First post on here so be kind guys
The title is self explanatory, have any dads/your partners took the mother of their child to court for access and had a successful/right outcome?
My close friend is an absolute brilliant dad and all round one of life’s good guys.
He has just recently split from his ex who now seems to think she holds all the cards in regards to their child. So far she his granting him every other weekend, Friday to Sunday but stipulates the child is home by 12pm Sunday. The child is 6 and starts to get distressed/anxious around 6pm Saturday evening asking how many hours they have left together, getting down because they clearly don’t want to go home, it tarnishes their time together because my friend has to constantly reinforce they have lots of time left and not to worry.
The mother is obviously still in love with my friend and doing this to be controlling and hateful, I’m not here to call her names but she isn’t the best mother and I myself know who I’d rather have bringing my child up.
My friend has convinced himself he will get nowhere in court because the courts never go against the mothers, he thinks they won’t grant anymore than what he has which is every other weekend as stated, he’s also quite confident when the child is of age to chose he will chose to live with his dad full time.
I’ve tried to explain if he has some kind of order in place they would surely be equal and she wouldn’t be able to dictate on the last minute I need the child back at such a time etc etc. I can also clearly imagine her changing the goal posts out of spite if my friend ever moved on and met anybody else, not him introducing the child to somebody new, her just stopping contact all together out of spite because she knows he’s moved on. I personally would rather have something set in stone about rights when i can see my child than live under a cloud of uncertainty depending on what mood the mother is in, how is that fair?
I have tried to do a bit of research online to show him but the outcomes don’t seem to look great for fathers.
The title is self explanatory, have any dads/your partners took the mother of their child to court for access and had a successful/right outcome?
My close friend is an absolute brilliant dad and all round one of life’s good guys.
He has just recently split from his ex who now seems to think she holds all the cards in regards to their child. So far she his granting him every other weekend, Friday to Sunday but stipulates the child is home by 12pm Sunday. The child is 6 and starts to get distressed/anxious around 6pm Saturday evening asking how many hours they have left together, getting down because they clearly don’t want to go home, it tarnishes their time together because my friend has to constantly reinforce they have lots of time left and not to worry.
The mother is obviously still in love with my friend and doing this to be controlling and hateful, I’m not here to call her names but she isn’t the best mother and I myself know who I’d rather have bringing my child up.
My friend has convinced himself he will get nowhere in court because the courts never go against the mothers, he thinks they won’t grant anymore than what he has which is every other weekend as stated, he’s also quite confident when the child is of age to chose he will chose to live with his dad full time.
I’ve tried to explain if he has some kind of order in place they would surely be equal and she wouldn’t be able to dictate on the last minute I need the child back at such a time etc etc. I can also clearly imagine her changing the goal posts out of spite if my friend ever moved on and met anybody else, not him introducing the child to somebody new, her just stopping contact all together out of spite because she knows he’s moved on. I personally would rather have something set in stone about rights when i can see my child than live under a cloud of uncertainty depending on what mood the mother is in, how is that fair?
I have tried to do a bit of research online to show him but the outcomes don’t seem to look great for fathers.