My grandmother was 21 when she married my grandfather at 37.. He treated her like a queen and there was nine in the family… the marriage last 50 years.. So some gaps do work.. she is was very happy and not groomed….
It is a different situation for Aaron & Sam though. Your grandmother was an adult at the time and though you haven't said it, I assume your grandfather wasn't in a position of power over her when they got together. Aaron depending on who you ask was 11 when they first met as she was rumoured to know the family although that has never been confirmed. That or he was 17 years old which was the age he was when he first auditioned for her and she claimed they 'connected' straight away. Whatever way you look at it, as his director, she should have kept it professional but she didn't and spent most of the shoot chasing after him like a schoolgirl rather than doing her job while telling anyone who would listen 'he's an old soul and I am immature for my age' and act like he was the aggressor chasing her and she had no choice but to give in even though she was the adult at the time.
Even worse, while most people would introduce their other half gradually to their children, he was put forward as stepfather to her two daughters straight away with the oldest only being seven years younger.
If you have time, I recommend reading this article as the author points out the issues that so many seem to ignore...specifically the fact that if the shoe was on the other foot, there would be an outcry over it which there has been more than once, a perfect example being Leo DiCaprio and the girls half his age.
Director Sam Taylor-Johnson and her actor husband, Aaron Taylor-Johnson, were trending this week because of a now-debunked divorce rumour, which inspired me to look back at how they couple, who are 23 years apart, have been covered before. Spoiler alert: It wasn’t great.
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