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Held my tongue on this one as long as I can but her stories today specifically have enraged me.

As someone with a young-ish family member in a care home, I’m sooo glad she’s out of that sector.

When I go into visit my family member I’m always in awe at the way the staff make effort with the residents and in doing so, they have personally helped us manage a very difficult transition just over a year ago. I know this is not the norm but we have been so, so lucky. I can’t believe how much she is pissing over the care sector and it saddens me because we as a family could not be more grateful to the wonderful staff in the care home we visit, and we are always let them know what a great job they’re doing and how much we appreciate them. It’s not an easy job.

My family member was close to death trying to survive living independently at home on their own with young onset dementia, and now they are thriving. Like a whole new person…Content, happy, well cared for and safe. I like to go in sometimes and spend a wee 10 mins here and there talking to some other residents that don’t have family visiting them. I enjoy that as much as they do. She comes across as the type that wouldn’t chat to residents even when carrying out caring duties.

“Minimum wage, minimum effort”. She’ll never get anywhere with that attitude, and further, it’s especially disgusting when talking about providing care to vulnerable people. Those poor souls aren’t paying her directly so why should they suffer. She’s a fucking nasty bitch and if she were blessed with half a brain cell she’d keep her thoughts about working in care to herself. As a manager in a different area of work, I’d never want someone like her working for me. She’d last 2 mins.

I commend (most) of the people working in care. Not her though. I wouldn’t want someone like that caring for any of my family. She’s not good enough to be a carer. She lacks compassion, has zero empathy and is the most selfish, entitled, arrogant self centred lassie.

She’s got a negative attitude, no patience and I bet all the poor people she’s ‘cared’ for over the years absolutely hated her. Wait till she gets a kicking and pissed/spat on in the prison. Can’t wait for that.

To summarise, since you read here.. Abby hen, a care job isn’t beneath you. The reality is that you are not good enough to be a carer.

Now away and paint more things black to match your soul

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If she applies to go back into support work I will 100% be contacting the sssc and directing them to her insta posts. She is not the type of person who should be caring for vulnerable people. Her smug face as she talks about 24hr shifts being easy!!!! I work these 24 hr shifts she is talking about and I can tell you right now that if you are finding them easy then you are clearly sitting on your lazy arse not interacting with the person you are there to support. The rest of the support staff no doubt had to make up for her incompetence. You are not there to just do as you like as she put it. You are there to support someone to do what THEY like!! Very obvious now why once the person died she was not offered hours supporting another person. Social care is understaffed so there is always work. They just wanted shot of her

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Speaking from experience she was one of the worst carers I have worked with in my 20+ years in hospitals and care homes

It’s a sad day when your walls are more moist than your dinner

Wants to work in a prison because she’s watched crime documentaries for years.

I watched Game of Thrones for years, but I’m not suddenly inclined to bonk my brother and ride around on a dragon.

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Home_withthedunsmures 4 - wet plaster, black mould, that island on wheels is comedy gold


On a serious note, I really want to know how the hell they got that monstrosity of a fridge in the house at all. Every time I see it it shocks me!

Guessing her contact lenses still haven’t arrived.

Imherebutimnot said:

Stu? Is that you?

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No but look what she's getting for the garden a pool!! I didn't screenshot the ones she was looking at but similar to this one! LOL!!

The door arrived like her......unhinged

Booked and busy, bitches

Jfc she’s already talking about quitting the security job cos she doesn’t know if it’s right for her she is honestly ridiculous

littlemisssocial said:

People on here called it weeks ago I thought she’d stick with to save face

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She is making herself unemployable. As someone who myself works in HR, I would look at her CV and reject straight away. This is someone that costs companies a fortune and is in no way reliable

Imagine being so insecure in your marriage that you quit a job being ‘people have affairs’. Abby Hen, if just don’t shag anyone you work with, you’ll be reyt

You can imagine her on holiday ‘oh I prefer chilling in our pool back home which overlooks our secret garden. I usually grab a couple of snacks from the pantry’

I honestly think she only wants a security job after a prison officer job because she wants a job with some authority, where she looks down on people and makes herself feel superior

“I’m a home person & being away from Stu and the cats didn’t help.” No mention of Bella! That poor dog Those boss eyed cats get the run of the house and Bella just gets shut in the kitchen and forgotten about.

Another one who lacks sympathy I am afraid to say.

I do feel sorry she is suffering mentally but she brings a lot on herself. She is feeling like shit as she has finally realised she is up shit creek alley. Hates new job but nothing else to go to other than admitting defeat and going back to care but who will want her when her CV reads 9 jobs in a year.

She has no savings, a huge project of a house, blistered relationships and a lot of that was her own doing.

She bashed her family saying they were this and that and she cut them out of her life 10 years ago. Her mum was posting pictures of them 8 years ago. Her family look happy. They don't look like dossers or horrible people. The other children look clean, fed, looked after and happy. They seem to do a lot as a family - lots of holidays.

Abby hated care, she was spiteful about it and offended people by saying what she did. She has jumped from care to care job. Her husband still works in that field and I think it was quite rude of her to act the way she did. This is the thing though, why shit on what you had just incase you need to go back to it?

Her cleaning business never even lifted off. Spent hundreds on cards, branded work equipment, bags to carry cleaning stuff in and then she just stopped mentioning it one day. Who has money to just throw at a business and not even start? To become established you need to work for it. It will not fall into your lap.

Cat after cat yet has enough animals as it is. Bella never gets a look in. Animals cost money. She shared this week she spent over £100 on food for them. More money they will need to find.

Now we are left with this shit show...

She left her council flat for this house. It has many underlying issues which have not been sorted. I would be hugely concerned about that house in the next 5-10 years and what will happen to the infrastructure. I would be stressing out and maybe unable to sleep since the day I moved there but not Abby. The bathroom, kitchen with the stupid island that didn't fit and the pantry which had rats in when they moved, along with a sofa worth 2k and flooring which is going to be 6k and fitted wardrobes which is only another 2.5k were all more important. My suspicions are that she knows that they have bought shit. She has wasted all the money and now is having a realisation that she is going to have to work to sort all these issues and drop her b&m hauls.

Now stuck at a job, crying on Instagram. Life is hard. She has made her own life harder. No one spent all her savings. She wanted the holidays, the crap for the house, the skin care stuff. What has Stu got? She openly said that Stu got ill last time they tried to get a mortgage through stress. If this man isn't stressed now having to pay a mortgage and supporting her whilst shes fritted all the savings away, I assume in a few months time he will be pulling his hair out.

Abby needs to sort herself out and soon. If she isn't going to stick college she needs a job as of yesterday. She needs to stop giving it the instahun life and look whats in front of her. Save for a year. Put your house right. Carry on building a life with Stu.

You don’t need to pay for a gym membership Abby. You can exercise for free at home… remember your dog Bella? Why don’t you try taking her for a walk? She’s a big dog, she should be getting multiple walks a day. You should be ashamed of yourself.

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She's a Johnny of no trades and doesn't want a job, Abby get some help, stop being a lazy slob!

I'm struggling to feel sorry for her. If she wasn't so smug in trying to prove her mother wrong and didn't stop banging on about this being her dream career then maybe I'd have a smidge of sympathy. Welcome to reality! This girl wouldn't know hard work if it slapped her in the face. Everyone needs to make sacrifices if they want a decent life, no one said it would be easy. I just hope she gets the help she so desperately needs. Stu needs to man up and convince her to see a therapist.

Strap in trolls, quick round up of the last thread (from what I can remember)
A botched moving day, where they sat around waiting (with all their stuff at the bottom of the flat stairs) for a ‘removal’ company to come collect it. Turns out she’d forgot she already told everyone that they had been told to hire a van and family could help… nothing was ever confirmed.
We have watched in the trade jonny decide he could plaster and thought stus house would be the best place to practise… it’s clear jonny needs more practise. They paid him £600 instead of £300 like he asked because they’re nice people & they bought all the tools.
They’ve ignored the real issues of damp, mould & woodworm. And gone on to paint rooms when they’re still drying out.
Abby has purchased several items of furniture that don’t fit as she fails to measure anything. Her excessive spending is said to have stoped the UK going into recession, hauls have included (but not limited too) dunelm, home bargains, b&m, the white company, M&S, H&M, Amazon, jet2/tui/Thomson & charity shops & a shit ton of supplies to botch the kitchen.
This brings us nicely to the kitchen, where do I start, wow what an eventful few days that was. Colour was hideous, tiles were hideous, idea was hideous, island & pantry up for debate about which is worse.
Moving onto the other ridiculous choices of colours she’s battering around for both the bedroom & sitting room.
Abby has had 3 jobs recently, hated all & quit them all. Applied to the prison told everyone about it, but actually hasn’t passed a fitness test yet, which reminds me of her daily runs she was doing around the block, only happened twice. Stus now decided he hates his job too.
Abby is planning on buying the land at the back of their house because it’s waste & why would anyone want it, but expects her neighbour to want it and if not she’ll have it all. Started with not wanting to piss of the neighbour turned into pissing him off really quick.
She’d also like a log burner next summer & a single story extension where she plans to
Make a 3rd bedroom and her bathroom bigger (upstairs) and install her 20k bathroom, at the same time as extending the kitchen and installing French patio doors cause that’s what she’s always wanted.
Stus also getting to buy half a kitten for Christmas, bringing the total number to 4 &
1 neglected dog.
I’m sad she’s deactivated her account, I was really missing the morning view and a cup
Of tea.

Congratulations to stu for managing to secure a mortgage despite the defaults on his credit file, he must feel like a top husband that can buy a house after being repeatedly told for years they have no choice but to cash buy (by lady Abby herself) Abby unfortunately you spend erratically & haven’t been able to hold down a job for 18 month and therefore we’re unsuccessful, good luck when it comes to remortgage though, you might get your name on it and not just as stus dependant in the near future.