Coniferhedge
Chatty Member
I don’t want to get arsey because I hate confrontation and I hate it even more when this thread starts getting serious and argumentative, but I just want to make the point that you can still be manipulated as an adult. It’s called mental abuse. Abuse doesn’t have to be just physical. I used to be told every single day by my ex boyfriend that I was fat, I was ugly and I was stupid. I might as well stay with him because no other man would ever be interested in me. He only stayed with me because he felt sorry for me. I was just a waste of space. I called off our wedding because I knew I didn’t want to be in a relationship with him any more…and yet I stayed with him for a further 5 years. I wasn’t a young girl, I was 30 when I finally got away from him. As I said, I don’t want to be argumentative, but this is something I feel strongly about, sorry! (There’s the self doubt for you. Still there and always will be because of him).Yes their relationship was very toxic but her saying he ' made ' her have 2 abortions doesn't sit well with me. She was in a relationship with him for nigh on 10 years. My point is, she wasn't a naive young girl being manipulated... She was an adult.