Just wondering if anyone has any advice or support?
I did my first meeting and I’m nervous and scared.
I did my first meeting and I’m nervous and scared.
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I can't offer you any advice I'm afraid, but well done for doing your first meeting. That took guts. How are you feeling now after it?
I’m really pleased you went for it and got some support. I can’t give any advice but always here if you want a chat xx
It’s very daunting, but even just listening will be a great help to you xxx
Hmmm I feel mixed feelings
Am I really needing it? Am I taking the piss by joining?
I honestly thought my alcohol intake was normal
Lockdown etc
But it’s causing problems in my relationship
And I just wanted to join and see if it could help?
i’m interested in other peoples alcohol intake through the week x
I’m scared
I’m lonely and I’m worried that it’s a problem
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I felt the exact same as you!
I listened and thought to myself “I’m not that bad as these guys here” I was mortified incase I saw anyone I knew when entering the building. Absolutely appalled at peoples sharing stories. I never had the guts to share but I did do the “Hi I’m — and I’m an alcoholic” it felt odd. Also the influx of people giving me their numbers to call them overwhelmed me.
Now, it didn’t help me. I went to alcohol counselling which I found better. Being an over thinker I was becoming upset and down listening to fellow members sharing at AA.
My problem IS NOT like I wake up to drink, I drink drive, I shake when I don’t get a drink.
My problem is when I start I can’t stop at one or two. I get drunk very easy, I used to buy a bottle wine of a Saturday then run back round for another then another. Then I would be DYING of a Sunday, Monday. No use to my family then feel better then repeat.
I had a few accidents too drunk. Falling, breaking bones and be covered in bruises. I also showed myself up many times at work parties.
I stopped drinking and feel so much better but I still feel hard done by I can’t drink. I feel it’s not a Saturday night unless I’ve had one. Sorry for the essay. You can message me if you like xxx
EDIT: it caused many rows in my relationship too. Still does x
I'm an alcoholic, and have been for almost a year now, and this pandemic along with suffering SAD at this time of year has made my drinking condition much worse.
I did get in contact with AA online via their online chat popup, which gave me some guidance. The problem is the nearest AA branch is around 25 miles away, and have to yet to fully sign-up my membership because I am hoping to fly out to South Africa early next month.
I would definitely give AA a try, or perhaps individual counselling if you feel AA is too big a step. Nothing wrong with taking some advice from people who have been in your situation no matter whether you think you're a fully fledged alcoholic, or someone who thinks they're not quite one.
Take care and good luck x
I did get in contact with AA online via their online chat popup, which gave me some guidance. The problem is the nearest AA branch is around 25 miles away, and have to yet to fully sign-up my membership because I am hoping to fly out to South Africa early next month.
I would definitely give AA a try, or perhaps individual counselling if you feel AA is too big a step. Nothing wrong with taking some advice from people who have been in your situation no matter whether you think you're a fully fledged alcoholic, or someone who thinks they're not quite one.
Take care and good luck x
I am exactly the same, I’ve always been a binge drinker since I was a teenager (I’m 43). It’s got my into all sorts of tricky situations and I’m so lucky I’ve not got seriously injured or worse. I’ve been binge drinking this weekend so I’ve been hungover and not been able to go to the supermarket so my boyfriend has gone mad and made me promise him I won’t have a drink til Christmas. I’m gutted. I’m now laid in bed thinking how I can have a drink without him noticing. I know I have a problem but I can honestly say I’ll never give up drinking because I like it too much.
If you are a binge drinker like myself he will catch you out.
what if you were to lower the alcohol percent? Like a 10% instead of a 13%? I know how you feel. I call my other half the fun police because he’s a boring b. When I met him he was great fun. I feel he has grown up and I am still stuck in that age. I feel jealous of the women who are able to have their drinks and be happy, not thinking where the next one is coming from. I believe it’s in the genes as my father and grandfather are alcoholics. I hope you come out of your hangover soon.xxx
I feel fine now thank you. My other half is tee total, he doesn’t have any interest in alcohol whatsoever. This has had a good effect on me as I don’t actually drink as much as I used to. I dread to think what it would be like if we both drank. Lockdown has just made things worse though, I’m on my own most of the time as I don’t work, my other half had a stressful job so when he come home he likes to relax and watch tv on his own. I have teenage kids who do their own thing in their rooms. I’d usually take the dogs for a walk on an evening but the dark nights have put a stop to this. Everything is just tit and it’s even shitter now I’ve said I won’t have a drink til Christmas
I know it’s so difficult. What if in a week or so you say look I’m having a drink tonight I’ve had a good few off it. With a lower % so your not as dying? I’ve tried every trick in the book. It’s an awful affliction. Demon drink. Why do we love it so much? I’m dreading if I have another drink again. The trouble it will cause. Try walk your dogs earlier? I am in the same boat as you, with no job and other half has a stressful job. I feel after cooking cleaning mothering all day everyday I deserve a drink watching StrictlyI feel fine now thank you. My other half is tee total, he doesn’t have any interest in alcohol whatsoever. This has had a good effect on me as I don’t actually drink as much as I used to. I dread to think what it would be like if we both drank. Lockdown has just made things worse though, I’m on my own most of the time as I don’t work, my other half had a stressful job so when he come home he likes to relax and watch tv on his own. I have teenage kids who do their own thing in their rooms. I’d usually take the dogs for a walk on an evening but the dark nights have put a stop to this. Everything is just tit and it’s even shitter now I’ve said I won’t have a drink til Christmas
I think of all the bad times we’ve been through and bad things that’s happened because of drink in my life. It shouldn’t be like this though. Sometimes I think my other half enjoys looking at me miserable. I am trying so hard but I will drink soon I guarantee it. Then he will be a pious smug fucker to me.I feel like i am such a complainer on this group but here goes. I am grateful that my husband stopped drinking or tells me he stopped. But the dry drunk symptoms really is getting to me. Like i said before i never knew a dry drunk is a thing. So emotionally he never dealt with anything without the help of alcohol and dealing with anything is a VERY big deal to him. All i hear daily is a lot of negativity, from him being tired, and apparently the whole world is stupid except for him. It emotionally drains me, and I discussed the issue with him that it is making me depressed constantly listening to someone vomiting negative feelings. He has so much to be grateful for, and i stuck around and endured so many bad things, i was hoping he will try and redeem himself. I feel that i need to distance myself from him to be able to survive. He apologized but then does the exact same thing a short while later. I am a different and happy person at work, because i can smile and laugh, and not be treated like i live with my school principle all the time.
I can't offer you any advice hun but I am very proud of you and you should be proud of yourself! I'm here if you need a chat & just remember if you keep going it will get easier and the effect you feel on yourself down the line will be better than how you are feeling now x
Sending all my love
Sending all my love
This is how I am. I can’t just stop at one.
I want to just quit and I’ll get to a point where I don’t have one for a day or two and then I think I deserve it because I haven’t had one.
I don’t drink in the day, or want one first thing in the morning either and there is times I could quite happily go somewhere and refuse but throughout this lockdown it’s progressively gotten worse.
I’m at such a loss
Yes, they suck all the goodness out of everything. That’s why I call my other half the fun police. He sees problems in everything. We are here for you to get it off your chest. It’s horrible especially when you look at other couples so happy.
But I myself call Facebook “fake book” They only show what they want. We dont know the real them. We are entitled to be happy too. I kind of see both you and your husbands points here. More so yours and I am the binge drinker in our relationship. But I am so much happier when he is working away. Does he have a hobby he could put his energy into when he is sober? My other half is a misery guts, I feel like he is my keeper. Criticising everyone, even people on tele in soap operas for having a social drink! I feel like it will be him who will drive me to drink.
Everything is such a chore to him from the minute he wakes up. He moams about everything for example his phone pinged an email the other day and he said “ugh I’ve an email” and the big heavy sigh every few minutes.
I may have gone off track in this conversation but I understand what it’s like living with a miserable person. Sucks the fun out of everything and drains you with their presence. At least you have work to shine. Which isn’t right either, you should be able to shine at home xxx
there are quite a lot of 'sober' accounts on Insta that are good. Little hints and tips and approaches to take. Have you seen those?
I drink too much and have done for a while but I always function and am never now drunk as I'm so used to it. I know if I joined a group then the other people there would turn me off going.
I’m quite like that, I can drink and drink and not get drunk. Then I’ll hit a point of too much and it smacks in the face and I know I’ve gone too far!!
Haven’t seen these insta accounts? I need to though
I just would like someone to talk to about itin a similar mindset or situation to me but all you lovely people are replying and I can’t message you privately
I feel like I’m very similar to a lot of you! I struggle to get through a weekend without drinking. but I don’t wake up in the morning needing a drink. I just like a drink on a Friday and Saturday night and usually take it too far. I can’t just have a glass, I either drink nothing or the whole bottle (or two...)
Lockdown #1 was bad because I wasn’t at working but this time I am; which I’m glad about because it means I don’t week day drink.
Lockdown #1 was bad because I wasn’t at working but this time I am; which I’m glad about because it means I don’t week day drink.
Congratulations on your first meeting! I am in AA, I last drank on 21 June 2008 when I was 28. I was in and out of AA for over a year before I eventually got that that’s where I needed to be. Nobody told me I was an alcoholic, they were just...there. And honest. And I heard so many people sharing the same experiences I was having but they’d stopped and were working the programme and I wanted what they had. One day at a time, sometimes it was one hour at a time, but I didn’t pick up.
The 12 Step programme for me is amazing. I’m biased but I think it should be taught in schools. It’s changed how I see what’s gone before and what’s going on just now. Like everyone else in the rooms, I was carrying tit around from the past, letting the wrong people live in my head rent free and not letting anything go. Practicing the principles on a daily basis gives me a fighting chance (not that I get it even nearly right a lot of the time tbh!)
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. You’ll always be welcome. But I would say, “normal” drinkers don’t usually find themselves in a meeting so if you got yourself there, maybe that’s exactly where you need to be.
Sending you lots of love and feel free to message any time
The 12 Step programme for me is amazing. I’m biased but I think it should be taught in schools. It’s changed how I see what’s gone before and what’s going on just now. Like everyone else in the rooms, I was carrying tit around from the past, letting the wrong people live in my head rent free and not letting anything go. Practicing the principles on a daily basis gives me a fighting chance (not that I get it even nearly right a lot of the time tbh!)
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. You’ll always be welcome. But I would say, “normal” drinkers don’t usually find themselves in a meeting so if you got yourself there, maybe that’s exactly where you need to be.
Sending you lots of love and feel free to message any time
That is amazing. i came across this song on Youtube last night, please listen, it is by Roan Ash - Whiskey to my soul.Congratulations on your first meeting! I am in AA, I last drank on 21 June 2008 when I was 28. I was in and out of AA for over a year before I eventually got that that’s where I needed to be. Nobody told me I was an alcoholic, they were just...there. And honest. And I heard so many people sharing the same experiences I was having but they’d stopped and were working the programme and I wanted what they had. One day at a time, sometimes it was one hour at a time, but I didn’t pick up.
The 12 Step programme for me is amazing. I’m biased but I think it should be taught in schools. It’s changed how I see what’s gone before and what’s going on just now. Like everyone else in the rooms, I was carrying tit around from the past, letting the wrong people live in my head rent free and not letting anything go. Practicing the principles on a daily basis gives me a fighting chance (not that I get it even nearly right a lot of the time tbh!)
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. You’ll always be welcome. But I would say, “normal” drinkers don’t usually find themselves in a meeting so if you got yourself there, maybe that’s exactly where you need to be.
Sending you lots of love and feel free to message any time