So would you stay there or are you set on returning home soon? It feels like you moved there off your own accord, not for someone and I feel like there is a difference. The only reason he would move to the UK with you is because of you, and that is so much pressure. Whereas with you there were other things that drew you abroad and you made a life of your own there, not totally dependent on him.Thanks for your kind message.
Whats difficult is that I was already here before we met,
thanks for your kind message! What makes it difficult is that I already lived here before we started dating so I already have a life I built, with my own income and career. I am totally independent, but I was honest in telling him I’m not certain I would always want to stay here (already been here 5 years since I was 25) just because the career options are limited outside of my current employer. Everything else is great and much better than home (in my opinion) I already feel integrated without the language and that’s something I would push myself to learn if I stayed here with him.
My biggest fear is staying here to make it work with him longer than what I would have really wanted, having kids and maybe splitting up and then I’m stuck here with limited career options.
His ex wife was from Brazil and moved here to be with him, so he knows what it takes to have an international relationship. It’s not his first rodeo.
Prior to this death in the family he was even googling visas and work options in other countries where we were happy to go. Now something switched and he’s not open to it at all and it seemed to be the bereavement.
Maybe experiencing the death of your grandma made him realise that life is quite short and he didn't want to be so far apart from loved ones and he wanted to spend as much time as possible with them while he can?