What do you want to rant about today? #16

[DiscoBiscuit]

I took my 7 year old and 15 month old to soft play this morning.
There was a boy about 5 or 6 running around kicking other kids. Not just a little nudge by accident as he ran past, he was searching for a target, taking a run-up, and full-on booting kids, then running off laughing.
I was in the toddler bit with the little one, and while a couple of us were trying to work out which adult he was with, he set his sights on my child. As he ran over I scooped her up, so he changed direction and kicked a little girl in the back of the head. Her Mum picked her up, passed her to her Dad, then took this boy by the hand. She walked to the middle of the seating area and shouted "who does this child belong to?"
A woman came over, said it was her son, and asked what the issue was.

"Your son is running around kicking little kids. On purpose."
"He's Autistic, he doesn't understand."
"Right, and are you Autistic too?"
"...no?"
"In that case you should understand. Put your phone down, get off your backside, and supervise your kid."
"I told you, he's Autistic, he can't help it."

The argument went on for a bit longer, with several other people joining in, and in the end the lady with the kicker shouted something about discrimination and left.

I don't care what your kid is diagnosed with, it does not give them the right to hurt other people. If your kid cannot behave in public, for whatever reason, supervise them. If supervision isn't enough, keep them at home. People should be able to take their kids out to enjoy themselves without fear of them being attacked.

And don't get me started on the giant 7 year olds in the under 2 area

 

[hehehe]

Arseholes who tailgate me when I'm going over speedbumps... give me some bloody space, what's the rush, we all need to be going slowly over these bumps, no need to be up my backside with your bloody car.

I just came back from a drive where at 10.30pm I went down a residential road where there are a series of about 8 speedbumps. A driver was literally about a foot behind me for each of them. I was so tempted to just stamp my breaks but I think they would have crashed into me. Some people need to learn some personal space/ safe distance on the road.

Road rage!!
An old lady in front of me decided to slam on her breaks to go over a speed bump. I keep a good distance and ended up a bit closer to her than I would have liked due to her slamming on her breaks. I backed off and kept distance. Had to follow her for about 10 minutes with her swearing at me, beeping, putting hazards on and constantly doing emergency stops. Her car was okay enough so don’t think it was insurance scam she was just an angry batty woman.
she then turned around at the roundabout and ended up behind me so I pulled over to ask her what her issue is but she turned around and drove off

You found each other!

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

So just an update to my moan about not knowing what to do for the best with my dog.
We spoke about it on Friday night after the kids had gone to bed, and agreed it was time. So we've had the weekend, lots of cuddles, her favourite treats yesterday, and this morning we took her to the vets where she went peacefully. We're devastated, but it was definitely for the best.

And just to keep on topic, some knob hit my Husband's car in the car park with his tow bar. Luckily it's just cracked the reg plate, but it's just something we don't want to deal with today.

 

[Hollie Day]

I have a five year old and a five day old baby. Husband is great at pulling his weight and helping out but for the last two days we've had people just showing up unannounced to see the baby. I'm already exhausted with lack of sleep. Husband steps and does all the running around making tea/coffee and snacks for them but I'm not in the mood for socialising and I'm left to chat with them and answer endless questions about how the birth went. I'm currently locked in the bathroom crying because his uncle and the girlfriend have said they'd pop in 'later on'. Just 'later on' , no specific time. Husband messaged back saying we're having a terrible day settling the baby and could they come another time. Response was 'we may as well come today as we're in the area' Wtf??!! I wish everyone would just leave us the fuck alone.

 

[cwymmie]

Men and their incessant need to offer their remarks or opinions where they’re certainly not wanted or needed!
Went to the local town market today where there was a cake stall. Went over to have a nosey and a woman was ordering two slices of cheesecake and a pastry. The man behind her in the queue proceeds to say, in an accusatory, non jokey way, “you’re having a very high calorie lunch aren’t you!”. She then explained they’re for her daughters who are in their teens and active and can have all the calories they need to keep them going for the day.
First of all, she was much more polite than me to have explained. He’d have got nothing but a filthy look out of me.
Secondly, shut the fuck up will you. Do you really think a grown woman is ordering three cakes for herself for lunch? Even if she was, how does this even bother you? Also you’re in the queue for the fucking cakes too so is it ok for you but not for a woman?? Just shut up

 

[Debtex]

Bullies
Long time ago but I was bullied badly at Primary school . Name calling and physically beaten up by 2 girls who were both bigger than me .
Pushed off a 6 ft wall backwards - it’s hard stuff to forget even years later .
I’ve just discovered that the main bully is now a
Lady Vicar at a nearby church .
So tempted to rock up at communion and remind her of my school days in front of her flock

 

[Kittylover2019]

Slight overreaction imo. I know you won't agree but teenagers are well known drama queens and shouldn't be taught that all middle aged men are perverts. Surely life in the big wide world is about being approached by " all sorts of strange people " and knowing where the real danger lies. And that's not usually on a public bus.
Im now a middle aged woman who has had more than my fair share of stranger danger but I am sick of being on buses or public transport nowadays with paranoid younger people sitting in the aisle seats with their bags on the window seats or girls with their feet up on backwards facing seats all to stop " strangers " daring to sit next to them.
I've heard their outraged conversations if someone dares to ask them to move their bags or sit next to them.
All a bit pathetic imo.

Not really.

She’s been travelling by bus to school/college since she was 11 so is well experienced.

If she says she was scared, then she was. We don’t need validation of someone’s feelings from you.
If the real danger doesn’t lie on a public bus where is it then so I can educate her?

The danger imo is with a middle aged man who sits next to a pretty girl when there are 20 other seats available. My husband wouldn’t do it, because he’s not weird.

She’s not one of ‘these people’ either as you say in your other post, she’s my daughter, not an entitled one either

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

We lost our dog just before Christmas. We knew it was time, it was obvious she was done, we made the kind choice.

Our other dog is also heading in that direction. She's slowed right down, she sleeps for about 22 hours a day, she's completely blind, and we suspect she's got some sort of doggy dementia. But most days she seems content. She gets up, goes outside, had a drink, has a potter round the kitchen, then goes back to bed. In the evening she comes and sleeps on the sofa with us after the kids have gone to bed. Sometimes while she's outside she just sits, sniffing the air, and listening to the world.

But then every couple of weeks she has a bad couple of days, and we have the conversation again about whether it's time, then she'll rally again.
This morning we were really convinced it was time. Husband was going to ring the vet when they opened and we'd discussed sending the baby to my parents. She'd not eaten for 3 days. We'd tried every flavour of her food, we'd tried bits of chicken, ham, cheese, she just wasn't interested. She also seemed wobbly on her feet, and generally fed up.

When I got back from the school run I tried her with more food, and she absolutely wolfed it down. I gave her another portion and she's wolfed that down too. She's been outside pottering in the garden, trotting around, tail held high. So we're back to monitoring the situation.

I just wish it was more clear what was happening. Obviously I don't want her to go, but I don't want to drag it out for her and make her more miserable, or for her to suffer. Friends of ours dragged their poor dog's life on for a good month longer than they should have done, purely for their own benefit, and I don't want to do that. I just want to do what's best for her, at the right time.

 

[FlipFlop0706]

The princess of wales and this photo bollocks. Seriously who gives a shit?!

 

[loveulongtime0]

Started crying in work. Fed up with the way customers speak to us on the phone, it’s disgusting and then they get away with it because they have “mental health problems” or they’re “autistic”. It’s not a free pass to be a cunt.

 

[Crabbypatty00]

I took my 7 year old and 15 month old to soft play this morning.
There was a boy about 5 or 6 running around kicking other kids. Not just a little nudge by accident as he ran past, he was searching for a target, taking a run-up, and full-on booting kids, then running off laughing.
I was in the toddler bit with the little one, and while a couple of us were trying to work out which adult he was with, he set his sights on my child. As he ran over I scooped her up, so he changed direction and kicked a little girl in the back of the head. Her Mum picked her up, passed her to her Dad, then took this boy by the hand. She walked to the middle of the seating area and shouted "who does this child belong to?"
A woman came over, said it was her son, and asked what the issue was.

"Your son is running around kicking little kids. On purpose."
"He's Autistic, he doesn't understand."
"Right, and are you Autistic too?"
"...no?"
"In that case you should understand. Put your phone down, get off your backside, and supervise your kid."
"I told you, he's Autistic, he can't help it."

The argument went on for a bit longer, with several other people joining in, and in the end the lady with the kicker shouted something about discrimination and left.

I don't care what your kid is diagnosed with, it does not give them the right to hurt other people. If your kid cannot behave in public, for whatever reason, supervise them. If supervision isn't enough, keep them at home. People should be able to take their kids out to enjoy themselves without fear of them being attacked.

And don't get me started on the giant 7 year olds in the under 2 area

Thank you for the useful script and tip for locating the parent. I have been stewing on how to handle such situations after a few near misses with similar little gits!

I will admit to throwing a ball pretty hard at a near adolescent child who was hiding in a ball pit throwing balls HARD at the babies. Kid didn't see it coming either and it obviously hurt so he buggered off. Petty? Yes. Satisfying? Also yes.

 

[klarakluckbag]

I had a very snotty automated text message from my mum's GP, stating that from 1st April, she "must" book all appointments or medication requests through the NHS app. The app which needs photo I.D., an email account and a device with Internet access. My mum is in her late 80's, with terminal cancer and dementia. How the fuck is she supposed to use an app?

 

[peachesandcreamz]

I know this goes completely against the ethos of this thread - but I gotta tell you all how much joy this thread brings me! I love hearing about everyone's life whinges, from the pedantic to the full life melt downs. I think today's social media world full of highlights and holidays make you think "am I just a chronic moaner??". But here I am, at home with you lot getting the goss from the community WhatsApp.

BACK TO RANTING!

 

[Kittylover2019]

So are you saying that my elderly, autistic but normal looking brother should stand on a bus rather than sit on a seat next to an overprotected, precious schoolGIRL... because her parents have taught her all men are perverts. Who is the one with strange standards and no empathy. Strange world.

He obviously doesn't do it if other seats are available as he also likes his own space. But it's a public bus and he needs to sit down without being made to feel like a pervert if the only available seats are next young females.

I feel like you’ve gone off piste with the subject matter to be honest and inserted a few extra bits and pieces to the situation.

Your language is very inflammatory where it suits, ie ‘elderly, autistic but normal looking brother’ versus ‘overprotected, precious schoolgirl’.

I’ll say it again for the record to make it clear.

The bus was half empty with 20 seats available, a man CHOSE to sit next to her rather in an empty seat on his own. Why you don’t get that there is an issue with that is your problem not mine. That’s the last I’m saying on it. I know what’s right and wrong about that situation.

 

[Hevs75]

You really need to nip this in the bud before he’s made perm. You don’t know what conversations are going on prior to end of April and decision could be made before then. You need to write down all of the uncomfortable comments and any time you feel uneasy. You need to stress that you’re worried that the manager is not there to witness this behaviour and it’s putting strain on both your work and your wellbeing.

UPDATE ...He has been let go, was told this morning he had to leave immediately and he would be told once he had left the building why he was being asked to leave. He looked surprised, asked me why I thought he had to go, but as he works in a diferent dept. to me I simply said I didn't know. As he was leaving he said something similar had happened to him when he worked at a college and a 20yr old accused him of sexual harressment but she was lying...! Glad I don't have to suffer anymore uncomfortable conversations.

 

[peachesandcreamz]

I don't have a smartphone and thanks I do know the dangers out there.
I personally thought it was an overreaction of a situation that happens all the time and I wouldn't be overdramatising it by suggesting the man was a pervert when all we have is the daughters version. Obviously just move if it feels off.
I then followed it up by my experiences on public transport nowadays how a lot of younger people flinch if someone sits next to them and always sit in aisle seats. And how I've seen girls and boys react , probably messaging their friends that a pervert has sat next to them. My brother who has no interest in silly schoolgirls, like most men, and just wanted a seat has actually had girls get up when he has taken a seat next to them.
I am not saying its safe out there for ANYONE, I am reporting on what I see.
All the angry faces and reactions just make me laugh.

A man chose to sit next to a young woman when there are PLENTY of other available seats. Effectively trapping her in so she cannot get up without either moving past him or him getting out of her way. He could have even sat just a row behind, but he chose to sit next to her. Irrespective of it being older man / younger woman, why choose that seat next to a stranger over an empty row? I wouldn't do that unless there were no other choices.

It's odd behaviour and if you can't see that, you are the problem.

 

[watermelon sugar]

I took my 7 year old and 15 month old to soft play this morning.
There was a boy about 5 or 6 running around kicking other kids. Not just a little nudge by accident as he ran past, he was searching for a target, taking a run-up, and full-on booting kids, then running off laughing.
I was in the toddler bit with the little one, and while a couple of us were trying to work out which adult he was with, he set his sights on my child. As he ran over I scooped her up, so he changed direction and kicked a little girl in the back of the head. Her Mum picked her up, passed her to her Dad, then took this boy by the hand. She walked to the middle of the seating area and shouted "who does this child belong to?"
A woman came over, said it was her son, and asked what the issue was.

"Your son is running around kicking little kids. On purpose."
"He's Autistic, he doesn't understand."
"Right, and are you Autistic too?"
"...no?"
"In that case you should understand. Put your phone down, get off your backside, and supervise your kid."
"I told you, he's Autistic, he can't help it."

The argument went on for a bit longer, with several other people joining in, and in the end the lady with the kicker shouted something about discrimination and left.

I don't care what your kid is diagnosed with, it does not give them the right to hurt other people. If your kid cannot behave in public, for whatever reason, supervise them. If supervision isn't enough, keep them at home. People should be able to take their kids out to enjoy themselves without fear of them being attacked.

And don't get me started on the giant 7 year olds in the under 2 area

I was at a soft play once and a 9 year old pushed a 2 year old down a steep slide when the 2 year old weren’t facing the right way. She was screaming crying so her Mum got up and flipped, went searching for the parent and the parent eventually got up and said the 9 year old was hers and he was autistic and he can’t help it. A big argument erupted which sounds similar to what happened today for you… I just don’t see why other kids should be getting battered when they are just innocently playing? The parents should be paying attention to what their children are doing regardless of autism or not

 

[MochiRocket]

Had to have my beautiful dog put to sleep 3 weeks ago. We got her ashes back last week. I haven’t been able to look at them till today.
The vet asked if we’d like a paw print taken. We said yes. Somehow that means more to me than having her ashes. I wanted to have it framed.
I had a look this morning. I’m so gutted, the print is awful. Completely smudged and not resembling a paw print at all. I feel as if it was done in a rush with no thought at all. I feel so sad

 

[Ensay]

Does anyone else like quiet Sundays? My Saturdays are generally quite busy so I relish most Sundays that are quiet for me. I can properly unwind by reading, making a simple lunch, playing a video game or two with my partner, etc.

However, we've been invited out somewhere last minute. I don't mind going as such, but any outing essentially dominates the whole day. I spend the morning doing the things I'd normally do slowly over the course of the day. Then we'll have to leave soon to drive there... then by the time we're back it'll probably be 6pm, getting dark and then it's just the evening till work tomorrow. I'll feel tired because I find socialising all afternoon exhausting.

I know I sound like a right whinger, but other introverts will probably understand.

 

[Starlight_100]

Little kids on devices. I have lost count how many times I have sat in a doctors waiting room listening to a kids video on full blast coming from a young child's Ipad, and the amount of times I've walked down the street and seen young children (under 3) holding phones and Ipads watching videos in pushchairs. It just makes me sad, they learn so much from their surroundings and social interaction when they are little and their own parents are destroying the learning experience by shoving them in front of screens so they dont have to interact with them. I've seen kids in restaurants staring zombie like at an ipad while the parents talk to each other and ignore their child.
I know a woman who is a teacher and she says she is getting more and more kids who can't hold a pencil properly, more behavioral problems and children with a lack of creativity and imagination/ inability to amuse themselves during choosing times. I think it's sad, children only get one childhood and robotic CocoMelon kids songs should definitely not be babysitting them. What happened to proper childhood memories and toys, sticker books and busy boards? It was a breath of fresh air the other week when I saw a woman talking to her child (about 2 or 3 years old) while out shopping and getting her to find things and repeat the names of food back to her. That benefits her child's development, I gave many smiles to that mother for putting in the effort so her child could learn something and have proper interaction from her.