Good grief. I'm stunned. Gaslighting.Today is my first back since before Christmas - I had a stack of leave owing and January is usually a quiet time, so it was mutually agreeable that I would stay off until now.
Last week, I was asked if I could come because someone walked out and they were in a bit of a jam. I said I couldn't as I had plans (which I did, besides why are they throwing the problem to me when there are other people in the office quite capable of picking up the slack? I will add that I've said "yes" far too many times over the years to this place, including going in on the weekend to check someone has set the alarm properly after they've texted me doubting if they have [I live closest work out of everyone]).
I woke up today feeling nauseous but put it down to first day nerves; turns out I had a lot to be nervous about! Immediately after arriving into the office - I'd only just put my bag away in my cupboard - the GM came over and asked if he could have a word. As I walked through the office and smiled and greeted everyone, I just got frowns and mumbles in return. Very unusual considering our office is usually really friendly and if someone has been away for a while everyone usually gathers around wanting to know how their break was, etc. Once in the GM's office, I was hauled over the coals for letting the team down and losing a major account! Excuse me - but how is YOUR problem suddenly my fault?!
The person who walked out was under a huge amount of pressure and was meant to prepare a presentation for a client but they forgot about it until two days out from when it was meant to be delivered. Apparently they just freaked out and realised they couldn't deliver so walked out. If I had known the extent of the situation I may (or may not) have returned to work earlier. I threw it back to the GM and asked why one of the other team members couldn't do it ... his response was ridiculous - he said he wanted to ease the others into what will be a heavy year ahead. Super-ridiculous considering one of my work friends said things have been really quiet with all her clients so she's been taking extended lunch breaks.
Ugh. This, combined with the "suggestion" that we adopt a four-day working week but our base salaries get reduced to reflect that, just made me question what I'm even doing here. So, I gave my notice and will look for something else! I will happily go and work at one of my co-owned coffee carts for a few months if there's a need. I am going to eventually go and work with some other colleagues who set up in competition, but they're still in the process of getting things set up. This is all going to pan out well though, as I do have a six-month restraint of trade.
My boss started getting all desperate and saying he didn't want me to leave and although it was a major client and I'd made a serious mistake in judgement (!!!) it wasn't the end of the world, and he would be prepared to let me off with a warning which shouldn't impact too much in the scheme of things. Stuff him! How dare he try to make me the scapegoat!
I have given my two weeks' notice and said I'll be working it from home. If he doesn't like that, stuff him!
Oh hello constructive dismissal…Today is my first back since before Christmas - I had a stack of leave owing and January is usually a quiet time, so it was mutually agreeable that I would stay off until now.
Last week, I was asked if I could come because someone walked out and they were in a bit of a jam. I said I couldn't as I had plans (which I did, besides why are they throwing the problem to me when there are other people in the office quite capable of picking up the slack? I will add that I've said "yes" far too many times over the years to this place, including going in on the weekend to check someone has set the alarm properly after they've texted me doubting if they have [I live closest work out of everyone]).
I woke up today feeling nauseous but put it down to first day nerves; turns out I had a lot to be nervous about! Immediately after arriving into the office - I'd only just put my bag away in my cupboard - the GM came over and asked if he could have a word. As I walked through the office and smiled and greeted everyone, I just got frowns and mumbles in return. Very unusual considering our office is usually really friendly and if someone has been away for a while everyone usually gathers around wanting to know how their break was, etc. Once in the GM's office, I was hauled over the coals for letting the team down and losing a major account! Excuse me - but how is YOUR problem suddenly my fault?!
The person who walked out was under a huge amount of pressure and was meant to prepare a presentation for a client but they forgot about it until two days out from when it was meant to be delivered. Apparently they just freaked out and realised they couldn't deliver so walked out. If I had known the extent of the situation I may (or may not) have returned to work earlier. I threw it back to the GM and asked why one of the other team members couldn't do it ... his response was ridiculous - he said he wanted to ease the others into what will be a heavy year ahead. Super-ridiculous considering one of my work friends said things have been really quiet with all her clients so she's been taking extended lunch breaks.
Ugh. This, combined with the "suggestion" that we adopt a four-day working week but our base salaries get reduced to reflect that, just made me question what I'm even doing here. So, I gave my notice and will look for something else! I will happily go and work at one of my co-owned coffee carts for a few months if there's a need. I am going to eventually go and work with some other colleagues who set up in competition, but they're still in the process of getting things set up. This is all going to pan out well though, as I do have a six-month restraint of trade.
My boss started getting all desperate and saying he didn't want me to leave and although it was a major client and I'd made a serious mistake in judgement (!!!) it wasn't the end of the world, and he would be prepared to let me off with a warning which shouldn't impact too much in the scheme of things. Stuff him! How dare he try to make me the scapegoat!
I have given my two weeks' notice and said I'll be working it from home. If he doesn't like that, stuff him!
Wow! Good on you for telling them to stuff it. It’s so frustrating that this happens, it’s like they get all surprised when you say no and all of a sudden all of their poor decision making is your fault. At my last place I was called to help out the day after my end date!Today is my first back since before Christmas - I had a stack of leave owing and January is usually a quiet time, so it was mutually agreeable that I would stay off until now.
Last week, I was asked if I could come because someone walked out and they were in a bit of a jam. I said I couldn't as I had plans (which I did, besides why are they throwing the problem to me when there are other people in the office quite capable of picking up the slack? I will add that I've said "yes" far too many times over the years to this place, including going in on the weekend to check someone has set the alarm properly after they've texted me doubting if they have [I live closest work out of everyone]).
I woke up today feeling nauseous but put it down to first day nerves; turns out I had a lot to be nervous about! Immediately after arriving into the office - I'd only just put my bag away in my cupboard - the GM came over and asked if he could have a word. As I walked through the office and smiled and greeted everyone, I just got frowns and mumbles in return. Very unusual considering our office is usually really friendly and if someone has been away for a while everyone usually gathers around wanting to know how their break was, etc. Once in the GM's office, I was hauled over the coals for letting the team down and losing a major account! Excuse me - but how is YOUR problem suddenly my fault?!
The person who walked out was under a huge amount of pressure and was meant to prepare a presentation for a client but they forgot about it until two days out from when it was meant to be delivered. Apparently they just freaked out and realised they couldn't deliver so walked out. If I had known the extent of the situation I may (or may not) have returned to work earlier. I threw it back to the GM and asked why one of the other team members couldn't do it ... his response was ridiculous - he said he wanted to ease the others into what will be a heavy year ahead. Super-ridiculous considering one of my work friends said things have been really quiet with all her clients so she's been taking extended lunch breaks.
Ugh. This, combined with the "suggestion" that we adopt a four-day working week but our base salaries get reduced to reflect that, just made me question what I'm even doing here. So, I gave my notice and will look for something else! I will happily go and work at one of my co-owned coffee carts for a few months if there's a need. I am going to eventually go and work with some other colleagues who set up in competition, but they're still in the process of getting things set up. This is all going to pan out well though, as I do have a six-month restraint of trade.
My boss started getting all desperate and saying he didn't want me to leave and although it was a major client and I'd made a serious mistake in judgement (!!!) it wasn't the end of the world, and he would be prepared to let me off with a warning which shouldn't impact too much in the scheme of things. Stuff him! How dare he try to make me the scapegoat!
I have given my two weeks' notice and said I'll be working it from home. If he doesn't like that, stuff him!
If you have it in writing that they agreed to your annual leave for Jan, then they have no leg to stand on. If you have it in writing, take it further (but still leave).Today is my first back since before Christmas - I had a stack of leave owing and January is usually a quiet time, so it was mutually agreeable that I would stay off until now.
Last week, I was asked if I could come because someone walked out and they were in a bit of a jam. I said I couldn't as I had plans (which I did, besides why are they throwing the problem to me when there are other people in the office quite capable of picking up the slack? I will add that I've said "yes" far too many times over the years to this place, including going in on the weekend to check someone has set the alarm properly after they've texted me doubting if they have [I live closest work out of everyone]).
I woke up today feeling nauseous but put it down to first day nerves; turns out I had a lot to be nervous about! Immediately after arriving into the office - I'd only just put my bag away in my cupboard - the GM came over and asked if he could have a word. As I walked through the office and smiled and greeted everyone, I just got frowns and mumbles in return. Very unusual considering our office is usually really friendly and if someone has been away for a while everyone usually gathers around wanting to know how their break was, etc. Once in the GM's office, I was hauled over the coals for letting the team down and losing a major account! Excuse me - but how is YOUR problem suddenly my fault?!
The person who walked out was under a huge amount of pressure and was meant to prepare a presentation for a client but they forgot about it until two days out from when it was meant to be delivered. Apparently they just freaked out and realised they couldn't deliver so walked out. If I had known the extent of the situation I may (or may not) have returned to work earlier. I threw it back to the GM and asked why one of the other team members couldn't do it ... his response was ridiculous - he said he wanted to ease the others into what will be a heavy year ahead. Super-ridiculous considering one of my work friends said things have been really quiet with all her clients so she's been taking extended lunch breaks.
Ugh. This, combined with the "suggestion" that we adopt a four-day working week but our base salaries get reduced to reflect that, just made me question what I'm even doing here. So, I gave my notice and will look for something else! I will happily go and work at one of my co-owned coffee carts for a few months if there's a need. I am going to eventually go and work with some other colleagues who set up in competition, but they're still in the process of getting things set up. This is all going to pan out well though, as I do have a six-month restraint of trade.
My boss started getting all desperate and saying he didn't want me to leave and although it was a major client and I'd made a serious mistake in judgement (!!!) it wasn't the end of the world, and he would be prepared to let me off with a warning which shouldn't impact too much in the scheme of things. Stuff him! How dare he try to make me the scapegoat!
I have given my two weeks' notice and said I'll be working it from home. If he doesn't like that, stuff him!
UpdateThere’s this one dirty bastard that I work with and he farts ALL. THE. TIME. He doesn’t even attempt to be discreet about it, or move away from people before he lets rip. It’s absolutely vile, and it smells like an animal carcass that’s been decomposing for a week in the sun. It makes me sick to my stomach knowing me and my work colleagues are breathing in his shit particles. I actually think he‘a some sort of unhinged sexual predator that gets off knowing that we are all inhaling gas that he’s released from his anus. And the worst of it is, he doesn’t even excuse himself or apologise!
Wow. Sounds like you won't get an apology from him then, he sounds unhinged to be acting so strange about an employee having their leave. Is there a boss above him and the GM you can speak to about it?My boss told everyone at my work that I have resigned rather than accept I made an error in judgement, but I'll come to my senses soon and come crawling back ... what an asshole!
I've received a few text messages from co-workers asking what the heck is going on - one of them said she didn't even know there was a problem with a client being lost (a bit strange considering we're a small business where everything you do and say can be heard by all in our mostly open-plan office). Others have said that our GM has been acting strangely for months and they wonder if he's 'all there'. Some have speculated that the company might be in financial difficulty, but I just don't think that's it.
I'm definitely being stitched up. I was offered the role of Practice Manager last year and turned it down; plus, my boss has been aware that I'm intending to go and join others who left and set up their own business, in time (in a different capacity, but he'd still see it as a huge insult that anyone would leave him, especially if they went to work for the enemy).
Sounds like a former boss of mine. We lost our biggest client as he "Got bored with them" (his very words) and so our competitors took all our business instead. He'd also shout abuse at anyone who resigned while using the immortal "I'll make sure you never work in this industry again!" as a final insult. We were a minor IT contracting company and nothing more.Wow. Sounds like you won't get an apology from him then, he sounds unhinged to be acting so strange about an employee having their leave. Is there a boss above him and the GM you can speak to about it?
Hate to tell you but I work at a council and someone I work with is exactly like this!Drives me nuts that everyone takes everything so seriously. There’s one particular girl in work who has nothing else going on, her whole life and personality is her work. She’s available to clients 24/7, brings her laptop on holiday and sits in the hotel and logged on every day over Xmas. She goes through periods of being grand to deal with but this month she’s unbearable, so negative and making a huge deal out of everything.
I need a job with the council or somewhere that doesn’t give a shit.
No, it's a private company owned by him and his wife. He's vindictive - I've seen him turn on other people in the past.Wow. Sounds like you won't get an apology from him then, he sounds unhinged to be acting so strange about an employee having their leave. Is there a boss above him and the GM you can speak to about it?
He sounds exactly the same! Not sure if he is having a mid-life crisis but he has been acting weird for the past few months ... he used to come into the office and just about sing "good morning" but suddenly started coming in at the crack of dawn and would stay in his office for most of the day with the door shut. He owns the company with his wife, who calls into the office now and again but otherwise keeps her distance ... who really knows what the situation is.Sounds like a former boss of mine. We lost our biggest client as he "Got bored with them" (his very words) and so our competitors took all our business instead. He'd also shout abuse at anyone who resigned while using the immortal "I'll make sure you never work in this industry again!" as a final insult. We were a minor IT contracting company and nothing more.
Long story short, the boss was having a midlife crisis so took to cocaine and strippers while refusing to delegate to anyone. About 18 months after I'd left, the company went bust. Just checked him out now and it looks like he's gone back to his old job which is ironic as he used to tell us all about how they were useless and it was young guns like him who would outplay and outsmart the likes of them.
Exactly! The thing is, there is at least one other person he could've asked to do the presentation - she's even been saying how she's hardly had anything to do since returning from holidays as everything is quiet with all her clients at the moment. I had a very successful year last year in bringing in new business but otherwise sit firmly in the middle of everyone ... this other lady is consistently good. I think his aggression stems from my turning down the role he and his wife offered me last year - which thank goodness I did, because I would've been miserable!I was about to say, his behaviour sounds very strange. He had no answer when you asked him why others couldn't have taken on the work. He is in over his head, I imagine.
If this was a major account, about to be lost, surely it would be a case of all hands on deck whereas it seems like he looked for the non obvious solution, ie wanting you to cut short your holidays, then when that didn't work, threw the baby out with the bathwater.
I'm glad to hear you feel better. Also hopefully this situation night be a lesson for him to not take productive good workers for granted, that you can't just assume they will come in when on leave etc. In business he shouldn't rely on good will for people to get him out of the shit. He should have had someone else help the client.I have an update!
I met with my boss last night for a drink (he invited me) - he was apologetic about the situation and admitted that things should have been handled differently. He said he felt I had to shoulder some of the responsibility for what happened, for not agreeing to go in on my time off - because I've never said no before, it was a given that I would. I do understand where he's coming from. He asked me to reconsider leaving, and I told him firmly no; in the end, we agreed I'll work until this Wednesday - just long enough to tidy up some loose ends and hand over to someone else.
I'm feeling much better about the situation and am actually really looking forward to working part-time on one of the coffee carts I co-own. My business partner is thrilled as it's going to solve a lot of staffing issues we've been having.
I feel lighter - much happier - knowing the end is in sight.
Thank you so much to everyone who commented and shared their thoughts!
Glad you got it to a level you are happy withI have an update!
I met with my boss last night for a drink (he invited me) - he was apologetic about the situation and admitted that things should have been handled differently. He said he felt I had to shoulder some of the responsibility for what happened, for not agreeing to go in on my time off - because I've never said no before, it was a given that I would. I do understand where he's coming from. He asked me to reconsider leaving, and I told him firmly no; in the end, we agreed I'll work until this Wednesday - just long enough to tidy up some loose ends and hand over to someone else.
I'm feeling much better about the situation and am actually really looking forward to working part-time on one of the coffee carts I co-own. My business partner is thrilled as it's going to solve a lot of staffing issues we've been having.
I feel lighter - much happier - knowing the end is in sight.
Thank you so much to everyone who commented and shared their thoughts!
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