Sugar Babies

[aliciaaaa]

My ex friends (known since pre teen) are sugar babies, when asked about their outfits and how they can afford it theyd immediately get snappy as say they have a rich aunt (they don’t). I personally had no issue with it but it gets annoying the minute they start to act like it’s their money and start lying by saying oh they have a lash business or a nail business. These are just fronts to cover for their real life because they’re ashamed of what they do. I have a strong moral code with my friends where we don’t judge so just be honest. The minute they started lying to me by saying their body has changed because of working out and they have so much money because they’re not lazy and work hard as a lash/ nail/ makeup tech, is when I just stopped being friends with them. I heavily agree with the saying that who you surround yourself with is who you become, so for my own mental state I left them. Now they have dropped out of university after two years and since they ended up failing a lot of high school classes, they don’t really have a future ahead of them. I don’t like liars, and I don’t like people that have no real ambition in life to be better. I have seen a great mental lightness and I’ve realized because of their constant lying about random stuff (like their job, their body, their family) it’s really messed up my trust with everyone, especially since I grew up with these girls, they’d know I don’t care what they do, I don’t see why they’d lie so much. So don’t actively harass your friend about it, but if their behaviour starts to change and it’s beginning to affect you negatively then leave. No need to make a big deal out of it because it’s not good for your mental health

 

[Eureka]

She brought it up in conversation recently that a much older man asked her to meet up for a 'date' which she was considering however it was not brought up in conversation again. More recently she brought up how another older man (much older again) asked her to meet personally in return of items. The way she brought it up to me I felt as if it was to see how I would react to such a situation which would then perhaps influence her own decisions however I don't know - I really do just have her best interests at heart. God forbid during these meet ups something wouldn't be slipped into their drink or whatever especially when it is an individual we know nothing about. I also wonder how these men are contacting her?

Prior to this other friends had speculated she was a sugar baby or doing only fans secretly as she has began buying quite lavish items and going on lavish trips with no explanation as to where the money came from.

I'd be worried too. I've nothing against the idea but some men are absolute dogs. I think she's given you enough info there that you can ask her outright if that's what she's doing. It does sound like she's drip feeding you information to see how you might take it. All you do is be there for her and safety plan with her, maybe get her to text one of you the name and location she is going to just in case.

 

[Former_Antelopee]

I don’t blame her, if I was confident enough I’d do it my friend did it one time, went on one date with a guy, nothing more as she decided it wasn’t for her and she got £500

 

[Snoopingsnoopy]

Hi Tattlers,

What is our opinion on Sugar Babies?

A few friends speculate one of our click is a sugar baby. She is not the type to be too bothered if we advise against it however I feel like its up to us to talk sense into her.

Advice please?

 

[WilmaHun]

Unless she specifically comes to you for advice, then you're best to stay out of it. Giving her advice on something she's not asked for might lead to a falling out. Appreciate you only have her best interests at heart, but at the end of the day, she's "of age" as you say, so she's old enough to make a decision for herself.