I find this woman relies far too much on the validation of children, strangers and anyone that will give her it. I’ve gone through a lot very similar to her and I go weeks without even bringing it up. Whilst I know trauma affects people differently, I’d just hate discussing it SO often as that would
duck up my mental health so much more.
I have no relationship with my mum, I even moved hundreds of miles away to get away from her. I can go a few days without even thinking about her at all now, it’s been almost 7 years and I’ve worked so hard on myself to get to this point. She needs to take a step back and do the same for her mental sake. Her husband must be sick of hearing about it, surely that affects his mental health too? I wonder how the mums feel about their ex partners wife and her TikToks.
I’d be fuming if they were my ex partners wife putting private details up about my children, cards or anything. I’d also be worried about about her telling them things that they shouldn’t know about at all. I’ll probably never tell my children the full extent of my trauma, my partner and dad don’t even know all of it because it’s such a heavy topic.
I personally get the ick from her husband, he’s a pedophile in my opinion. I know she thinks he’s the best thing since sliced bread but he was lurking around a vulnerable teenager whilst he already had a partner and 4 kids. I’d find that alarming but she was young, vulnerable, easily manipulated, no idea of boundaries from her own abusive family, and he’s probably her first love.
I’d wonder what they even had in common besides her grandmother and him being her gardener. Grown adults shouldn’t be around teenagers, especially ones who have so much more life experience. She became “step mum” before she even lived her life free of her abusive family. She should’ve had time for herself to heal, get therapy, focus on herself. If my son dated someone that much younger than him and met her as a teen I’d feel disgusted to be honest.
I also find him weird in the sense that he said he hadn’t loved like that tell Mel or some
tit. I’m sorry to save but clearly you did otherwise you’d not have 4 kids with different women?
That must be nice for the mums to hear, that he was faking the love. Even better for the kids to hear that he didn’t properly love their mums too, such a weird thing to say. I think he’s just saying it to inflate her ego and make her feel better. She’s got to have her head in the clouds to think her partner didn’t love or have relations with someone else but she does come across the jealous type. Which is why she should’ve been with someone her own age from the beginning.
Only those who are agreeing with their comments can post on the thread it seems. If they are an advanced nurse and a complete stranger to Mel I think they need to book in some therapy themselves because to pick holes in another’s story and compare it to your own is dangerous and wrong. Fair enough offer a different perspective but you have went too far on a lot of your posts and you come across as a strange and nasty person. I enjoyed this thread til you took it over now it’s become something awful.
Grow up and leave them alone.
