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HandTmum

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Have you gone to the police yet? What did they say?

Honestly your safety is the most important thing, with all the threats you need to be protecting yourself.
 
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Very traditional

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Obviously the ex's behaviour is completely out of order and as others have said you definitely need to contact the police but I was just wondering when did their relationship end and yours begin? As you mentioned about her not being homeless for Xmas which makes it sound like a very recent break up? And the messages and photos she's found on insta, were they definitely from after their break up, not while they were still together? As I could understand why she would be hurt and angry if they were from when she was with him (again, not justifying threatening behaviour but context is helpful).

I do hope you're ok, it's an awful situation to be in, especially so early on in a relationship.
 
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Redyellowgreen

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I don't fully have any evidence about the abuse other than 'the rule book' he had to live by and him telli g me that on occasions she would hit him and be verbally abusive

She has given back the engagement ring . There was talks a few weeks ago about the house and he said they wouldn't sell it until after Christmas so she wasn't potentially homeless for Christmas
However Friday she had contacted him to say she would buy him out the property at a ridiculously low price.
He has a very small following on Instagram she's noticed a name she didn't know (me) and started asking questions ... by Sunday she had managed to hack into his account and was reading the messages... and now her pals are sending me the friend requests and abusive messages...

The fact that she has screen shots of me and his conversations and photos makes me feel sick. Why do this to someone else I just feel so exposed.
And now I don't even want to speak to him ... what a right mess 😔😭
 
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Sorry you are going through this. Glad you went to police hopefully they will sort her out.

As for him ....too much baggage and red flags. I'd move on if I were you
 
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Redyellowgreen

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She's 29
Thank you he tried to tell me in a message that this is a once off that she will settle down in a few weeks but I shouldn't even be dealing with this right now ..
 
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Redyellowgreen said:
I don't fully have any evidence about the abuse other than 'the rule book' he had to live by and him telli g me that on occasions she would hit him and be verbally abusive

She has given back the engagement ring . There was talks a few weeks ago about the house and he said they wouldn't sell it until after Christmas so she wasn't potentially homeless for Christmas
However Friday she had contacted him to say she would buy him out the property at a ridiculously low price.


He has a very small following on Instagram she's noticed a name she didn't know (me) and started asking questions ... by Sunday she had managed to hack into his account and was reading the messages... and now her pals are sending me the friend requests and abusive messages...

The fact that she has screen shots of me and his conversations and photos makes me feel sick. Why do this to someone else I just feel so exposed.
And now I don't even want to speak to him ... what a right mess 😔😭
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regarding the above bit In bold - are you only going on what he is telling you though??? Unless you are able to confirm what he’s telling you then how do you know any of its even true??

First off - contact the police. Today - now. Contact them and tell them everything and that she is threatening you and the whole hacking into
His social media/threatened to publish intimate photos etc. The whole lot. They will probably go to see her and I think after that you might start getting to the bottom of what’s been going on.
 
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Redyellowgreen

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Thank you all so much for your help and advice.

This is true I don't have any solid evidence other than what he has told me and through a few mutual friend who have said its over and he has returned to his parents house.

He is in bits , as well as all the abuse I was getting she then started burning the remaining belongings he had at the house.
But then I've been ignoring his calls because I don't even know where to start.....

I've been getting told I the worst piece of shit ... that she will get someone to sort me out ... then it was her brother was coming to break my legs
 
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Redyellowgreen

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Very traditional said:
Obviously the ex's behaviour is completely out of order and as others have said you definitely need to contact the police but I was just wondering when did their relationship end and yours begin? As you mentioned about her not being homeless for Xmas which makes it sound like a very recent break up? And the messages and photos she's found on insta, were they definitely from after their break up, not while they were still together? As I could understand why she would be hurt and angry if they were from when she was with him (again, not justifying threatening behaviour but context is helpful).

I do hope you're ok, it's an awful situation to be in, especially so early on in a relationship.
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We went out with friends in June .. there was nothing more other than speaking at work...

Then in August he ended his relationship at this point she agreed that it felt like they were friends and she agreed with the ending of the relationship. He's been back living with his parents since.

The last few weeks things have progressed and we have become closer

I don't know why I currently have so much resentment towards him like i don't even want him to message me
 
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