Would you or wouldn’t you? (housing question)

[HankMcPrank]

Please can I ask your choice:

Would you stay where you lived, with a lifetime tenancy, detached house, but the worst neighbour known to man where you are walking on egg shells day by day.

Or...

Move house to the neighbouring village, semi-detached with a 5 year fixed term tenancy with any tenancy breaches you ?

I’m torn. I want to move but don’t feel I should leave my home. But cannot live day by day with worry. And the landlord isn’t taking any action on the neighbour baring in mind it’s affecting all my family?
This includes; social services, police & malicious allegations which are not true.

 

[Happy35]

If it was completely unbearable then I would move, if I could tolerate it I would stay - your current tenancy is more stable but I would be thinking about my mental health and that of my family

 

[MaxieMoo]

I think it's a tricky one. Is there a chance the unbearable neighbours may move on at some point?

You could risk the chance of difficult neighbours at the next house. Reading the thread on here about problematic neighbours I would probably rather have this issue in a detached house over a semi given the choice.

What is your gut instinct telling you to do?

 

[Trixabellee9393]

Move -peace is good for ur mental health

 

[HankMcPrank]

I just don’t know what to do. Even my gut instict is all over the place, x

I think it's a tricky one. Is there a chance the unbearable neighbours may move on at some point?

You could risk the chance of difficult neighbours at the next house. Reading the thread on here about problematic neighbours I would probably rather have this issue in a detached house over a semi given the choice.

What is your gut instinct telling you to do?

I’m not too sure if they would ever move.

If it was completely unbearable then I would move, if I could tolerate it I would stay - your current tenancy is more stable but I would be thinking about my mental health and that of my family

I can tolerate it, as I have cameras and proof behind me. The local authority are very supportive and social services understand that it is malicious. X

 

[Alexaj]

Move. Life's too short.

 

[Hendrix]

Move.

 

[Raininvain]

I'd probably look first at getting at restraining order or something of that nature on the neighbour, then if he continues to harass you he'll go to prison. Its difficult but why should you move out of a secure home? Whats the problem with him is it mental health issues or dementia or something?

 

[Base2019]

Move, I think you have answered your own question by saying you can’t live day by day with worry.... move and don’t look back!

 

[HankMcPrank]

I'd probably look first at getting at restraining order or something of that nature on the neighbour, then if he continues to harass you he'll go to prison. Its difficult but why should you move out of a secure home? Whats the problem with him is it mental health issues or dementia or something?

mental health problems.
but it’s wasting social services time by the malicious reports that are not true

 

[Yel]

Without a second thought move, it's not worth the agro of bad neighbours regardless of the other benefits.

 

[50sGirl]

Move.
We had the neighbour from hell.
We moved 4 years ago. It wasn’t until we left that I realised how much weight had been on my shoulders for years.
Within a week of moving, my friends and family told me that I was back to my old self (I didn’t know I’d changed prior to that). I felt “free”.
Your home should be your haven but with a neighbour from hell it never can be.

 

[Raininvain]

mental health problems.
but it’s wasting social services time by the malicious reports that are not true

If they know he's a malicious timewaster they wont investigate anyway. Cant the Police talk to him or get him some support? I had problems with an old man next door screaming at me all the time and the PCSOs spoke to him and its since stopped. I think he's got dementia but the family cover it up. X Sorry your having all this. X

 

[Bizzarebbq]

Stay and get a restraining order. You dont know the neighbours in the semi detached and you might be able to hear them through the walls, they might play music late, etc. I cant wait to move to a detached house. Thats just my opinion on what you should do x

 

[littlepup]

Find out if he is renting/doesn’t own the property, he could be in breach of his contract if so. If he doesn’t own, I’d Stay and pursue the neighbour with any police action you can. People like that shouldn’t be allowed to get away with it. He’ll just be one nastier and nastier in retaliation no doubt but will eventually trip up. I’d be tempted to stay even if her does own and pursue a harassment charge.
Semi-detached could be just as bad and you’d share a wall.

 

[LaurieLaurie]

Stay!!
Your neighbours won’t be there forever and how do you know the people in the semi won’t be worse?

 

[HankMcPrank]

Find out if he is renting/doesn’t own the property, he could be in breach of his contract if so. If he doesn’t own, I’d Stay and pursue the neighbour with any police action you can. People like that shouldn’t be allowed to get away with it. He’ll just be one nastier and nastier in retaliation no doubt but will eventually trip up. I’d be tempted to stay even if her does own and pursue a harassment charge.
Semi-detached could be just as bad and you’d share a wall.

housing association tenant x

 

[littlepup]

housing association tenant x

This is good news I think.
" All social landlords must publish policies and procedures for dealing with anti-social behaviour under the Anti-social Behaviour Act 2003. You can inspect a copy of these at reasonable times of day and request a copy for a reasonable fee. You can request a summary free of charge. "

I don't know what you've done so far and I'm assuming this neighbour is purely malicious and you're not at fault but if you haven't already I'd take some time to really understand your rights and what avenues are open to you to get this dealt with.
Have a look here Anti-social behaviour in housing (ageuk.org.uk) and the ombudsman Neighbour nuisance and anti-social behaviour - Local Government and Social Care Ombudsman and maybe speak to CAB.
You don't say if you're in social housing too. If you are, It may be that if you're the only family targeted by this person they will just offer to move you and that's all you can hope for but I would push for like for like.

 

[TheScarletgirl]

I would keep a detached if i could you can't hear your neighbours.

 

[HankMcPrank]

I still don’t know what to do.