thank you to the lovely people who sent me advice last night.
I said this previously last night. I am a young mother of a 7 month old baby, similar to Aoibhe. Of course i still have a stone weight to loose after having my son. I have MS, picked up 5 years ago after sudden onset eyesight loss and vision issues (which partially returned). Anyway i have a type of stenosis in my bowel, the muscles in it dont work have the time, and over work the rest of the time. So, as i joke with my sisters, i either cant poo or i cant stop pooing. But the laugh ends there, its causing a serious issue on my body and i am having surgery on feb 24th. I have recevied counselling and relation to the high chance (30%) that i might end up with a colostomy bag. And i know that being alive means we need to be grateful but i am also allowed be a little bit sad if that happens. However my biggest fear is anything happening me on the table, or in my recovery, or even in recovery not being about to hold and love my baby for awhile. But i do all this, not for vanity, but so i can be healthy and look after myself, hubby and baby. The fact that she is facing a abdominal surgery also, and i would say anything like that carries a tiny percentage change of a colostimy bag also (all abdomen procedures do, they warn you about it) - this obviously isnt even a thought in her head. Imagine, all you can see is the flat tummy and you havent even considered the drains or the pain or the risks. i just cant phathom it. Jens journey is different, she works so hard and needs a little help to get places nature cant. This is such laziness from Aoibhe and i would keep my flabby tummy any day of the week instead of facing a colostomy bag if i had the choice.