Thank you , mum guilt is so hard sometimes. I will arrange something for sure if he doesn't go. Will have a chat with my eldest too.I don’t think it’s a bad idea. Perhaps their dad could take them out for an activity and maybe party bags afterwards. It’s your eldest day, depending on age, maybe ask you eldest what he’d like?
I think kids see kids with other behaviors differently to adults, they don't necessarily see it as bad. He may be really upset if his brother isn't there but then on the other hand he may well be relived to have some space and time without him. There is nothing to feel guilty about, you are trying to juggle to get the best situation for all and that's a good thing.Thank you , mum guilt is so hard sometimes. I will arrange something for sure if he doesn't go. Will have a chat with my eldest too.