1 traditional thing that does annoy me is the way womens title changes depending on their marital status, whereas a man just remains Mr.
My lad's in this boat at the minute. His fiancee wants him to change his name to hers (she wants to keep hers for career reasons). But he wants to keep our family name, as he's the last in the line of descendants and the only one who will carry it on. So they are either going to have to double barrell it, or both stay as they are now, then argue again later about what surname any children will haveWell it's simple really and I also don't mean any disrespect to anyone but Taking the mans name was perfectly normal for a marriage.
Now in the world of celebrity there has been changes, it was traditional for female personalities to keep their maiden name or the name
that they became famous with. That changed years ago, Victoria Beckham is a prime example, she broke tradition and so did a couple
of TV presenters.
As for man taking the woman's name, it's not how it works AFAIK.
Sorry if this is personal but I'm interested as to why sex outside of marriage is okay for you when you have quite traditional views? Or is it a case of you're happy to have sex outside of marriage while in a relationship but one nighters and casual is a no go?I'm very traditional in my views although I don't have a problem with sex before marriage. Personally I do not want children outside of marriage so I am always careful to try and prevent pregnancy but other than that I have had sex outside marriage.
In terms of living together as a couple, again, I'm fine with this. One thing I did say to my partner was that I didn't want to be engaged before we bought a house together. A lot of my friends got engaged whilst still living with parents. I don't know why but it just didn't sit right with me, agreeing to spend the rest of my life with somebody before I'd even lived alone properly with them. I have been criticised for that view by people who I've spoken to about it before though so maybe it is a bit of an odd view. Each to their own!
it was normal for a marriage but so was a brides family paying for the wedding, so was the groom giving dowry's for a bride. times have changed Just cause something was normal doesn't mean it has to be a thing now get me?Well it's simple really and I also don't mean any disrespect to anyone but Taking the mans name was perfectly normal for a marriage.
Now in the world of celebrity there has been changes, it was traditional for female personalities to keep their maiden name or the name
that they became famous with. That changed years ago, Victoria Beckham is a prime example, she broke tradition and so did a couple
of TV presenters.
As for man taking the woman's name, it's not how it works AFAIK.
Same with me on both issues.I'm very traditional in my views although I don't have a problem with sex before marriage. Personally I do not want children outside of marriage so I am always careful to try and prevent pregnancy but other than that I have had sex outside marriage.
Because it's how I was raised, I don't see why I should changed my values to fit modern day life, people now fall into theThose of you with traditional views, I'm interested as to why you hold onto them and why do you think you have them?
not personal at all . personally I never have had, and never would have either a one night stand or casual sex. Iāve only slept with the person I am currently in a long term relationship with. If we ever did split up, I again would only sleep with someone I was serious about. I donāt shame or judge others if they choose to have casual sex but itās not something I want for myself xSorry if this is personal but I'm interested as to why sex outside of marriage is okay for you when you have quite traditional views? Or is it a case of you're happy to have sex outside of marriage while in a relationship but one nighters and casual is a no go?
I actually agree with you on the last point. Not cause I'm traditional or anything, I don't see the issue with being engaged and not living together in that sense. I just find it really pointless. Maybe that's just how I view stages of relationships though. I feel like moving in together is the first step before you decide to commit the rest of your lives to each other.
it was normal for a marriage but so was a brides family paying for the wedding, so was the groom giving dowry's for a bride. times have changed Just cause something was normal doesn't mean it has to be a thing now get me?
Those of you with traditional views, I'm interested as to why you hold onto them and why do you think you have them?
It's funny cause I'm very much the same in that aspect. Casual sex is not for me. Don't get me wrong, I am very much a strong feminist and think women should do what they want (as long as it's consenual for everyone, within the confides of the law, and not being used to self medicate) but I wouldn't do it personally. I'm very much a prude though. It's probably the only "traditional" thing that I have. I wouldn't want to discuss my sex life outside of my relationship either (never had sex so not problem for me ). Weird I know as I am very modern in every other aspectnot personal at all . personally I never have had, and never would have either a one night stand or casual sex. Iāve only slept with the person I am currently in a long term relationship with. If we ever did split up, I again would only sleep with someone I was serious about. I donāt shame or judge others if they choose to have casual sex but itās not something I want for myself x
I would agree with this 100% over asking a parent.I will say though, I think if the person you're asking has kids that aren't yours (i.e you're going to be step parent), asking the kids permission is very respectful
I'm have 3 sisters and apparently my dad said well, that's one down, 2 to goOutdated and unnecessary imo. I was surprised when my husband told me that he had in fact asked my Dad. I was absolutely howling when he relayed my Dadās response āAre you sure? Sheās really spoilt.ā Flaming cheek
not personal at all . personally I never have had, and never would have either a one night stand or casual sex. Iāve only slept with the person I am currently in a long term relationship with. If we ever did split up, I again would only sleep with someone I was serious about. I donāt shame or judge others if they choose to have casual sex but itās not something I want for myself x