Alcoholics Anonymous...

[Makaraka]

there are quite a lot of 'sober' accounts on Insta that are good. Little hints and tips and approaches to take. Have you seen those?
I drink too much and have done for a while but I always function and am never now drunk as I'm so used to it. I know if I joined a group then the other people there would turn me off going.

I’m quite like that, I can drink and drink and not get drunk. Then I’ll hit a point of too much and it smacks in the face and I know I’ve gone too far!!
Haven’t seen these insta accounts? I need to though
I just would like someone to talk to about itin a similar mindset or situation to me but all you lovely people are replying and I can’t message you privately

 

[petitspois]

I'm an alcoholic, and have been for almost a year now, and this pandemic along with suffering SAD at this time of year has made my drinking condition much worse.

I did get in contact with AA online via their online chat popup, which gave me some guidance. The problem is the nearest AA branch is around 25 miles away, and have to yet to fully sign-up my membership because I am hoping to fly out to South Africa early next month.

I would definitely give AA a try, or perhaps individual counselling if you feel AA is too big a step. Nothing wrong with taking some advice from people who have been in your situation no matter whether you think you're a fully fledged alcoholic, or someone who thinks they're not quite one.

Take care and good luck x

there are quite a lot of 'sober' accounts on Insta that are good. Little hints and tips and approaches to take. Have you seen those?
I drink too much and have done for a while but I always function and am never now drunk as I'm so used to it. I know if I joined a group then the other people there would turn me off going.

 

[Cbgpcd]

I feel like i am such a complainer on this group but here goes. I am grateful that my husband stopped drinking or tells me he stopped. But the dry drunk symptoms really is getting to me. Like i said before i never knew a dry drunk is a thing. So emotionally he never dealt with anything without the help of alcohol and dealing with anything is a VERY big deal to him. All i hear daily is a lot of negativity, from him being tired, and apparently the whole world is stupid except for him. It emotionally drains me, and I discussed the issue with him that it is making me depressed constantly listening to someone vomiting negative feelings. He has so much to be grateful for, and i stuck around and endured so many bad things, i was hoping he will try and redeem himself. I feel that i need to distance myself from him to be able to survive. He apologized but then does the exact same thing a short while later. I am a different and happy person at work, because i can smile and laugh, and not be treated like i live with my school principle all the time.

Yes, they suck all the goodness out of everything. That’s why I call my other half the fun police. He sees problems in everything. We are here for you to get it off your chest. It’s horrible especially when you look at other couples so happy.
But I myself call Facebook “fake book” They only show what they want. We dont know the real them. We are entitled to be happy too. I kind of see both you and your husbands points here. More so yours and I am the binge drinker in our relationship. But I am so much happier when he is working away. Does he have a hobby he could put his energy into when he is sober? My other half is a misery guts, I feel like he is my keeper. Criticising everyone, even people on tele in soap operas for having a social drink! I feel like it will be him who will drive me to drink.
Everything is such a chore to him from the minute he wakes up. He moams about everything for example his phone pinged an email the other day and he said “ugh I’ve an email” and the big heavy sigh every few minutes.
I may have gone off track in this conversation but I understand what it’s like living with a miserable person. Sucks the fun out of everything and drains you with their presence. At least you have work to shine. Which isn’t right either, you should be able to shine at home xxx

I feel like i am such a complainer on this group but here goes. I am grateful that my husband stopped drinking or tells me he stopped. But the dry drunk symptoms really is getting to me. Like i said before i never knew a dry drunk is a thing. So emotionally he never dealt with anything without the help of alcohol and dealing with anything is a VERY big deal to him. All i hear daily is a lot of negativity, from him being tired, and apparently the whole world is stupid except for him. It emotionally drains me, and I discussed the issue with him that it is making me depressed constantly listening to someone vomiting negative feelings. He has so much to be grateful for, and i stuck around and endured so many bad things, i was hoping he will try and redeem himself. I feel that i need to distance myself from him to be able to survive. He apologized but then does the exact same thing a short while later. I am a different and happy person at work, because i can smile and laugh, and not be treated like i live with my school principle all the time.