Unpopular opinions #2

[Gamu]

Eddie Izzard is as much of a woman as Hilary Baldwin is Spanish

 

[Melian]

I love pineapple on pizza

 

[Heffalump]

Fat girls that say refer to themselves as "real" women are cunts.

Fat girls that try to shame men for not being attracted to them are cunts .

Also, listen up Fat Girls, from another Fat Girl myself....it is rather likely that he has no issue with your body - it aint because you are fat he doesnt want you, it's because you're a cunt.

 

[MrsM19]

Money does buy happiness, and I’m tired of people saying it doesn’t.

 

[openbook1]

I feckin hated the whole Tom Moore movement. He walked around his garden....and? It wasn't him who raised the money, it was the public. And if people don't realise that a healthcare system needing donations is diabolical then they need to give their head a shake. It's nothing to be proud of.

 

[Adayinthelife]

Nurses aren’t angels. They chose to enter the profession, and it’s well drummed into them during their education what the pressures are. They get reasonably well paid for what they do, and if they don’t like it then they should change jobs/career

 

[Notgonnalie]

Gender neutral toilets and removing saying things like “girls and boys” in primary school is toxic. Boys and girls are very real and should be referred to as such. The erasure of women when referring to anything to do with the female reproductive system is absolute bat shit crazy. For eg saying “pregnant people” “people with a cervix” “people who menstruate” it is disgusting and degrading. In order to appease less than 1 percent of people would be accommodated for otherwise when they make their healthcare provider aware that they now prefer to use different terms.

it is categorically wrong and actually prevents many women and girls from accessing health services because a lot of girls and women aren’t familiar with terms such as “cervix”, particularly if English isn’t their first language. Women are the only sex who can be pregnant, menstruate and have a cervix so instead of complicating it - call them women. It’s interesting the same treatment isn’t done towards man. They aren’t “people with a penis” “people with a prostate”, they are men.

 

[urghmummybloggers]

I don't think it's the act of feeding as such or the kind of milk that provokes such a strong reaction I really think it's the immense pressure women are put under to breastfeed that is actually the problem? That in itself is probably off-putting?
No one should be shamed or made to feel guilty because they can't or won't breastfeed.
We all know breast is best but it doesn't work out for everyone?

I agree though that breastfeeding is a skill and used to be taught by elder family relatives i.e mother aunties grandmother etc etc
Now it can feel like you get a lecture from a overworked health visitor or struggle to get a nurses attention on a busy maternity ward ......hospitals are not very restful places noise bright lights short of staff and then if you have a baby that doesn't settle or cries a lot I can see how tempting it would be to turn to a bottle of formula? Plus I had to in the beginning because my baby's blood sugar was dangerously low?
Plus it has to be said that in this country we have many who have disordered eating patterns well that's passed down to babies and toddlers as well?
Knowing the stress of modern life frankly I blame no one when I had PND and no family or help I was glad to turn to formula because it gave me peace of mind?
That's another thing it's kind of related to confidence as well i was over protective I didn't have the courage to take the risk of breastfeeding (not having the knowledge or support to fall back on if I failed)?
So I don't think it's mother's shaming other mother's more than actually a lot of people lead isolated lives and you know because this is the unpopular opinions thread I will just spit it out....

The main reasons women Don't breastfeed....
The NHS give very little after care or support
The breakdown of the nuclear or extended family old people shoved into retirement homes.... grandparents are quite often divorced. ..
Stay at home mother's get vilified or slagged off probably because for some (misogynist's yes even female ones) it's not seen as a proper job!
Basically if your not earning money you're seen as a waste of space nevermind that carer's (including mother's) contribute so much in as I said unpaid labour!
Just look at how mother and child unfriendly the world is in general?
Mother's can't afford in a lot of cases to stay at home that's also a bad thing?
Childcare is ridiculously expensive. .
Things that are seen as traditionally female or feminine are low Paid without status and not really respected (and I include nurses the very fact that we feel the need to put them on a pedestal is to over compensate)?

So much talk of the excuse of mental health being used when I think it's the opposite I think it's under reported and lots just suffer in silence?

So that's another reason woman don't breastfeed in my opinion.... Depression ..
Also a younger generation of men that have grown up entitled (capitalism) with poor boundaries and behaviour (lack of positive role models) and desensitized to porn (objectification is the new normal)?
So what happens when they become dad's do they support their wives or partners? How do they react to a crying child? Do they know how to be helpful?

I am painting the bleakest picture and worse case scenario because unfortunately that's what a lot of people are dealing with?

So for some women poverty lack of resources lack of care and support lack of family lack of energy and then the resulting lack of confidence means that they are mentally and emotionally over taxed and then cannot or maybe understandably enough Don't want to go through the extra strain and challenge of nursing a child because they are already running on empty as it is and their cups do not runneth over!
I believe when life is too much of a struggle for survival or feels that way stress can inhibit the body's functions and that includes lactaction?

We talk a lot of bollocks about feminism and be kind no don't be fucking kind ( patronising) it's not kindness we need but to eradicate social inequality!

So many negative attitudes towards women towards the poor towards people on benefits towards the disabled towards the mentally ill no wonder so many struggle?
When you struggle for instance to feed yourself how are you going to feed your baby? If you've never been nurtured or loved or cared for how can you break that cycle?
When womens bodies are viewed only as sexual objects how can some women accept that they've been groomed and that they are programmed only to seek male approval? So being a mother will come second place (in some cases to an even bigger baby!)

Woman are socially conditioned to please others to an unhealthy degree for many having a baby reverts them back to being a child themselves?
So the blind lead the blind ....

Meanwhile in different cultures or in different social or economic brackets a few have what is exotically termed (exotic to me anyway) a normal life with loving parents and a degree of confidence and maybe their relationships are mutually supportive and beneficial?
They have the foundation maybe of stability to work through the blistering or bleeding nipples or feeding every 2 hours or not minding being sleep deprived?
Or having a supportive partner?
So much of life depends on or responds to our beliefs security safety and capability follow each other but so does chronic stress and feeling depleted or inadequate or not wanted or welcome?

Basically when a woman energy does not flow I think she'll find it difficult to lactate also lactation releases oxytocin the love chemical if you've never been loved maybe it's difficult to access that (natural) state?

Last but not least think of the hypocrisy of women being criticised when all the big companies who manufacture baby formula who actually created a niche and a demand for this product?
Why don't more people get up in arms about that?
When women are ruled they are divided sometimes when we feel like we have to fight for everything we fight each other . ..it's a pressure cooker sometimes and it's always that devil of the feeling of not having enough and not being enough that gets used and exploited!
Makes me fucking angry!

I’m not reading all that - I’m sorry that happened to you or congratulations - whatever one is apt

 

[Gamu]

I hate summer the sun is a bastard. Summer is only bearable by the sea or a pool with air conditioning in the house.

 

[Rxt156]

“people who menstruate” makes me uncomfortable.

 

[laurensanchez]

Most women don't benefit from being with men in a marriage, cohabitation or whatever else.

In 99% of cases it's the man that's better off from the deal. Especially since today it's "normal" for a woman to be working, taking care of home, giving sex on demand, and raising children. She's actually doing more than 50 percent of the work, plus 50 percent of the finances, and it's seen as normal.

I'll go even further and say single women should get tax benefits as they contribute more to society!

 

[Notgonnalie]

Slimming world is a con! Teaches people toxic unhealthy relationships with food and is just a money spin. Getting people to weigh in front of everyone else to shame them, getting them to “syn” their foods - this is so toxic labelling food like this - most people liken “syn” to “sin” - no food is bad as such, everything’s okay in moderation. Slimming world then give people “free” foods whereby you can eat as many of this as you want but should stick to portion sizes, free things include potatoes, pasta etc. I saw an account on Instagram literally eating pasta for breakfast lunch and dinner thinking that was healthy because it’s “free” foods. Most people on it try hard all week and the night before weigh day won’t eat past a certain time etc in the hope they’ll lose weight on the scales in front of everyone the next day. Then when they get their loss they come home and go on a “cheat day” where they binge all the junk food going!! So much more I could say but the long and short is they’re cunts only after your £5!

 

[BettyCrockerr]

If you give your child a name like Kayden, Cairo, Romeo, Princess etc I will automatically think you are chavvy scum

 

[CocoLou]

People who check in on FB at the hospital and then when people ask if they are ok ignore it or reply ‘Iv inboxed you hun’ are the biggest dickheads to of ever walked this earth.

 

[Roseannanna]

Young woman complaining about men looking at them when they are wearing a boob tube and mini skirt. What do you expect?

 

[ot55]

Bitchy one but I don’t agree that all brides look beautiful on their wedding day. I’ve seen a lot of people that make awful dress, hair or make up choices

 

[bubbadabut]

I'd rather not receive anything at all than be given an experience day voucher.

 

[Brigitjonesbuttcheek]

Everyone going vegan is not going to save the planet, it'll just cause a different set of problems. Being vegan is not healthy and most of the "plant based" foods are just processed junk food. People feeding young children a vegan diet should be done for child abuse, just like dog owners now can be.

Veganism has only taken off because the big food companies saw a new way to sell us processed junk and us think it's healthy.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

Women who let their body hair grow long (legs/under arms) and then insist on showing off their hairy bits in vest tops/strapless tops/skirts look revolting.

 

[no-no]

Weekends are overrated and I prefer weekdays, even more so when I’m off. Everywhere’s busier or shut. I hate the expectations surrounding them, like you’re meant to fit all your fun in to Saturday/Sunday and have to be doing something. “What are you up to at the weekend?!”