PTWM #220 Nursed the Thread to Death

[repairshoplover]

Now Jo is gone, Rachael won’t have an email address anymore.

 

[Victoriaxxx]

And exactly as we predicted, the kids (and their friends) were cringing at last week’s diary reel boasting about their amazing sex. So hey, let’s post a clip of it again in case anyone missed it the first time!

Those kids have grown up in an over-sexualised home, thinking it’s normal to hear your mum and dad having sex. Or talking about it. It’s neither normal nor healthy.

 

[trine]

Only Rancid would fill diaries with scathing stories about how shit her kids are in the desperate hope they read them when she’s dies and they feel guilty total narcissist

 

[DipsyDoodle]

I thought her holding a birthday party and expecting her sycophantic huns to attend (they will) was bad enough but now she’s asking them to pay to meet her and Slosh the night before for an intimate evening. This woman is the most narcissistic, grandiose, conceited and arrogant c**t I’ve ever come across and I just find it incredible that even one person has put their hand in their pocket to fund her lifestyle, be it buying her shitty clothes, paying her Patreon or paying to attend a party just to be in the same room as her. These followers need to give their heads a serious wobble
Just to add I do see her Patreon but I’ve never paid a penny to her - just waiting for someone to notice but it’s been months

So a standard ticket for her birthday party is £100 and a VIP ticket is £175, and now she's asking for another £32 meet her and her pathetic wet wipe husband the night before?

Never had she spoken a truer word than all those times she says "who do I think I am" because seriously WHO THE FUCK does she think she is?

 

[Bexster]

Yes! Betsy is a prime example of a teen who had little boundaries, who has gone out and is actually living her life. I actually think she has thrived since she went. Could it have gone the other way, yes! But she is doing well without her mother smothering her.
Lulu is spoilt rotten

 

[drmortimer]

Rebl, Rebl, your clothes were a mess.

 

[No_Angel]

So, R has 6 kids and J has 7, because how draining and needy is R! J, saying adults have their own mind, try telling your wife that!! I'm sorry, having kids in and out of your home while you're away, then blame the fucking cleaner!!!!! Sort your own kids out! R, stop being your childrens friend and everyone else's kids as well, you are not creating what you think you are. Infact, you have created exactly what you deserve!! It's the mess you deserve to be in, by not giving boundaries.

 

[Wotsit]

I wish she would get caught doing what she is doing. It’s not as if it’s just a minute of taking it is story after story and it is quite clear she is pressing to stop/start the recordings! Fakey Quickenden was reported in his local paper about being caught on his phone and it has gone on to the big rags side-bar of shame where he is getting slated!

You'd think that after all her dramatic claims of having to ring relatives with devastating news and practically performing life-saving surgery at the roadside when she and Slosh came across a car crash years ago, and after her own nephew was involved in a collision that killed a father of two, she'd understand just how quickly lives can be destroyed and how much devastation reckless choices can cause to completely innocent families.

Chasing attention online is more important to her than making sure her own child is safe and alive.

 

[Veryangrylady]

Maybe don't fuck off & leave your kids with the cleaner all the time? "But linda let's it happen" whiney voice no wonder linda wants out!

 

[ScottishMammy92]

Surely the boys mum must legally have a leg to stand on? It cant just go unchallenged that she fails to safeguard any of her children. Stolen or otherwise.

I honestly am so bloody proud of B for making a whole life for herself on the other side of the world. I was the eldest daughter who ran as soon as I could and it was the best decision I ever made. Slowly but surely my siblings did the same and now we are all no contact with our parents.

 

[DipsyDoodle]

Rachel, there is a very big difference between being your children's “best friend” and actually being their parent. Unfortunately, I think you've confused the two.

You seem to take pride in being the cool, parent who lets the children do what they want, gives them very little privacy or accountability, and puts being liked by them above actually parenting them. But children aren't around you because you're some incredibly progressive, boundary-free parent. They're around you because there are essentially no boundaries.

And then, when those children inevitably behave as though there are no boundaries, the responsibility gets passed somewhere else.

The example of Lula bringing 14 people into your home, including people you don't know, to eat, sleep, drink and party, while your home is treated with complete disrespect, says everything. Then blaming the cleaner for “letting” it happen is frankly astonishing. The cleaner didn't create that situation. Lula didn't suddenly discover that house rules existed and decide to ignore them. There were no meaningful boundaries in place in the first place.

If a teenager knows they can invite 14 people into their parent's home without permission, without supervision, without appropriate safety measures and without any meaningful consequence, that's not a flex. That's a parenting failure.

And this is where the constant criticism of schools becomes particularly frustrating.

I work in SEN school. I see children every day whose parents genuinely work with the school, listen to professionals, reinforce expectations at home and understand that supporting a child doesn't mean excusing everything they do. I also see the opposite: parents who insist that their child is misunderstood, that every teacher is at fault, that the school is failing them and that society simply doesn't understand their child, while refusing to acknowledge the role they have in establishing expectations at home.

Of course the education system has problems. Of course children with additional needs can require enormous amounts of support. An EHCP/ diagnosis (even if it's paid for) can provide important provision and accountability. None of that, however, means that a parent gets to abdicate responsibility for teaching their child boundaries, respect, personal responsibility and basic social expectations.

Children need adults who are prepared to be functioning adults who contribute to society in a postive way.

They need someone who will tell them that something isn't acceptable, even when they don't like hearing it. Someone who will say no. Someone who will impose consequences. Someone who will protect them when they aren't capable of protecting themselves. Someone who understands that allowing absolutely everything isn't freedom, sometimes it's simply a failure to parent.

Children are not stupid. They know exactly which parents they can manipulate. They know which rules exist, which don't, which consequences will never materialise and which parent will eventually blame somebody else. They talk about it. They take the piss out of it. What the parent sees as proof of being “close” or “cool”, the children can see as an opportunity to get away with whatever they want.

That's not a healthy parent-child dynamic. It's an abdication of parental authority.

There is also a tendency to confuse explaining behaviour with excusing it. Trauma, divorce, domestic violence, substance misuse and other adverse childhood experiences can have profound effects on children. They deserve understanding and appropriate support. But understanding why a child behaves badly does not mean removing every boundary around that behaviour.

Actually, children who have experienced instability often need more consistency, not less. They need adults who are predictable. They need clear expectations. They need to know where the lines are and what happens when those lines are crossed.

You cannot simultaneously remove every boundary, refuse to hold your children accountable, allow them enormous freedoms without appropriate safeguards, and then pretend to act shocked when they behave as though there are no rules. And you certainly cannot blame the cleaner when your teenager does exactly what you've taught them they can do.

Being your children's friend is easy. Being their parent isn't. A parent isn't there to win popularity contests. A parent is there to provide the boundaries, guidance, safety and accountability that children aren't developmentally equipped to provide for themselves.

So please, please don't write a book about parenting teenagers. The last thing parents of teenagers need is a manual on boundaries, accountability and raising emotionally healthy young adults from someone who appears to have demonstrated absolutely no understanding of any of those things in practice.

Before giving the world a parenting manual, perhaps master the basics yourself.

Because if the same problems keep appearing, across the same family, year after year, eventually you have to stop asking, “Why does everyone else keep getting this wrong?” and start asking, “What am I consistently failing to put in place?”

 

[KittenMitts]

They deserve one another. They really are very unpleasant people who would turn on you as quick as a flash. Both have a right nasty streak.

 

[Troutpout]

“best sex ever…banging sex…loved me to sleep.” Jeez. Grow up how embarrassing for all their children.

Loved me to sleep. I genuinely have turned myself inside out. Is she 16?

 

[drmortimer]

Wasn’t she shilling teeth whitening strips at some point? Not a great advert for them.
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Teeth-widening, sure.

 

[reddolphin]

She WANTS her children ro remain dependent on her. Forever. An education gives them choices. Therefore, she is denying W the privilege of one.

 

[troglodyte]

I cannot understand why you'd share a photo like this.

(I'll be honest, I had to turn my phone around to figure out what it was I was looking at, the angle really confused me.)

Anyway, if I had to see it, you do too.

 

[rainbowhouse]

Of course her inbox has blown up because one person has told her that it is not actually normal for your teenagers to be vaping, breaking the law and taking drugs.

 

[DipsyDoodle]

Don’t like or feel sorry for Slinky at all but I hope he has a secret stash of cash, a whole load of videos to show her abuse & fecks of with Willbobby.

If he fucks off and leaves her he's definitely not taking Wilby. He didn't like the kids he already had, and he definitely didn't want another, he only went along with knocking her up to shut her up nagging at him (which she did, relentlessly).

 

[Lifebeginsatforty]

So they fucked off abroad for the weekend on the premise that the older kids 'might' chip in with childcare without arranging it properly. They are selfish fuckers to do that to Linda

 

[Donut26]

How pretty is he?

Pretty disgusting
Pretty sleazy
Pretty rank

Does that cover it Ratshit?