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Cbgpcd
Chatty Member
I felt the exact same as you!
I listened and thought to myself “I’m not that bad as these guys here” I was mortified incase I saw anyone I knew when entering the building. Absolutely appalled at peoples sharing stories. I never had the guts to share but I did do the “Hi I’m — and I’m an alcoholic” it felt odd. Also the influx of people giving me their numbers to call them overwhelmed me.
Now, it didn’t help me. I went to alcohol counselling which I found better. Being an over thinker I was becoming upset and down listening to fellow members sharing at AA.
My problem IS NOT like I wake up to drink, I drink drive, I shake when I don’t get a drink.
My problem is when I start I can’t stop at one or two. I get drunk very easy, I used to buy a bottle wine of a Saturday then run back round for another then another. Then I would be DYING of a Sunday, Monday. No use to my family then feel better then repeat.
I had a few accidents too drunk. Falling, breaking bones and be covered in bruises. I also showed myself up many times at work parties.
I stopped drinking and feel so much better but I still feel hard done by I can’t drink. I feel it’s not a Saturday night unless I’ve had one. Sorry for the essay. You can message me if you like xxx
EDIT: it caused many rows in my relationship too. Still does x
Makaraka
VIP Member
Hmmm I feel mixed feelings
Am I really needing it? Am I taking the piss by joining?
I honestly thought my alcohol intake was normal
Lockdown etc
But it’s causing problems in my relationship
And I just wanted to join and see if it could help?
i’m interested in other peoples alcohol intake through the week x
I’m scared
I’m lonely and I’m worried that it’s a problem
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LennyBriscoe
VIP Member
Congratulations on your first meeting! I am in AA, I last drank on 21 June 2008 when I was 28. I was in and out of AA for over a year before I eventually got that that’s where I needed to be. Nobody told me I was an alcoholic, they were just...there. And honest. And I heard so many people sharing the same experiences I was having but they’d stopped and were working the programme and I wanted what they had. One day at a time, sometimes it was one hour at a time, but I didn’t pick up.
The 12 Step programme for me is amazing. I’m biased but I think it should be taught in schools. It’s changed how I see what’s gone before and what’s going on just now. Like everyone else in the rooms, I was carrying shit around from the past, letting the wrong people live in my head rent free and not letting anything go. Practicing the principles on a daily basis gives me a fighting chance (not that I get it even nearly right a lot of the time tbh!)
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. You’ll always be welcome. But I would say, “normal” drinkers don’t usually find themselves in a meeting so if you got yourself there, maybe that’s exactly where you need to be.
Sending you lots of love and feel free to message any time
The 12 Step programme for me is amazing. I’m biased but I think it should be taught in schools. It’s changed how I see what’s gone before and what’s going on just now. Like everyone else in the rooms, I was carrying shit around from the past, letting the wrong people live in my head rent free and not letting anything go. Practicing the principles on a daily basis gives me a fighting chance (not that I get it even nearly right a lot of the time tbh!)
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. You’ll always be welcome. But I would say, “normal” drinkers don’t usually find themselves in a meeting so if you got yourself there, maybe that’s exactly where you need to be.
Sending you lots of love and feel free to message any time
DCICassieStuart
VIP Member
I can't offer you any advice I'm afraid, but well done for doing your first meeting. That took guts. How are you feeling now after it?
Cbgpcd
Chatty Member
If you are a binge drinker like myself he will catch you out.
what if you were to lower the alcohol percent? Like a 10% instead of a 13%? I know how you feel. I call my other half the fun police because he’s a boring bastard. When I met him he was great fun. I feel he has grown up and I am still stuck in that age. I feel jealous of the women who are able to have their drinks and be happy, not thinking where the next one is coming from. I believe it’s in the genes as my father and grandfather are alcoholics. I hope you come out of your hangover soon.xxx
daisydolittle
Member
I am exactly the same, I’ve always been a binge drinker since I was a teenager (I’m 43). It’s got my into all sorts of tricky situations and I’m so lucky I’ve not got seriously injured or worse. I’ve been binge drinking this weekend so I’ve been hungover and not been able to go to the supermarket so my boyfriend has gone mad and made me promise him I won’t have a drink til Christmas. I’m gutted. I’m now laid in bed thinking how I can have a drink without him noticing. I know I have a problem but I can honestly say I’ll never give up drinking because I like it too much.
Makaraka
VIP Member
Evening all, well it’s almost the middle of the night.
I’ve been doing a couple of meetings & although I am not in the same position as the people in them at all. The way they speak and lend advice is amazing!
massively cut down on drinking, I don’t feel the urge to pour one for the sake of it like I was.
I’m back at work again now and rather than come home from my shift and pour a glass of wine or gin to congratulate myself for getting through a tough day. I ordered Uber eats McDonald’s (I haven’t eaten all day and was starving)
Popped the tv on and I’m now going to bed to wake up with another clear head & go for a run before I see my little ones again
I’ve been doing a couple of meetings & although I am not in the same position as the people in them at all. The way they speak and lend advice is amazing!
massively cut down on drinking, I don’t feel the urge to pour one for the sake of it like I was.
I’m back at work again now and rather than come home from my shift and pour a glass of wine or gin to congratulate myself for getting through a tough day. I ordered Uber eats McDonald’s (I haven’t eaten all day and was starving)
Popped the tv on and I’m now going to bed to wake up with another clear head & go for a run before I see my little ones again
calmyourritas
VIP Member
I feel like I’m very similar to a lot of you! I struggle to get through a weekend without drinking. but I don’t wake up in the morning needing a drink. I just like a drink on a Friday and Saturday night and usually take it too far. I can’t just have a glass, I either drink nothing or the whole bottle (or two...)
Lockdown #1 was bad because I wasn’t at working but this time I am; which I’m glad about because it means I don’t week day drink.
Lockdown #1 was bad because I wasn’t at working but this time I am; which I’m glad about because it means I don’t week day drink.
Mulholland Drive
VIP Member
I'm an alcoholic, and have been for almost a year now, and this pandemic along with suffering SAD at this time of year has made my drinking condition much worse.
I did get in contact with AA online via their online chat popup, which gave me some guidance. The problem is the nearest AA branch is around 25 miles away, and have to yet to fully sign-up my membership because I am hoping to fly out to South Africa early next month.
I would definitely give AA a try, or perhaps individual counselling if you feel AA is too big a step. Nothing wrong with taking some advice from people who have been in your situation no matter whether you think you're a fully fledged alcoholic, or someone who thinks they're not quite one.
Take care and good luck x
I did get in contact with AA online via their online chat popup, which gave me some guidance. The problem is the nearest AA branch is around 25 miles away, and have to yet to fully sign-up my membership because I am hoping to fly out to South Africa early next month.
I would definitely give AA a try, or perhaps individual counselling if you feel AA is too big a step. Nothing wrong with taking some advice from people who have been in your situation no matter whether you think you're a fully fledged alcoholic, or someone who thinks they're not quite one.
Take care and good luck x
I feel like i am such a complainer on this group but here goes. I am grateful that my husband stopped drinking or tells me he stopped. But the dry drunk symptoms really is getting to me. Like i said before i never knew a dry drunk is a thing. So emotionally he never dealt with anything without the help of alcohol and dealing with anything is a VERY big deal to him. All i hear daily is a lot of negativity, from him being tired, and apparently the whole world is stupid except for him. It emotionally drains me, and I discussed the issue with him that it is making me depressed constantly listening to someone vomiting negative feelings. He has so much to be grateful for, and i stuck around and endured so many bad things, i was hoping he will try and redeem himself. I feel that i need to distance myself from him to be able to survive. He apologized but then does the exact same thing a short while later. I am a different and happy person at work, because i can smile and laugh, and not be treated like i live with my school principle all the time.
daisydolittle
Member
I feel fine now thank you. My other half is tee total, he doesn’t have any interest in alcohol whatsoever. This has had a good effect on me as I don’t actually drink as much as I used to. I dread to think what it would be like if we both drank. Lockdown has just made things worse though, I’m on my own most of the time as I don’t work, my other half had a stressful job so when he come home he likes to relax and watch tv on his own. I have teenage kids who do their own thing in their rooms. I’d usually take the dogs for a walk on an evening but the dark nights have put a stop to this. Everything is just shit and it’s even shitter now I’ve said I won’t have a drink til Christmas
calmyourritas
VIP Member
I’m really pleased you went for it and got some support. I can’t give any advice but always here if you want a chat xx
Cbgpcd
Chatty Member
It’s very daunting, but even just listening will be a great help to you xxx
watermelon sugar
VIP Member
I can't offer you any advice hun but I am very proud of you and you should be proud of yourself! I'm here if you need a chat & just remember if you keep going it will get easier and the effect you feel on yourself down the line will be better than how you are feeling now x
Sending all my love
Sending all my love
Jellybeansoup
Member
From the bottom of my heart, thank you for taking such a big step. My sister is an Alcoholic and we’ve been trying to get her to attend a meeting for a year or so now. We’ve had major incidents over the past 12 months where I’ve thought ‘this is the turning point’ but it never is. You should be so proud of yourself for taking action now as the worse the spiral gets, the harder it is to admit there’s a problem and get help.
Your friends and family will be so very grateful in the long run, and I wish you all the best on your recovery! You’re at the bottom of the mountain and it’s a big one to climb xx
Your friends and family will be so very grateful in the long run, and I wish you all the best on your recovery! You’re at the bottom of the mountain and it’s a big one to climb xx
cheltenhamgirl9
New member
Hi, just wanted to comment that my mum is a recovering alcoholic who attends AA-sober for approx 1 year. It sounds like you where she wasn’t sure if she was ‘alcoholic enough’ but there is such a wide array of people who attend by the sounds of it and it’s better to start now than leave it too late. I am proud of you for going to meetings, it is a wonderful and brave thing to do and your family/friends will be proud of you too x Please remember it is a journey with inevitable hiccups along the way! Sending lots of love and strength your way
That is amazing. i came across this song on Youtube last night, please listen, it is by Roan Ash - Whiskey to my soul.Congratulations on your first meeting! I am in AA, I last drank on 21 June 2008 when I was 28. I was in and out of AA for over a year before I eventually got that that’s where I needed to be. Nobody told me I was an alcoholic, they were just...there. And honest. And I heard so many people sharing the same experiences I was having but they’d stopped and were working the programme and I wanted what they had. One day at a time, sometimes it was one hour at a time, but I didn’t pick up.
The 12 Step programme for me is amazing. I’m biased but I think it should be taught in schools. It’s changed how I see what’s gone before and what’s going on just now. Like everyone else in the rooms, I was carrying shit around from the past, letting the wrong people live in my head rent free and not letting anything go. Practicing the principles on a daily basis gives me a fighting chance (not that I get it even nearly right a lot of the time tbh!)
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. You’ll always be welcome. But I would say, “normal” drinkers don’t usually find themselves in a meeting so if you got yourself there, maybe that’s exactly where you need to be.
Sending you lots of love and feel free to message any time
Makaraka
VIP Member
This is how I am. I can’t just stop at one.
I want to just quit and I’ll get to a point where I don’t have one for a day or two and then I think I deserve it because I haven’t had one.
I don’t drink in the day, or want one first thing in the morning either and there is times I could quite happily go somewhere and refuse but throughout this lockdown it’s progressively gotten worse.
I’m at such a loss
Cbgpcd
Chatty Member
I know it’s so difficult. What if in a week or so you say look I’m having a drink tonight I’ve had a good few off it. With a lower % so your not as dying? I’ve tried every trick in the book. It’s an awful affliction. Demon drink. Why do we love it so much? I’m dreading if I have another drink again. The trouble it will cause. Try walk your dogs earlier? I am in the same boat as you, with no job and other half has a stressful job. I feel after cooking cleaning mothering all day everyday I deserve a drink watching StrictlyI feel fine now thank you. My other half is tee total, he doesn’t have any interest in alcohol whatsoever. This has had a good effect on me as I don’t actually drink as much as I used to. I dread to think what it would be like if we both drank. Lockdown has just made things worse though, I’m on my own most of the time as I don’t work, my other half had a stressful job so when he come home he likes to relax and watch tv on his own. I have teenage kids who do their own thing in their rooms. I’d usually take the dogs for a walk on an evening but the dark nights have put a stop to this. Everything is just shit and it’s even shitter now I’ve said I won’t have a drink til Christmas
I think of all the bad times we’ve been through and bad things that’s happened because of drink in my life. It shouldn’t be like this though. Sometimes I think my other half enjoys looking at me miserable. I am trying so hard but I will drink soon I guarantee it. Then he will be a pious smug fucker to me.