In May last year, I met a guy in a swimming pool in a hotel I was staying in. I was single, just been ghosted by the guy I was dating so I thought why not have a bit of fun whilst I'm here. We ended up speaking daily, visiting each other every few weeks and it was fun and casual at the time, I was still using dating apps. We were two polar opposites of each other, which I was fully aware of and then after we'd met up about 5 times, we were texting one day in September and I just had an epiphany and realised this wasn't what I wanted. I tried to politely tell him I was no longer interested in seeing him. This ended up with him going insane at me down the phone, not taking no for an answer and going round and round in circles about making it work, I need to stop making problems, I do this that and the other bad stuff so its evened out now and lets carry on seeing each other. I was on holiday whilst this was all happening so I politely and sternly told him I have said how I feel, accept it and leave me alone now because it was ruining my trip. I blocked his number, then I started receiving a bombardment of no caller id phone calls. I answered and said just stop it now because I am on holiday, I will unblock you, text whatever it is you want to say and then leave me alone. I got this big novel sent over full of the exact same drivel from the day before. I replied and told him what I said still stands and blocked him.
When I first got home from holiday I was getting around 50 no caller id calls a day from him, sometimes more sometimes less. He'd do it at 16:10 because he knew I finished work then, and would carry on in to the evening. This carried on for about 4/5 weeks I think. I tried doing the thing where you block unknown numbers from being able to call you, but it was blocking other important calls from companies which I needed to answer so it wasn't feasible. I called the police which took a lot because I have had bad experiences in the past with them, and got laughed at on the phone, and told 'if it is no caller id how do you know its him' so I put it down. They called back and took some information, and they had him on file for another crime I knew he had dodgy things going on, hence why I wasn't interested in him. I reported it all, but there wasn't enough evidence to do anything really, so it'd be my word against his, but more importantly it would put me in danger and really isn't an option.
So the first wave of calls happened from Oct-Nov. He took a couple of weeks off, then I started getting loads of no caller id calls around Christmastime, which I ignored completely. (In the meanwhile I met someone and we became official in January) In late January I got another set of no caller id calls, I decided to call him back and said stop contacting this number. He was saying 'how have you been, I've done xyz to better myself, can we get back to how we were, I will always be here for you' I just said I am fine, don't contact me ever again, delete my number and you need to move on. I told him his lack of respect for me and my boundaries is disgusting. My tone was sharp I was really not doing anything to make him feel like he should try again, he agreed to piss off.
I sporadically get no caller id calls, usually at the weekend and I don't usually answer.
I got a no caller id call AGAIN yesterday whilst me and my boyfriend were in the supermarket and answered it. It was him again. He was saying are you free to talk and I was saying sternly what do you want. We both said that at each other on repeat and because I wasn't cooperating with him he said 'aah I'm not gonna try and talk to you when you're like this' and put the phone down. In my opinion insinuating he's gonna try and call me again.
My bf knows about him and what he does, but I don't think he knows I have a boyfriend, unless he's found a way to check my Instagram (he's blocked there too) but I hardly post anything so I'm not usually someone you'd find out a lot about on Insta. He's clearly someone who has no respect for women, so I am wondering is it worth unblocking him, sending a text and saying 'I am in a relationship now, it is time for you to move on and delete this number' or something along those lines because men like that respect the man who they've never met a lot more than they ever do the woman. Or will that cause more drama, do I even have anything to lose at this point?
Ideally I don't want to change my number because I have lost 2 close relatives over the past few years and I don't want to wipe them from my phone really, I can't contact the police because it will put me in danger.
I know its a bit ridiculous asking for advice but ruling out the two best options, but has anyone else ever experienced anything like this? What would you do in this situation? Is telling him I'm with someone now going to help. I have no idea I'm just at a complete loss. I don't ever think about him, until the calls come through so the fact he's sat there obsessing over me constantly is so weird and depressing
When I first got home from holiday I was getting around 50 no caller id calls a day from him, sometimes more sometimes less. He'd do it at 16:10 because he knew I finished work then, and would carry on in to the evening. This carried on for about 4/5 weeks I think. I tried doing the thing where you block unknown numbers from being able to call you, but it was blocking other important calls from companies which I needed to answer so it wasn't feasible. I called the police which took a lot because I have had bad experiences in the past with them, and got laughed at on the phone, and told 'if it is no caller id how do you know its him' so I put it down. They called back and took some information, and they had him on file for another crime I knew he had dodgy things going on, hence why I wasn't interested in him. I reported it all, but there wasn't enough evidence to do anything really, so it'd be my word against his, but more importantly it would put me in danger and really isn't an option.
So the first wave of calls happened from Oct-Nov. He took a couple of weeks off, then I started getting loads of no caller id calls around Christmastime, which I ignored completely. (In the meanwhile I met someone and we became official in January) In late January I got another set of no caller id calls, I decided to call him back and said stop contacting this number. He was saying 'how have you been, I've done xyz to better myself, can we get back to how we were, I will always be here for you' I just said I am fine, don't contact me ever again, delete my number and you need to move on. I told him his lack of respect for me and my boundaries is disgusting. My tone was sharp I was really not doing anything to make him feel like he should try again, he agreed to piss off.
I sporadically get no caller id calls, usually at the weekend and I don't usually answer.
I got a no caller id call AGAIN yesterday whilst me and my boyfriend were in the supermarket and answered it. It was him again. He was saying are you free to talk and I was saying sternly what do you want. We both said that at each other on repeat and because I wasn't cooperating with him he said 'aah I'm not gonna try and talk to you when you're like this' and put the phone down. In my opinion insinuating he's gonna try and call me again.
My bf knows about him and what he does, but I don't think he knows I have a boyfriend, unless he's found a way to check my Instagram (he's blocked there too) but I hardly post anything so I'm not usually someone you'd find out a lot about on Insta. He's clearly someone who has no respect for women, so I am wondering is it worth unblocking him, sending a text and saying 'I am in a relationship now, it is time for you to move on and delete this number' or something along those lines because men like that respect the man who they've never met a lot more than they ever do the woman. Or will that cause more drama, do I even have anything to lose at this point?
Ideally I don't want to change my number because I have lost 2 close relatives over the past few years and I don't want to wipe them from my phone really, I can't contact the police because it will put me in danger.
I know its a bit ridiculous asking for advice but ruling out the two best options, but has anyone else ever experienced anything like this? What would you do in this situation? Is telling him I'm with someone now going to help. I have no idea I'm just at a complete loss. I don't ever think about him, until the calls come through so the fact he's sat there obsessing over me constantly is so weird and depressing