Age gap in a relationship?

[coconochanel]

biggest age gap of a man I've even been with was 20 yrs older.

 

[Pixipoppy]

I’ve never actually been in a relationship with someone significantly older than me - my boyfriends have all either been the same age (give or take a few months) or younger. The biggest gap was him being 4 years younger. I’ve never even dated a guy more than 5 years older than me!! It’s not even a preference, I think I just attract younger guys because I look young myself - (I’ve been with my partner for 7 years so I don’t really know what it would be like now). If I were single I think the oldest I’d go would be 40 (I’m coming up to 32).

 

[Ls2991]

I was with someone that was 39 when I was 26. It was OK when we were together (really didn’t bother either of us at all) - we often talked about getting married and having kids but once we split up he told me one of the factors in that decision was, deep down he didn’t want I have any more children and I do want them. After he told me that I did think more about the age gap and I figured it would have become problematic further down the line.

 

[Lindssdnil]

My ex was 12 years older than me. Didn’t matter at all at first. Five years in it really started to show in various ways so I wouldn’t be in a relationship with that large gap again.

Could you extend further?

 

[MrsWolf]

My husband is 14 years older than me.. and his eldest daughter is only 7 years younger than me

We have never found it weird though, apart from once when discussing a song my husband remembers hearing for the first time in a club when he was 18 and I said I didn’t know it as I was only 4 at the time

 

[Likkleone]

When I was 24 my ex was 44. Loved being with an older man but it made me realise how different we were due to the age gap and how we were at different stages in our life. It really opened my eyes up. Not saying I wouldn’t do it again but I’d be more picky and would needed to suss out what they want and don’t want

Same age gap as me and my ex! I love an older man. Only issue was he wasn’t sure on kids (I mean you kind of should have an idea if you want them at 46) and I very much do! But I had no issue other than that so I’d still welcome a 20 year gap if the right person came along

 

[Upintheair83]

My ex was 12 years older than me. We were only together for about a year until i went off with a Turkish guy I met on holiday!
But he was 39 I think and had 4 kids (All boys aged 6,11,13 and15) and had been married before. He was also a very successful business man.
I was about 27 when we met and we were total opposites. It didn’t work.
I wasn’t as mature or Independent as him and he couldn’t have ever made me happy and I’m sure I couldn’t have made him happy. We were in completely different pages. I was well out of my depth because I’d never had children and still don’t. I wanted to go out and go on dates, I didn’t want to sit in and babysit. He was always working and never really dedicated any time to us. He expected me to cook for the kids when it was his time to have them and sort of be a babysitter. We went on our first holiday with the kids and it was disaster- he slept by the pool and I just looked after the kids - one night he promised we could have a drink by the bar, so I got all ready and then he just lay on the bed and said he was going to watch the football match!! and that’s when I went to the bar myself and got with this Turkish animation guy! And we then got separate rooms and that was it. Was a brilliant holiday after that!
But we weren’t compatible, I wasn’t mature enough back then and he had lived his youth and had all this responsibly and I was a free spirit.
I don’t regret the relationship because I went on to fall In love with the Turkish guy, have my heart broken by him and learnt many lessons in love (we still remain friends however) and now Iv met my perfect guy who was at the same stage of his life than me, he is 4 years younger but he has no kids and we now live together and are trying for a baby.
But I would never have got with my ex if I had known what I know now. It was all just too much of an age gap for me.

 

[Beckyboo85]

24 year age gap here, 11 years together and one daughter between us.
And that's as much as I'll throw down

Love hearing things like this - sometimes feel like I’m in the minority x

 

[Lindssdnil]

Serious question; is this a "Ladies Only" thread?

No?

 

[Youre a wizard Harry]

My parents have an 11 year age gap, they were 21 and 32 when they met. Have been together for 30 years!
I know someone who has a 22 year age difference with her fiance. In their photos they look more like father and daughter. Having said that, the age gap is one of the least concerning things about the relationship.

 

[Lovegin]

Hi, Yes you could, nothing in life is guaranteed but there's more chance of it if your husband is 20 years older than you. Also say you are 50 would you really want to be stuck with someone 70 plus? I wouldn't. The older you get the more pronounced age differences become. I'm sorry to hear about your husband that's very young to pass away.

Thanks, it was quite a few years ago now

 

[prpkw]

24 year age gap here, 11 years together and one daughter between us.
And that's as much as I'll throw down

How old were you when you got together?

 

[Lindssdnil]

I would personally say enjoy it and go for it - but cautiously so! Make sure you're on the same page with things you want to do over the next years if you can find that stuff out without sounding too creepy I love my older boyfriend and couldn't ever imagine dating a man my age now (late 20s). We've been together 4 years now and have a gap of 14 years.

There are a lot of benefits an older person can have (maturity, gone through their fuckboy years already, know what they want in life) but there is a risk of them being immature, having lots of baggage, things like that. Just trust your gut on the downsides and the vibes you get from that.

I’m just wondering why there’s no ex wife or kids?? Sometimes I feel it’s a little suspicious

 

[CatVonMe]

My partner is 12 years older than me. I’ve always been maturer for my age and that’s down to life and how quickly I’ve had to grow up compared to my peers. My ex was closer to my age but the immaturity and lack of desire to be independent from his parents really got to me. My current partner has no kids and had long term relationships but never came close to marriage which made things way easier of course. I’m not sure I’d have felt quite the same if he maybe had been engaged or married before. He’s definitely a young soul and im an old soul so we meet somewhere in the middle! We are in the process of buying a house together now and that’s literally the ONLY time the age gap has affected us because our mortgage term can’t be as long as maybe other people’s. At the start I definitely worried about others said but it doesn’t bother me at all now. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been!

 

[BlobbyBlobbyBlobby]

My fiancé is 2 years older than me

 

[Beckyboo85]

My parents have an 11 year age gap, they were 21 and 32 when they met. Have been together for 30 years!
I know someone who has a 22 year age difference with her fiance. In their photos they look more like father and daughter. Having said that, the age gap is one of the least concerning things about the relationship.

Interesting can you elaborate x

 

[Kim Mild]

I've never had a boyfriend younger than 19. My first proper boyfriend was 19 when I was still 15 . When i was 19, the boyfriend I had then was 19 .
I've had older boyfriends too. At 18 I dated a 31 year old who ditched me he was past fooling round and wanted to settle down and have kids. Obviously not with me ,though!.Last I heard about him ,he was still single, no kids.1
My oldest's dad is 10 years older than me and acts like a perpetual teenager. However , he would use the excuse that I was childish if we argued .
Currently, I'm the older by a couple of years.

 

[Suzesnooze]

Any difference in age is an age gap .

3 years between my husband and I

Then why are all the other posts about large age gaps?

 

[coconochanel]

Serious question; is this a "Ladies Only" thread?

no.