Am I being ungrateful?

[Pambo]

People on here can be so judgemental.

On this forum, that's a requirement.

 

[Whaaaaat]

I still don’t think OP was being ungrateful.

If her boyfriend had gone out, picked the present himself and didn’t know what he was getting in return, maybe. But they’d discussed, he asked for the most expensive present then bought her the cheapest in return. That’s a bit crappy.

 

[Annie101]

Solution, for the past 2 years i take my husband card, tell him that i am helping him choosing the perfect gift for me, and then go and buy my gifts myself. That way i am sure i get everything on my wish list. I obviously don't like surprises

Solution, for the past 2 years i take my husband card, tell him that i am helping him choosing the perfect gift for me, and then go and buy my gifts myself. That way i am sure i get everything on my wish list. I obviously don't like surprises

But then again he is into technology, something i don't know anything about, so he made an online purchase for his own Christmas gift.

 

[Laur91]

Solution, for the past 2 years i take my husband card, tell him that i am helping him choosing the perfect gift for me, and then go and buy my gifts myself. That way i am sure i get everything on my wish list. I obviously don't like surprises


But then again he is into technology, something i don't know anything about, so he made an online purchase for his own Christmas gift.

I kinda feel like this is completely missing the point of a gift to be honest. It feels to me like people just use Christmas as a chance to get other people to buy tit they don’t wanna buy themselves but like where’s the thought or love in that?

Also in regards to the OP, there’s something real dumb about spending £150 on someone and them spending £150 on you and knowing what you’ve got each other etc. You do realise if you bought the perfume you wanted and he bought the grinder himself you’d literally both be out of pocket the same amount etc and the other person wouldn’t have the struggle of finding the thing etc.

Doesn’t make any sense to me but I appreciate entirely I’m a very sentimental person and I hate giving people gifts they know all about, I’d rather put thought into it and get something for them with a personal touch that they’ll love.

 

[Blondie]

been with my boyfriend upwards of 5 years and we decided to get each other actual treats the other person would want for Christmas, he got me a Chanel perfume (35ml - 57 quid) and I got him a present he had asked for that was around 100 quid (bear in mind there was also an option to get a cheaper one for 70 but he asked for the largest) but came from America so i had to pay tax and shipping, the whole thing cost me about 150 (which he knew) so when he just told me I got the 35 ml i was a bit miffed tbh I mean I didn't think he'd get me the 100ml (120 quid) but i thought the 50ml would been appropriate (80 pounds) I honestly don't mean to sound ungrateful but I feel a bit annoyed ? its out of order he'd ask for something for 150 but skimped on mine idk maybe im just being a bit of a cat but i wanted some opinions x

If you asked for the largest bottle and he skimped then I'd be annoyed too. Especially if I spent then full amount on him. I'd be sending him back to swap it lol

 

[hiya_hun]

[QUOTE="Oohthedrama, post: 3238026, member]

Love doesn’t come in 35ml, everyone knows love comes in upwards of 100ml with free gift with purchase.

[/QUOTE]

Words to live by

My two penneth on this....

Men are simple creatures and if you showed him what you wanted and it was the 35ml size he will of gotten it and not given it a second thought!

I also think he might of got you something else, so just wait till Christmas Day.

Also... could you please post a link to the grinder because I am intrigued?

Thanks!!

 

[Tui]

In the early years of our relationship we used to set a limit for presents and we’d generally both buy up to that limit (all surprises). We don’t do that anymore now we’re married as our money is all shared anyway and we just focus on buying gifts the other will want (again either surprises or anonymously picked from a list). Perhaps next year setting a price guide might avoid bad blood

 

[coconochanel]

I didn't even know you could et 35ml jeez 50ml is small enough. You could always tell him something else you want that will make up the money.

 

[stopthescams]

OP - did you get anything else?

 

[cosmo girl]

I once had a boyfriend who got me nothing for Christmas. That's what I asked for I would never include shipping in a price of a gift though. I wouldn't spend that much on shipping though. Maybe your boyfriend should've gave you the shipping costs.
Sometimes partners don't get it right and may never get it right. It's what they're like all year round that counts

 

[Wanttoseethescreenshots]

I’m really intrigued to know what happened!! Tbh I would be annoyed if he has asked for something expensive knowing he had spent less!

 

[SummerLeaves2004]

Who the duck gives a tit?

Who has the energy to set up a thread about a poxy bottle of perfume?

The mind boggles.

I got the 100ml.

Hope she did too... in the end maybe her boyfriend surprised her with the body lotion and shower gel too ... I guess we will never know.