Bad Parent Stories

[LittleMy]

As requested. Come and share your experiences of the crappy things your parents have ever done to you.

I have a few, ranging from quite serious to pretty funny. We have a strange relationship; love each other but aren’t that close. If I have an issue, I don’t go running to her. I’m closer to my grandmother. My mum and I are total opposites and we clash over stuff. The worst thing she ever done to me is large-shamed me growing up. It has caused me to have a lot of issues with my weight. She doesn’t mince her words, put it that way. We’ve had it out though, so she knows how it affected me and she has tried to make amends since. And she is a good grandmother who dotes on my kids and would help me if I ever did ask.

She also has a bit of a twisted sense of humour and liked play pranks on us and scare us as little kids. One time when we were quite young, she pretended she found a shoebox in one of the cupboards (we lived in a horrible old tenement block at the time) and told us a creepy story about an old woman who used to live in the house before us and about how she had been killed but they never found her body. Then she had us open the shoebox and there was her finger covered in tomato sauce poking up from the bottom of it. My brother and I cried so much.

Honestly it’s a wonder we don’t dislike her.

 

[LaurieLaurie]

I can only think of the year they didn’t get me a Christmas present which is really petty but it upset me at the time. Me and my siblings are all adults but they got a pile of presents to open at my parents and I didn’t get one thing. Fair enough. What hurt was my siblings and my dad asking me all day what I got. Errrr nothing.

 

[LittleMy]

I can only think of the year they didn’t get me a Christmas present which is really petty but it upset me at the time. Me and my siblings are all adults but they got a pile of presents to open at my parents and I didn’t get one thing. Fair enough. What hurt was my siblings and my dad asking me all day what I got. Errrr nothing.

Wow, that is seriously not cool. Did they ever explain why?

 

[LaurieLaurie]

Wow, that is seriously not cool. Did they ever explain why?

No but to be fair I never asked.

 

[Louisej3]

Bio mom (adopted)
Where do i start
Used drugs and drank while pregnant with me (have heart issues and kidney issue)
Abused me gave me a brain injury (I've got a small learning disorder)
Tried to run away with me x2 (didn't get further than the bus station in town both times)
Tried to kill me with a knife and locked me in a house that she later set on fire (i suffered bad burns to my arms, end up in mental heath facility, more drugs, had 6 more kids (8 in total), lost every kid, more drugs, begs for money off elderly people, marrying a pedofile who messaged me asking for sex saying he will pay me i don't need her or want her in my life
I suffer with ptsd, panic attacks and i have horrendous flashbacks but it's getting better haven't spoke to her in 12 years
Adopted mum is amazing I've had many wonderful years with her plus she started off fostering me

 

[LittleMy]

Bio mom (adopted)
Where do i start
Used drugs and drank while pregnant with me (have heart issues and kidney issue)
Abused me gave me a brain injury (I've got a small learning disorder)
Tried to run away with me x2 (didn't get further than the bus station in town both times)
Tried to kill me with a knife and locked me in a house that she later set on fire (i suffered bad burns to my arms, end up in mental heath facility, more drugs, had 6 more kids (8 in total), lost every kid, more drugs, begs for money off elderly people, marrying a pedofile who messaged me asking for sex saying he will pay me i don't need her or want her in my life
I suffer with ptsd, panic attacks and i have horrendous flashbacks but it's getting better haven't spoke to her in 12 years
Adopted mum is amazing I've had many wonderful years with her plus she started off fostering me

Oh god, I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure all that, it must’ve been awful. I’m glad you’ve went on to have a happier life with your adopted family and are getting the love and care you should’ve had right from the start. *hugs to you*

 

[Princesspinky]

My mum over fed me , sounds funny but it's not it's led to a lifetime of struggling with my weight .
She was a single mum , my dad took his own life when ones two so I get why she was like she was. She basically did what was easiest for her which wasn't always he best thing for me ..... She would give in to my every demand , she would feed me whatever I wanted , give me days off school as I didn't like it , and reward any good behaviour with food treats . It resulted in me being overweight my entire childhood , being bullied , having anxiety and panick attacks , refusing to leave the house for 6 months . I went totally off the rails as a teenager , didn't go to school , made some crappy mistakes
But I've come out the other side of that , and I definitely am not repeating the same mistakes with my son .
I'm in no doubt all my mum did was out of love and being in a horrible situation , I love her to pieces and talk to her every day.

 

[Influenced]

Bio mom (adopted)
Where do i start
Used drugs and drank while pregnant with me (have heart issues and kidney issue)
Abused me gave me a brain injury (I've got a small learning disorder)
Tried to run away with me x2 (didn't get further than the bus station in town both times)
Tried to kill me with a knife and locked me in a house that she later set on fire (i suffered bad burns to my arms, end up in mental heath facility, more drugs, had 6 more kids (8 in total), lost every kid, more drugs, begs for money off elderly people, marrying a pedofile who messaged me asking for sex saying he will pay me i don't need her or want her in my life
I suffer with ptsd, panic attacks and i have horrendous flashbacks but it's getting better haven't spoke to her in 12 years
Adopted mum is amazing I've had many wonderful years with her plus she started off fostering me

So sorry to read this and that you had to go through it. Glad to hear you are moving on with your life and have a wonderful adopted Mom

 

[Bec3007]

Has 3 children. I’m youngest with a different dad. When I was born she handed me and my older siblings to my gran (dads mum). My grandparents raised all 3 of us while my mum claimed all the benefits for us, moved house yearly with 3 bedrooms each time, got maintenance money from the older 2’s dad to name a few. She only ‘cared’ about us when she was drunk. She used to call my gran and threaten us with care etc. Before all this though I used to stay there sometimes. I remember being 4, my older siblings were at school and she didn’t give me any food or drink, she slept all day. I remember trying to open a sweet and she woke up, took it from me, shouted in my face and went back to sleep. Another time I was 5 and at school. She made me cross one of the busiest roads in town alone and then locked me out. She lived in a flat at this point so I had to buzz up, she never answered. So I buzzed another house and then sat outside the door until it got dark waiting on her. She allowed my brother and sister to see their dad but I was never allowed to see mines and if I did, it was never alone (no reason btw, he’s not a danger). Now I don’t have a relationship with my dad because of this and I don’t think I’ll ever have one now, it’s just too awkward. As for my ‘mum’ I thought I’d give her a chance when my son was born, for him to have a nana and she messed that up quickly too. I refuse to allow her to treat my son the way she treated me. I wouldn’t piss on her if she were on fire. I have no love for that woman, I don’t call her mum and I never will. She’s toxic. I’ll be forever thankful for my grandparents, they were my rock. As for me I suffer some mental health issues now but my main focus is making sure I never ever treat my own kids that way and I’d say I’m doing a great job at being a mum considering I never had one. I guess I learnt from the best - my grandparents.

 

[Cli]

I can only think of the year they didn’t get me a Christmas present which is really petty but it upset me at the time. Me and my siblings are all adults but they got a pile of presents to open at my parents and I didn’t get one thing. Fair enough. What hurt was my siblings and my dad asking me all day what I got. Errrr nothing.

I can only think of the year they didn’t get me a Christmas present which is really petty but it upset me at the time. Me and my siblings are all adults but they got a pile of presents to open at my parents and I didn’t get one thing. Fair enough. What hurt was my siblings and my dad asking me all day what I got. Errrr nothing.

this has also happened to me this year

 

[Itsallaboutmememe]

My mother once burnt all my stuff When I was about 14
all my clothes
shoes
make up
bedding
random stuff like my books and radio
school books
school bag
photos etc

I had my bed left

i worked for it all-she didn’t buy any of it

my crime?

my room was a bit untidy

and still to this day she laughs about it like it’s a funny story and people either laugh or look at her in horror

I’m nc with her now-and the narc cow can’t see why-it’s not the worst but was the first thing that came to mind

 

[Skyeball]

My mum and dad never did anything horrific, I'm very lucky.
They did have a clear favourite though, and it wasn't me. I'd say that changed when my Grandparents passed away, because I'm more emotionally available and reliable than my siblings..but I am that way because of my Grandparents who I idolised.
I'm intensely into not having a favourite with my own kids. I honestly don't have one, all of them are completely different people & I appreciate those differences. I'm very vocal about that and very huggy and kissy, I say I love you every day. (I wasn't allowed a hug after I turned 10 because I had to be grown up and not ask for baby ish things)
I'm sure I make my kids cringe at times. Tough. I grew you, get loved and like it

 

[Lynseyp]

I have a sibling and I do alot for my parents as anyone would however my (older) sibling does buggar all. She doesn't bother with birthday cards or presents for them but she gets them in return. My folks would drop everything to go and help her where she lives 300 miles away however doesn't help us and we live 20 mins away. It seems my sibling cant do anything wrong in their eyes.
I've come to the conclusion the more you do the less its appreciated.

 

[Sogdhitalley]

My mother once burnt all my stuff When I was about 14
all my clothes
shoes
make up
bedding
random stuff like my books and radio
school books
school bag
photos etc

I had my bed left

i worked for it all-she didn’t buy any of it

my crime?

my room was a bit untidy

and still to this day she laughs about it like it’s a funny story and people either laugh or look at her in horror

I’m nc with her now-and the narc cow can’t see why-it’s not the worst but was the first thing that came to mind

I just want to say how sorry I am for you, that must've been so awful for you. Sending you lots of love.

 

[Gingercream]

Mine used to force feed me when I wouldn’t eat - I had a lot of issues with textures and tastes and they’d make me sit there for hours trying to get me to eat my dinner. I still have issues with food to this day.

They also used to leave me to babysit my younger siblings from when I was 10 (youngest was 2 and still in nappies) although it was only for an hour or so at a time while my mum popped to the shops and I was pretty sensible - I’d previously looked after a friend with a seriously broken leg and called him an ambulance etc on my own.

 

[Orange Creme]

At aged 9/10 ish mine used to take me to boots weekly get me weighed and tell me I was too large and that she didn't even weigh as much as me when she was an adult. She would delight in telling everyone how she hadnt ever weighed as much as I did. My brother used to taunt me calling me fatty and if i told on him she would say 'well you are' I felt like a disgusting large monster and became very miserable and bitter. She never told me she loved me or hugged me or anything.

I had had some growing issues which were treated with hormone injections and my consultant told her to watch my weight as it was creeping up. She became very defensive and told him it wasnt her fault and that she made sure I ate healthily.

At about age 13 my weight was normal because I was always on a calorie controlled diet that I had put myself on.

Weirdly at about aged 16 we became really close and she became my best friend, really positive, telling me I was beautiful, always supporting me etc and we were close until she died a few years ago. It's like for a few years of my childhood she became a different person and was emotionally unavailable but those years do affect you.

 

[Sven]

My dad was having an affair (we didn’t know obviously) and took us on holiday with her and her family while they were doing it. He was also bleeping horrible to me, putting me down, calling me stupid and shouting in my face a lot. I have self esteem issues and trust issues ^wonder whyyyyy^

 

[lizziew92]

My relationship with my mum broke down when I was 10/11 after her and my dad split for the last time and he moved out. I'm an only child, I spent every other weekend with my dad, 5/7 nights a week she was drinking multiple bottles of wine a night with her friend in the kitchen while I sat in the living room about 10ft away with only a glass door between, crying loudly to the neighbour and slagging my dad off. (He didn't do anything horrific btw, just had enough I think). The neighbour would try and comfort her then have to go back to her own house and family, I would go up to bed and she would come in my room and start ranting away at me being generally neurotic and on one occasion breaking some of my things. Most of the time she would eventually leave me alone but several times I had to call my dad to come and get me as I was scared. If the neighbour wasn't available she'd just sit with the phone book all night for hours on end doing the same but to her long distance friends, after 6pm and hanging up and calling back every hour obvs cos free This carried on until I eventually moved in with my dad, step mum and step sister when I was about 15. Still used to spend nights at hers in the week, she would do the same then threaten she was going to adopt a kid in my place then make me feel guilty when I got upset at this idea (as my dad pointed out this would never be allowed to happen).

I must point out it wasn't all bad times and she was a great mum, thoughtful and fun to be around besides the above, tea was always on the table and the house was clean. Things are a lot better now I'm older, and I love my mum to bits but she still clearly has a problem with alcohol and I rarely spend the night at hers even now as she can be unpredictable although 90% of the time it's fine. I like a drink but won't touch a drop when I am staying in case I need to leave so will go and see her in the day or have her stay at ours as I know she will behave.

We have found a level now as we both want a good relationship but she will never admit to any wrong doing and refers to the above as when I 'flounced off to live with my father' as if it was totally unprovoked and she was the victim

Nowhere near as awful as some of the other posts on here which made me sad to read. What I always find ironic though is at the top of the stairs in her house she has a book called 'Toxic Parents' as she is convinced hers were. (I've never met any of her family as she disowned them all many years ago, but that's for another thread )

 

[Itsallaboutmememe]

I just want to say how sorry I am for you, that must've been so awful for you. Sending you lots of love.

Thank you xxxx

 

[annanuttall]

My mother once burnt all my stuff When I was about 14
all my clothes
shoes
make up
bedding
random stuff like my books and radio
school books
school bag
photos etc

I had my bed left

i worked for it all-she didn’t buy any of it

my crime?

my room was a bit untidy

and still to this day she laughs about it like it’s a funny story and people either laugh or look at her in horror

I’m nc with her now-and the narc cow can’t see why-it’s not the worst but was the first thing that came to mind

That what happens to my ex-best friend. She came home one night from staying at her BF to find all her clothes were in ashes and anything remaining in the rubbish bin. Her crime - the mum thought she was spending too much time at her bf house.
She was so devasted that she moved away from her mum and completely cut all ties.