influenzaaar
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I say this kindly and yet not lightly. As someone who has had a friend involved in domestic violence, the thing that isn’t spoken about enough is the psychological impact and mental anguish of trying to detach. If you read Katie Byron’s “the work” it speaks about DV and abuse victims often being generational, that victims lack a shark cage to protect them by way of their formative life experiences. The thing that has been most striking to me through my friends relationship is that we all knew. She told us about the violence. She was done. About, 12 different times, she was done. We supported her to leave. And yet she went back over and over, she wanted to fix him, he would be different, it was just this or just that. What if the next woman, he loved properly and treated right? What if she missed out on the visions she held onto of their future. And through this process of voicing the issue but then returning to it, every one of us friends got sick and tired of enabling her and supporting her. It was emotionally taxing for us all. Instagram wellness accounts tell us to have boundaries and protect our peace. We waned in being able to continue to carry the burden when she kept going back and back and would not listen..
THIS is one of the challenges that perhaps doesn’t get voiced enough. THIS type of isolation is, amongst others, how women end up dead. Because when it got to the 13th time and she truly was finally ready to go and stay gone, she had no one left in her corner because of her own toxic behaviour (which is psychological in its nature and rooted in many things, not just the specific person or the relationship.) it’s not dissimilar to a drug addict trying to get clean. It takes time and effort and support and it’s draining on loved ones to the enth degree. DV and toxic relationships can be so insidious. Power and love to anyone going through it.
anyway that concludes my TED talk.
anyone can get a book deal with the right follower count 
like what kind of insightful gems must Snez have to share with the world? 
the world would be a better place without books by Sophie chia, Amy gerrard and snez wood
Amelia was laughing in the story because the 7 year old had changed a dirty nappy all by herself and put the new one on backwards. I'm not a longtime follower so i dont know the dynamics of that relationship or household... but he seems like the most selfish and incapable parent around. The definition of weaponised incompetence. She's constantly posting about feeling burnt out and overwhelmed... and he cant even care for a newborn for an hour by himself
actually they had pizza the other night so maybe this is punishment 
