This breaks my heart, mostly because it’s semi relatable.
My son was born June 2021 and my husband went back on deployment just 8 days after the birth. I had a dreadful birthing experience and needed a transfusion afterwards.
My baby would scream and scream and scream sometimes up to 20 hours a day. He would choke on reflux if he laid flat, and just screamed. I had no support. My family are hard-faced and very much “get on with it” style.
One day in particular it was so bad, I was physically shaking and trembling because he would not stop screaming, doctors just kept telling me “it’s colic” and dismissed me. I was sat on the sofa with him on my chest thrashing around screaming (he was only 2 weeks old), and I could see my car keys on the side and for about a whole minute, I just wanted to put baby in his crib, and walk out the house, get in my car and drive away forever. I didn’t, obviously.
turns out baby had a severe milk allergy and silent reflux. He was put on prescription milk. And is doing ok now.
But I am still so triggered by it. I still cry myself to sleep some nights thinking about how bad it was in the beginning. And the fact no one helped me. I’m not ashamed to say there were times I wished I would just die in my sleep but then I imagined no one finding me for days, and baby being alone.
Basically, his screaming and the fact my birth experience was so bad, I was diagnosed with PND and handed tablets. Im still waiting for any type of birth reflection or “talking help”. Bad, isn’t it?
All im saying is, there can some times be medical reasons for women feeling this bad after birth. Huge shift in hormones, lack of emotional support from people they trust etc.
I’ve rambled on a bit, but I wish your sister every bit of luck, and stick by her. She will thank you for it x
