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Very bad social anxiety and the worst ruminator. Lately I’ve been making a conscious effort to watch and evaluate others instead of filling in the gaps. At work meetings when someone does/says something I consider a major faux pas I’ll notice how they reacted. “If they can brush it off, why am I not allowing myself to?”.
When I have to do small talk, I’m trying to think of all the times someone has made small talk with me and I’ve been really uninterested. I never judged them as harshly as I judge myself. So if someone finds me boring then well I’m just passing on the baton. I’ve honestly tried so many things but I think the key for me is being less harsh on myself. The more pressure you pile on yourself to appear funny/witty/interesting the less likely you will be.
I always like to be well presented but I’m pushing myself with that, too. If others are on zoom in their nightgown then I can skip getting up early to put on eyeliner. Sometimes being a bit vulnerable in that respect can make you more approachable.
When I have to do small talk, I’m trying to think of all the times someone has made small talk with me and I’ve been really uninterested. I never judged them as harshly as I judge myself. So if someone finds me boring then well I’m just passing on the baton. I’ve honestly tried so many things but I think the key for me is being less harsh on myself. The more pressure you pile on yourself to appear funny/witty/interesting the less likely you will be.
I always like to be well presented but I’m pushing myself with that, too. If others are on zoom in their nightgown then I can skip getting up early to put on eyeliner. Sometimes being a bit vulnerable in that respect can make you more approachable.