The advice thread for random problems #7

[didisaythatoutloudoops]

I almost feel like you are in a lose-lose situation. I’d just ignore her apart from any work related issues.
Do not do her menial tasks, like you said you are not her intern. Make sure to follow up everything in writing so there is evidence.
Do not help her even a little. Just quietly disengage

Thank you. I'm a real people pleaser, so I struggle with 'conflict' - and knowing if I am not in the wrong (I always presume I am), but this feels like a dangerous situation to slip up on. The advice is very much appreciated!

 

[Chocolategoggler]

I'll try some aqueous cream . It's odd i never get direct sunlight on some parts of my body , so I think it's more heat rather than sun .

Yeah, it was on my legs and I hadn't been sunbathing.

 

[Captainmouse]

I'm very much of the thought that if it fits in the washing machine, I'll wash it. I guess the problem with a bean bag type thing would be getting the filling dry afterwards. Would you risk tumble drying it too?

It’s only small. I wasn’t going to tumble in case the contents melt

 

[Former_Antelopee]

If you specifically booked a room with 'x x room with balcony' would you be happy with a Juliette balcony? Or would you expect one you can walk onto? The description of the room says - Balcony or terrace

 

[Kim Mild]

If you can try to take a picture of it and use the Google Lens function to find similar pictures and see what other symptoms are described. I've had more success with that in the past couple of years than going to a doctor who maybe will prescribe hydrocortisone but fail to give me a diagnosis.

I tend to get very itchy skin when it gets hotter and sunnier outside, but not with the red spots you describe (or at least not so many that I would count them as a key symptom) - for me I know it is a mildish form of sun allergy, which goes away after a while (allergy medication helps a lot with the itching). I don't know if I'm simply lucky and don't get the red spots you describe though, I bet there's a lot of variation as with anything skin-related.

I don't feel like I have much luck with doctors , thats why I've asked here. They gave me hydrocortisone when I went..

It's funny how it is just in certain parts of my body, especially my thigh /hip area which never sees the light of day .

 

[Forallthoseasking]

This is a difficult problem for me to try and articulate so please forgive me for any fumbles in wording!

Myself and my friends are all at the life stage of preparing to have kids, pregnancy, or already having small children. Personally, I have not yet had children but I am not putting pressure on myself.

One of my friends desperately wants to be pregnant. She is putting a lot of pressure on herself and is actively getting upset each month when her period arrives. She has every tracker and guidebook under the sun. Her and her partner have been trying for 6 months. Every time she sees a pregnancy announcement on Instagram, she is upset. Every time anyone mentions anything baby related, she is upset. I have avoided talking about my other friend who is currently pregnant so as not to upset her further. I don't dodge the topic if directly asked, but I also don't bring it up. Some of her other friends however, seem to be taking advantage and using her as a babysitting service. Almost every weekend she is out with her partner and someone else's baby having a day out. She is elated on those days and extremely depressed in the 2-3 days that follow.

I can't help but now start to feel extremely anxious talking to her. I love her to pieces but I don't know what to say anymore that doesn't somehow go back to children and her feeling like she's failed by not getting pregnant so fast. I also don't want to belittle her stress either as I can't even imagine how she feels but I do think the obsession and pressure is not going to be helping her actually conceive?

I just don't know what to do really to either help her or feel less anxious about fucking up in conversation by accidentally offending her.

If anyone does have a miracle answer, please do let me know but even actually expressing that helps a little thanks

 

[didisaythatoutloudoops]

Is it normal to be seen by a pharmacist for a doctors appointment at your GP? I didn’t know at the time but I did think she was being vague, unhelpful and brushing thing off. I’ve just looked at my gp notes and it shows I was seen by a pharmacist? She said my bp was normal but the reading it was on the day means it was elevated and falls into stage 1 hypertension. I remember her repeating it a few more times and telling me it’s ok now but on the notes she recorded the elevated reading with nothing further added about it. Im thinking of complaining

It is normal now, yes, basically you can be seen by a number of people at your GP's and it will depend on why you asked for your appointment. If you had one elevated reading and the rest were normal then it can just be due to nerves, worry, etc especially if the rest were fine, so she did well there. I think from what you've said your experience is completely fine and normal, but if you want to (and only if you want to) share a bit more it might add more context.

 

[Ray1403]

She was under there care, so yes they rang me but surely it's their duty to make so she was okay

what would you have liked them to have done? do you mean you think they should have escorted you to A&E or they should have followed up with you afterwards?

 

[ReginaPhalange3]

I live on a Country lane so were trapped today and likely tomorrow. Thankfully we expected it and stocked up Saturday. The motorways and A roads are clear but we cant get to them All the schools here have closed. I remember visiting Iceland and being amazed how everyone functioned as normal in thick snow

Supposed to be travelling tomorrow for a work trip on Tuesday. It’s snowing pretty heavily here (probably enough to shut schools tomorrow but that’s neither here nor there as there’s freezers that operate in warmer conditions than a primary school), but won’t be at my destination as it’s much further south. I’ll have to go on the motorway (could get the train but it’s a faff). Husband is having kittens — am I stupid for attempting to go?!

 

[Ray1403]

I really want wraps for my lunch next week but everytime I make wraps and try to roll them, the wraps get holes in them or never as tight as they should be. I’ve added less food in the middle to see if that helps - it doesn’t!
Anyone got any videos I could watch that makes it sink in on how to do a tortilla wrap?!

i wrap them in tinfoil so it doesn't matter if they split

 

[Snippysnips]

I have to have a zoom call at 7pm on a weekday evening. I won't get any privacy at home so Im wondering where to go . Costa will have closed by then. I'm not sure what will be best between sitting in the car in a car park, Witherspoon or the leisure centre.

Do you have any library's close by? Some have started to offer little rooms you can use for this, not sure about the times they close though, I know some of mine are open till 8pm but it's rare they are

 

[Jas28]

Anyone suffer with chronic uticaria? The doctors just tell me to take an anti histamine but it’s been going on for a long time and if I don’t take the one anti histamine tablet every 24hrs my skin breaks out in hives and I cannot do anything. I’m just concerned there’s a deeper issue like auto immune illness or something. I also have stomach/gut problems when my skin tingles and the hives come on. Don’t really know what to suggest to my doctor.

 

[T-time]

It isn't visible enough , it looks like normal skin at the minute. Itchy as hell though.

I have no idea what it is, I'm sorry. But I do know my allergies. If you can miss the money you can go to the drugstore and get an over the counter antihistamine. If you take it and the inch goes away, it's an allergy

Sometimes you just have to start somewhere. But that's easy for me to say because in my case 9 / 10 it's an allergy

 

[Serene Serena]

Does anyone struggle with feeling exhausted in the morning and if so have you found anything to help with it?

All my life I've always struggled with mornings, doesn't matter if I've had a perfect night's sleep with no disturbance or if it's been broken sleep, it's always a struggle to get out bed and leaves me feeling quite honestly pissed off, I don't use an alarm because I naturally wake between 7am an 8am and so long as I am up at 8 then it's fine so it's not like I am being woken from an alarm either, once I am up an had breakfast then am fine, but it's just the whole trying to get out of bed an that drowsy feeling I can't get rid off

I take magnesium and 5HTP and multivitamin pills

 

[Captainmouse]

If you have a factor then report it to them, otherwise if not then you can go to your local council an say they are causing obstructions which restrict emergency vehicle access

Not sure how well either would help, but pretty sure if you state that emergency vehicle access is being restricted they might issue fines

Because it is a private road, the council are not interested. We are also in a police tow area, but they too are not interested

 

[Carapop]

Anyone good tech wise?

TV keeps shutting off randomly, have tried hard resetting it, putting it back to default settings (although I don't think I changed anything) an have done a reset on the TV itself, but it still shuts off

I wouldn't say it's that old either, around 6 years old an certainly wasn't a cheap TV (I done research to get a good one as I mainly game)

So just wondering if something was causing it or if it's time to replace which am hoping not too, it's a Samsung oled model

I’ve been investigating online, and apparently a HDMI-connected console/soundbar can tell a Samsung TV to power off through Anynet+ / HDMI-CEC, and a factory reset doesn’t fix it. (I btw have no idea what anynet is but I’m dying of boredom today and love trying to fix someone else’s problems)

Samsung says connected devices & power settings are among the main causes of TVs switching themselves off. Try these, recommended by various online sources and keep me posted, I’m invested now:

Unplug absolutely everything from the TV except its power cable, then use app such as Netflix/YouTube for a while. If that works then TV is probs fine and one of the connected things is responsible.

Turn off Anynet+ (HDMI-CEC) before reconnecting the console:
Settings >Connection/General > External Device Manager > Anynet+.

Plug the TV directly into a different wall socket, don’t use extension leads/surge protectors.

Check for a firmware update: Settings >Support >Software Update. A factory reset doesn't roll the television forward to newer firmware.

 

[boatofbubbles]

I just feel they have a duty of care that she got the medical attention she required, not all parents are the best.

 

[Captainmouse]

I’m pretty sure the lion poo only works for cats. Dogs are not deterred by other animals’ poo! Honestly just have a word with the owner. I personally think it’s rude to allow your dog to enter someone else’s property, let alone do its business there, but she might well be oblivious.

Also your grass will be fine. My dog wees in the same places in the garden and has done for years. No issues with the lawn.

I think it depends on the sex of the 'dog' as to if it damages the grass or not.

 

[Kim Mild]

It doesn’t sound like shingles I’d it’s in two separate places. Could it be an allergy?

I'm not sure because the feeling is within in the skin , rather than on the surface, hence the comparison with shingles. Those areas don't come into contact with anything for an allergy to only happen in that area .

 

[ReginaPhalange3]

I ordered something and realised after, it was pre order for march so I cancelled it. Did a bit more research and chose a different brand. I've had an email that my refund will be here in 2 to 5 days but this morning received a dispatch email