep a log of every contact he has with you, write it down and if he makes threats, make sure you have screenshots and records of them

Good that you’ve changed your number, have you had any calls/contact since you changed it?

Honestly what a freak