Things your parents did or do that annoys you

[birdiefly246]

So following some posts (mainly by me) in the things in life that annoy you thread, I thought I'd make one solely about parents (or guardians) and the things that they do now or did when you were a kid that annoyed you. It'll be a little therapy session for us all

I'll start with mine (a few cause I'll be here all day otherwise)

- asking me the explain where I'm going every.single.time. Can't leave the house without giving a full briefing of my movements for the duration I'm gone for.

- having the TV on a crazy loud volume and then leaving it on while they go out

- asking me to buy them things on my way home from work despite me working in a supermarket(!) which means I could have got it while I was there but then have to stop again!

- slagging off my driving whenever I give them a lift somewhere.

- not telling me what's going on until the very last minute and then getting annoyed when I can't attend/can't give them a lift.

I have a crap ton more but I'll stick to this for now

 

[Mulholland Drive]

My clothes sense
Watching too much TV
Listening to music with my phones on
Never helping with domestic chores
Leaving my shoes out in the hall for them to trip over
Always arriving home 2 or 3 hours later than I originally told them
Backseat drivers
My choice in girlfriends
my choice of makeup
my hair style
My English accent

....gosh... I could go on for a few more pages.....

 

[Bobbleowl90]

- slagging off my driving whenever I give them a lift somewhere.

This! My dad always moans about my driving when I know I’m a good driver! Yet he will happily fall asleep and snore his head off in my car which is funny because if I feared for my life then I couldn’t nod off quite so easily

 

[birdiefly246]

This! My dad always moans about my driving when I know I’m a good driver! Yet he will happily fall asleep and snore his head off in my car which is funny because if I feared for my life then I couldn’t nod off quite so easily

Exactly! My mum and step dad moan about my driving which annoys me but my dad clutches the handle on the door like we're in bleeping formula one

 

[watermelon sugar]

My Mum checks when I was last active on WhatsApp. If I haven't been active for a while she will text me and say 'why haven't you been on WhatsApp?' If I go on WhatsApp through the middle of the night she Will message me and say 'why were you on WhatsApp at 2:44am?'

If we have an argument we won't speak for ages, she never apologises just randomly speaks to me again

I've not lived with her for 7 years but she still asks me I've had every meal

 

[under the ivy]

- Asks me if I’m getting back with my ex
- Asks if I’ll make her a Nana one day

 

[Lizzie Mintdrop]

My dad used to always moan about us watching tv or tell me I had to help around the house. At the time I thought it was hell on earth but looking back I had it easy

 

[Wanttoseethescreenshots]

When I was very young, my mum brushing my hair for school in the morning! Nothing more painful than your mum brushing your hair and yanking it if you kept moving

 

[Londoncailín]

When I video call my parents, I never get to see either of their faces properly. It’s either their forehead, chin, half of their faces and most of the ceiling of their living room.

 

[Princessax]

Asking when I’m getting a boyfriend... Piss off!

You can be happy without a partner

 

[Choco88]

My parents couldn’t function until they’d had their morning cuppa. It was so annoying especially on Xmas day/birthday mornings etc.

 

[Giggling Squid]

Always finds the worst possible scenario in everything.
My mum never ever rings me. Ever. But gets all mopey and sad if we haven’t spoken for a couple of days

 

[LittleMy]

Things my mum used to do that annoyed me:

- Very strict, didn’t let me stay out as late as my friends. I was the youngest of my friend group and when I was 18 she used to phone me while out at a club with friends and scream at me to get home if I wasn’t in by midnight. So embarrassing.
- Criticised me for being myself. I was very alternative as a teenager, she hated that. She wanted me to be somebody else and the more she pushed, the more I rebelled.
- Obsessed over my weight. I was never large but she made me think that I was, to the point I now have weight issues as an adult and struggle with self image.
-She was very pushy with me, being the oldest, and expected more from me. My younger brother would get away with murder whereas I was given constant responsibility. I was working as soon as I could, paying my way, she never once pushed my brother to get a job or took money from him. He got his first part-time job at 20.

Things my mum does now that annoy me:

- Making subtle digs about my life choices, parenting decisions etc.
- Nags me for not having more of a social life yet rarely offering to take my children to let me meet up with a friend.
- When she does have my kids, undermining my decisions and taking over/trying to play mummy.
-Shrugging off my very serious concerns as if they’re nothing and I’m overreacting. When I sought out help for my eldest when we suspected he was autistic, she said I was being stupid. He was officially diagnosed at age 3 and now she never shuts up about it, like she’s the world’s biggest advocate and not the world’s biggest bleep.

I do love her, but she is a bleep.

 

[AutumnSpring]

Phone during the day when I’m at work for a chat and then get surprised that I can’t talk because I’m at work ????

 

[Belulah]

My mum let me leave home with 0 life skills because she would not let me or my sister cook, clean or try anything unless we got it wrong or made a mess. My 2 year old has more life skills then I did when I left home.

 

[Web30]

My mum half listening on the phone, i can always tell when i dont have her full attention. Half the time she puts me on loud speaker so she can carry on messaging some one.

 

[Pixipoppy]

These are all things I’ve noticed as an adult since moving away and going back to visit.

My dad will have the TV up SO LOUD. Then he will usually fall asleep anyway!

Both of them just barge into my room when they want to tell me something, they don’t even knock or ask if it’s ok.

My mum is constantly trying to feed me (not necessarily a bad thing I know but when I’m trying to eat healthy it’s a bit annoying).

My parents seem to be very much in traditional wife/husband roles. I never really noticed growing up but for example it’s always my mum that cleans and cook and occasionally my dad will do some DIY task which apparently makes up for it!

All in all they’re not too bad, but I think it would drive me insane to live back home again long term!

 

[Mamacita]

My parents couldn’t function until they’d had their morning cuppa. It was so annoying especially on Xmas day/birthday mornings etc.

That reminds me of a very specific dexters laboratory episode View attachment 386399

 

[Apple In My Pie]

My mum....

- tells everyone that she has to care for me (I’m 21 and physically disabled) to the point she can’t work. It’s a lie, I am Self sufficient enough to care for myself she just doesn’t give me a chance to/is too anxious to, it makes me feel really guilty though as it has taken longer than usual to get to this point of self sufficiency (because as a teen I never got to do stuff for myself)

- stands over me when I do things e.g. make a sandwich and says ‘should I do this, let me do this’ which makes me feel tit and like I can’t do anything or that I do things wrong, which feeds into my crappy self esteem and confidence and makes me feel anxious for my future as an adult

- speaks to anyone on a day out, if she knows them she will speak to them, even if it’s obvious they can’t hear her or are busy working (e.g. in a supermarket, in a cafe) she’ll be like ‘hi Sheila! tit day isn’t it!’, if they DO hear her she’ll talk for ages, it’s like ffs woman they have a job to do and you’re standing in the middle of the aisle - leave them alone

- hoards things, I wouldn’t say excessively but she’s always buying useless tit just because, or stuff for me ‘just because’, I don’t mean thoughtful stuff I mean tat, golden playing cards anyone? Playing cards with my face on? Lol, she got moody with me because I started selling some of my old things, ‘you can’t sell that, you like that’ - mother I am drowning in tat leave me be!

...aaaaand breathe. I need to move out

 

[DCICassieStuart]

My Mum checks when I was last active on WhatsApp. If I haven't been active for a while she will text me and say 'why haven't you been on WhatsApp?' If I go on WhatsApp through the middle of the night she Will message me and say 'why were you on WhatsApp at 2:44am?'

If we have an argument we won't speak for ages, she never apologises just randomly speaks to me again

I've not lived with her for 7 years but she still asks me I've had every meal

Turn off your last seen on WhatsApp. That should stop her.