The advice thread for random problems #5

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There's nothing to love about a man who is always looking over your shoulder just in case he's missing out. It's such a basic lack of respect for you. I've always joked with my husband that I don't care who he looks at, but the day he starts doing in front of me, we're done.
 
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I’m so sorry. I actually typed out then deleted how I I’m ok with my fiancée doing this because it’s harmless but with my ex it fed into my fears and it’s about what I knew deep down.

Is he playing this as like “can’t be with someone who questions him” or has he said he’s actually looking for a way out? If the former, don’t let him gaslight you, it shouldn’t be enough in a stable relationship to cause him to leave. You should be allowed to be open about your feelings to at least discuss them.
Lots of love to you x
 
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Very much this. It’s one thing to have a sneaky appreciative look but quite another to be twisting your head like the bloody exorcist to gawp at someone in front of your partner. It’s completely disrespectful and just basic behaviour.
 
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I agree. There must be more to the story than somebody looking at people. I mean you can’t go through life looking at the ground/sky for fear of upsetting the other half.
I’d also leave.
 
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I agree. There must be more to the story than somebody looking at people. I mean you can’t go through life looking at the ground/sky for fear of upsetting the other half.
I’d also leave.
I think often the difference between looking at people and staring at attractive women is pretty obvious. Unfortunately I often see men who are clearly with their partners blatantly twisting their heads to look at attractive women. I think that's disrespectful.
 
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I still think there’s more to the story. He must’ve either done something to create this behaviour in a partner or she’s paranoid.
My brother has been cheated on and he’s become paranoid and overly sensitive. I’ve talked to him about it as it would drive somebody away. You have to allow a new partner space.
Anyway I would leave if I was told not to look at people.
 
Yeah I agree there probably is more to that.

It's not saying don't look at people, it's saying don't ogle attractive women looking them up and down and twisting to stare more especially in front of me. It's crazy how many men do that, I always feel sorry for their partners.
 
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Any tips on ways to not feel so down when totm is near? It’s getting worse as i get older, and i suffer the entire week before, the days of period are not so bad then there’s a few days after to get back to normal again where I don’t feel my best. I know it’s part of life and I’m trying to tell myself it’ll pass
 
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It’s very boring but the thing that made my horrendous PMT disappear completely, was cutting out sugar and caffeine from my diet. I ate lots of fruit and veg but no added sugar - baked goods, condiments stuff like that.
ETA: the clean eating diet was full time - not just for the PMT days. Like I said, it was pretty boring.

I have tried just about everything else - supplements, light therapy, exercise etc. I used to have it really badly for about 10 days before my period would start.
 
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My youngest daughter came home last night, her boyfriend made her come to see me as she's been very low recently and tearful. She's on the mini pill (progestogen) and I'm wondering if that's not helping as it's unusual for her to be so teary and anxious. She said she feels like she's on the verge of a panic attack all the time.... just wondering how to help her
 
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Good on the boyfriend. Perhaps a visit to the doctors or sexual health clinic as I always found them more helpful and perhaps she might like for you to join her, is the pill a new thing?
 
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Ugh I had the worst reaction to hormones, just like her, tearful and weepy, paranoid, etc. I got a copper coil instead, which was bliss. Maybe ask her to come off them and give her body a few months to get back to a semblance of balance.

The other thing - could she be pregnant? If she's had a bout of stomach issues recently or taken antibiotics, the pill might not have been as effective.
 
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It might be worth a blood test too. Thyroid issues can present like that (as well as lots of other things too obviously).
 
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She's been taking it for a year or so but her cycle is very irregular - she's made an appointment to see her practice nurse today after some gentle persuading. Her boyfriend is adorable, he suffers from low mood at times and he was able to persuade her to come over and have a chat to me because he was worried about her. They have a lovely home, are very settled and that's why this seems so unusual for her.
 
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The mini pill made me feel suicidal. So it’s worth discussing it with a doctor. I had a three month long period too, and went back to normal as soon as I stopped it.
 
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I've no further input for the advice as you've got a lot of good replies further up but I just wanted to say how lovely it is of both her boyfriend and you to be so supportive and understanding
 
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Looking for advice on any good websites to look at to get an idea on general outfits, I typically shop at places like new look, Matalan, river island, Primark etc but whenever I look I feel lost on what to go for to make a nice outfit, I know sometimes sites pair stuff on the models but a lot of the time the new stuff is on its own

Really am just wanting to browse on sites that have the latest trends so I can see to get ideas if that makes sense
 
Instagram is probably your best best. I love galslovehighstreet but there are loads more similar.
 
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