Peppersdoll
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I just wanted to say, as a mother who was in the same situation as her, as you can imagine , it’s not easy. I’m speaking about the rollercoaster that is children coming and going every second weekend and midweek. It comes with a wide range of issues , especially for the younger children , who will often struggle to settle back on sundays. You have to be tough.
Sadly, and I’ve only come to learn this now years later. Not every child has the resilience to cope being separated from primary care giver overnight /weekends , as an infant (be that , mum or dad, no sexism implied ) . My son has now, 8 years later , has developed severe separation anxiety . Please don’t for one second assume that I’m suggesting children shouldn’t have significant time with their fathers , I’m not , I respected access arrangement meticulously. Im just saying , in my own case , my son has suffered , if I knew then , what I know now , I would have never ever let my children go overnight so young. But I was bound by a court order .
I can tell you about Aoibhe too, that she is in an awful stage , because you’re in denial , for a very very long time. For example , you will daydream ‘ I hope I meet someone again’ . I did this more in the first 2 years after , than I ever did after that,because the reality of your situation has not really sunk in.
even though I knew very well that my decision to leave was unequivocally the best decision (cheating , but cheating really was the very least of my worries, abuse , and I suppose ultimately and most heartbreakingly , he didn’t love me and that was apparent) I laid in bed every night for 2 years crying. I’m 8 years out now and I’d say I’m just about back to myself , and I’m saying that as someone who is incredibly strong, tough; and have a brilliant family who love me. And it still been so hard. And that’s just the emotional side, never mind all the practicalities.
Sadly, and I’ve only come to learn this now years later. Not every child has the resilience to cope being separated from primary care giver overnight /weekends , as an infant (be that , mum or dad, no sexism implied ) . My son has now, 8 years later , has developed severe separation anxiety . Please don’t for one second assume that I’m suggesting children shouldn’t have significant time with their fathers , I’m not , I respected access arrangement meticulously. Im just saying , in my own case , my son has suffered , if I knew then , what I know now , I would have never ever let my children go overnight so young. But I was bound by a court order .
I can tell you about Aoibhe too, that she is in an awful stage , because you’re in denial , for a very very long time. For example , you will daydream ‘ I hope I meet someone again’ . I did this more in the first 2 years after , than I ever did after that,because the reality of your situation has not really sunk in.
even though I knew very well that my decision to leave was unequivocally the best decision (cheating , but cheating really was the very least of my worries, abuse , and I suppose ultimately and most heartbreakingly , he didn’t love me and that was apparent) I laid in bed every night for 2 years crying. I’m 8 years out now and I’d say I’m just about back to myself , and I’m saying that as someone who is incredibly strong, tough; and have a brilliant family who love me. And it still been so hard. And that’s just the emotional side, never mind all the practicalities.
#fine
I’m sure she was all baby voiced, manically addressing everything to Lily and Hugo showing Juan how fine she is!!