Me ex-oh was controlling. I put up with crap rather than upset things and destroy our perfect family. And everyone thought we were the ideal family. Always well dressed, lovely house, never argued. As long as he was happy.
I didn’t have an eating disorder, but if my size 10/12 clothes got tight he called me a fat cow. I made amazing meals but hardly ate them.
My daughter adored her Dad..or so I thought.
My son was a quiet introverted child.
Then I plucked up the courage to get rid of him, one bit on the side too many.
It was only then I realised my children were being perfectly behaved just to keep Daddy happy.
Once he was gone they blossomed! Developed opinions, personalities, had ambitions of their own.
That’s why I am sympathetic to Victoria.