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Turns out I read it all wrong he was leading me on yet he had moved on and has a new girlfriend
Thank you I'm broken .. again .. I know its life but being lead on thinking we were sorting out the issues we had previously.Fuuuuuck I am so sorry. That sounds brutal. Time’s a healer and you will find someone who makes you feel that way again x
He’s a dick and you deserve a million times better. SendingThank you I'm broken .. again .. I know its life but being lead on thinking we were sorting out the issues we had previously.
Best think hes gone for my sisters best friend .
Just feel like an idiot
You are definitely not an idiot, don’t beat yourself up about it. At all. The thing is now it sounds like you previously never had any closure and now you do you can absolutely work towards moving on. You sound like a very kind, selfless person. I have no doubt you will find someone who is worthy of you. No matter the personal issues this guy has had he doesn’t sound deserving xThank you I'm broken .. again .. I know its life but being lead on thinking we were sorting out the issues we had previously.
Best think hes gone for my sisters best friend .
Just feel like an idiot
Me and my partner had a house and a baby. We had been together from a young age. I think I had PND and didnt deal with it at all. Just took everything out on him. But he was absolutely useless around the house. Left me to do EVERYTHING. We was both working full time.
We was apart for maybe two years. I lost my baby weight, got my head sorted, he had his own house so I think he realised how much I did.
We started sleeping together and I got pregnant (unplanned). So we decided to get back together.
Honestly it was the best thing that could have happend. We both bounce off each other again. Make time for each other. Look after each other. We work as a team (he does his fair share now, with out being asked).
Weve been back together for bearly 2 years now. I think we needed the break. It was a massive wake up call. That the grass isn't always greener. You just need to water your own grass!
I'd tell him how you feel. What have you got to lose?
Good luck, keep us posted.
My answer to that is yes.
I think there’s like a few kinds of breakups. Breakups like yours, ones where someone’s done something nasty and ones where you’ve just drifted.
It never works again if someone has cheated, the trust would never be there.
But in situations like yours I’m not saying it will be perfect but it’s not like you’re getting back with someone who has wronged you. It is 100% worth giving it a go
Also would like to add I am so sorry about everything that happened it must have been incredibly difficult xx
My answer to that is yes.Does it ever work a second time around
So last year I was in the most amazing relationship, something very serious happened and it changed everything . My partner (ex now) his child's mum died suddenly. Then from there everything changed. When it happened I didnt want to be suffocating him so I told him if he needed me let me know etc I would message him daily to see how he was and if he needed anything , with him having to get settled and adjusted to having his son back full time I didnt want to keep asking to go see him etc so I went at his pace ... yet he never seemed to want me to help with anything or speak about anything and I didnt want to upset him by asking questions etc. We then started drifting apart, I found it hard that he had lost her but I couldnt really understand why I was grieving for this .. then October time he decided it was over and he even said because I wasnt there enough for him ... we never spoke again until Christmas we sent each other a Christmas message then we got speaking again and we speak every day like old times hes the first person I message and the last person I message going to be . And news or anything happens hes the first person I speak to . I dont know whether it's just the fact I like having company again or because yes I still have all the feelings I didnt want it to be over. I thought it was forever. I'm scared to ask if he wants to try again I'm scared I do it and he says no and that's it over again.
Also at this period of time Aug-Oct I was going through a lot of family issues and I was really struggling with life . He had enough to deal with so I couldnt put even more on to him so my head wasnt there
With that break? I got myself to a better place and feel a lot more mentally stronger . I love this man to absolve pieces I dont want a life without him.
Also would like to add I am so sorry about everything that happened it must have been incredibly difficult xxMy answer to that is yes.
I think there’s like a few kinds of breakups. Breakups like yours, ones where someone’s done something nasty and ones where you’ve just drifted.
It never works again if someone has cheated, the trust would never be there.
But in situations like yours I’m not saying it will be perfect but it’s not like you’re getting back with someone who has wronged you. It is 100% worth giving it a go
There must be a reason your still in contact. That was what happend with us really. Lack of communication and emotions xThank you both for your replies. I guess I'm scared to ask incase I lose him again I hated those months when we didnt speak I was so lost without him. Where now I at least have him in my life to speak to .
There was no cheating we both just had so much going on in each others lives. Maybe we didnt speak enough , open up enough about the serious side of our lives. Xx
Fuuuuuck I am so sorry. That sounds brutal. Time’s a healer and you will find someone who makes you feel that way again xTurns out I read it all wrong he was leading me on yet he had moved on and has a new girlfriend