What do you think?

[Clementine]

These are all excerpts from communication I have received since last month from my child’s father. We had a toxic relationship and I am doing my best not to give him any of my energy/justifying myself to him - (I have no boyfriend or man in my life).

Our child is 3 so I need to be involved with their communication. I’ve blocked him on my phone/email due to the nonsense he sends me and I have another phone/email solely for him. He is not happy with this, but I need some respite from him.

He lives in London whilst we’re in Scotland - contact is court ordered and the past few times our child has been down - the latest at Christmas - I’ve raised concerns due to Covid (this is me breaching the order )

Am I being over sensitive or is this too much? My replies are “ok” or “noted”. I just want him to leave me be...

“We got .... the portal so I can communicate properly. Not so you can use it with your men.

I will be forced to take action otherwise.

I think your having a nervous breakdown.

Stop dragging me into your weird games.

I should be able to contact you about ....when I want

I will email this email and this one only.

Hey! Get of the phone to your boyfriend

I know who you are stupid? I think your autistic! Get help.

Your getting pretty close to breaching the court order just so you know.

I will also enforce the order if you try to breach it which could result in you being in concept of court, which could then lead to you being fined, having to do community service or in some cases jail time”

 

[xoxo GG]

These are all excerpts from communication I have received since last month from my child’s father. We had a toxic relationship and I am doing my best not to give him any of my energy/justifying myself to him - (I have no boyfriend or man in my life).

Our child is 3 so I need to be involved with their communication. I’ve blocked him on my phone/email due to the nonsense he sends me and I have another phone/email solely for him. He is not happy with this, but I need some respite from him.

He lives in London whilst we’re in Scotland - contact is court ordered and the past few times our child has been down - the latest at Christmas - I’ve raised concerns due to Covid (this is me breaching the order )

Am I being over sensitive or is this too much? My replies are “ok” or “noted”. I just want him to leave me be...

“We got .... the portal so I can communicate properly. Not so you can use it with your men.

I will be forced to take action otherwise.

I think your having a nervous breakdown.

Stop dragging me into your weird games.

I should be able to contact you about ....when I want

I will email this email and this one only.

Hey! Get of the phone to your boyfriend

I know who you are stupid? I think your autistic! Get help.

Your getting pretty close to breaching the court order just so you know.

I will also enforce the order if you try to breach it which could result in you being in concept of court, which could then lead to you being fined, having to do community service or in some cases jail time”

It’s hard to know without any context. Replies from yourself to him etc, what the conversation is about. What were the concerns you raised regarding covid and his contact?

I guess the only thing I can say is to strictly keep the conversation regarding your child’s well-being and any visitation arrangements. I wouldn’t even respond to anything else as it could be antagonising the situation more. Make it clear how he can contact you but if the conversation turns more towards your personal life/relationships, then don’t offer a response.

 

[Swipeuplikeandshare]

I would personally contact a solicitor or another statutory body. You’re playing by the book but if this behaviour is starting you need to go down official channels even in so far as making them aware only.

 

[Raininvain]

The mans ignorant, concept of court LOL, its contempt of court.
I'd go see a Solicitor and get them to do all the arrangements etc. You also wont be getting fines or going to jail, hes talking out of his a. It sounds like hes harassing you and being verbally abusive and its not on.

 

[BettyCrocker]

These are all excerpts from communication I have received since last month from my child’s father. We had a toxic relationship and I am doing my best not to give him any of my energy/justifying myself to him - (I have no boyfriend or man in my life).

Our child is 3 so I need to be involved with their communication. I’ve blocked him on my phone/email due to the nonsense he sends me and I have another phone/email solely for him. He is not happy with this, but I need some respite from him.

He lives in London whilst we’re in Scotland - contact is court ordered and the past few times our child has been down - the latest at Christmas - I’ve raised concerns due to Covid (this is me breaching the order )

Am I being over sensitive or is this too much? My replies are “ok” or “noted”. I just want him to leave me be...

“We got .... the portal so I can communicate properly. Not so you can use it with your men.

I will be forced to take action otherwise.

I think your having a nervous breakdown.

Stop dragging me into your weird games.

I should be able to contact you about ....when I want

I will email this email and this one only.

Hey! Get of the phone to your boyfriend

I know who you are stupid? I think your autistic! Get help.

Your getting pretty close to breaching the court order just so you know.

I will also enforce the order if you try to breach it which could result in you being in concept of court, which could then lead to you being fined, having to do community service or in some cases jail time”

I think it’s almost impossible for anyone here to give any real advice without the context of these bits of communication. If you feel he’s being inappropriate or whatever then raise this as a concern with a solicitor or similar and keep records of all communication- his side and yours.

 

[Clementine]

Thank you everyone, sorry for not providing context. Some of it is in response to me asking him to use a particular email when contacting me, my phone being busy when he tried to call (I was speaking to his mother), me raising concerns about the rising Covid cases in London and whether our child would be able to get back. I don’t bite back - I don’t respond to personal things

Solicitors are involved. I will be speaking to them tomorrow. There was a holiday booked for the end of the month, which has now been cancelled, he now wants her to go to London instead. So I’m saying no to that - she came back from her last contact on the 30th December. His Mum has also told me today that he’s tested positive for Covid Although she doesn’t want me to mention it to my solicitor as he’ll know she told me (he doesn’t want us to speak). Honestly, it’s ridiculous and I’m so tired of it.

 

[AllSeeingEye123]

These are all excerpts from communication I have received since last month from my child’s father. We had a toxic relationship and I am doing my best not to give him any of my energy/justifying myself to him - (I have no boyfriend or man in my life).

Our child is 3 so I need to be involved with their communication. I’ve blocked him on my phone/email due to the nonsense he sends me and I have another phone/email solely for him. He is not happy with this, but I need some respite from him.

He lives in London whilst we’re in Scotland - contact is court ordered and the past few times our child has been down - the latest at Christmas - I’ve raised concerns due to Covid (this is me breaching the order )

Am I being over sensitive or is this too much? My replies are “ok” or “noted”. I just want him to leave me be...

“We got .... the portal so I can communicate properly. Not so you can use it with your men.

I will be forced to take action otherwise.

I think your having a nervous breakdown.

Stop dragging me into your weird games.

I should be able to contact you about ....when I want

I will email this email and this one only.

Hey! Get of the phone to your boyfriend

I know who you are stupid? I think your autistic! Get help.

Your getting pretty close to breaching the court order just so you know.

I will also enforce the order if you try to breach it which could result in you being in concept of court, which could then lead to you being fined, having to do community service or in some cases jail time”

Tell him it's you're and not your and link him to some English language courses.