Planned C-Section NHS

[Tired of this crap]

Go easy on yourself. Day 2 is early days. I remember doing too much on day 2 and having to go to bed with the shakes. I remember getting to day 9 and wondering why I was still bothering with the painkillers, because I didn’t have any pain. Also found c section recovery MUCH easier than third degree tear recovery.

I know how it feels to look at women who breeze through childbirth and wonder how you got so unlucky! I felt the same. Hang in there and remember you do need bed rest this soon after surgery.

Thank you for this!

 

[Lulu Goss]

Thank you so much for your in-depth replies. I had a terrible labour 2 years ago. I’m crying now just thinking about it. I’m trying to think what to do.

My hospital stay was not good, but that was during the pandemic so hopefully it will have improved since then.

I am edging towards a c section but I’m scared of that too. I found giving birth so traumatic and overwhelming

I haven’t had a section, but just wanted to say I will be asking for one when (if!) we have a second baby. I was already apprehensive about giving birth because of some childhood trauma and I considered asking for a section but to be honest I wasn’t confident enough to discuss why. I gave birth with just gas and air but found the whole thing really traumatic and I wish I’d just asked for the section. My baby is 10 months old now and I still haven’t processed it all, I definitely need counselling but haven’t been able to arrange anything yet.

It’s completely your choice, but I understand it’s so overwhelming. Have you spoken to your midwife about it at all?

 

[maytoseptember]

I’m on day 2 post elective section.
The actual c section was good - calm atmosphere, lovely staff. I felt very chilled once they got the baby out and abit sort of floaty but in a nice way.

I’m struggling a lot with pain now though and finding it harder than I thought I would trying to look after a baby on top of being in pain when I just want to rest. Hopefully that will get better soon

I did struggle with pain after my first (vaginal) birth too which involved assistance/episiotomy etc. Recovery took a long time after that birth tbf.

I don’t think I’m very good at giving birth basically

Go easy on yourself. Day 2 is early days. I remember doing too much on day 2 and having to go to bed with the shakes. I remember getting to day 9 and wondering why I was still bothering with the painkillers, because I didn’t have any pain. Also found c section recovery MUCH easier than third degree tear recovery.

I know how it feels to look at women who breeze through childbirth and wonder how you got so unlucky! I felt the same. Hang in there and remember you do need bed rest this soon after surgery.

 

[delightfullyfuked.]

Thank you so much for your in-depth replies. I had a terrible labour 2 years ago. I’m crying now just thinking about it. I’m trying to think what to do.

My hospital stay was not good, but that was during the pandemic so hopefully it will have improved since then.

I am edging towards a c section but I’m scared of that too. I found giving birth so traumatic and overwhelming

A traumatic birth will definitely be taken into consideration, please don’t worry! Like others have said it’s not bad. Do What ever makes you feel the most relaxed and at ease.

xx

 

[Somerset girl]

Thought I would update this thread as the OP.

I ended up choosing to have an elective c section if the baby wasn’t born by 1 week past her due date. This was decided at 37 weeks and prior to that it was all up in the air! I’m happy to say I never had to fight for what i wanted, my consultant actually said to me ‘you can have whatever you want’. I did have to advocate for a growth scan though which helped me decide what to do (she was quite big).

I had a traumatic birth first time round and my midwife referred me to a consultant at my booking appointment because of that. I was also under the mental health team so I had support in the early appointments with the consultants.

Glad to hear you had a positive outcome. Thanks for updating.

 

[Hinchhater1442]

I’m not even pregnant yet I’m almost certain I want a c-section when I’m lucky enough to give birth. I don’t have any anxiety or traumas, I just have a weird fear of it, but I’ve read the NICE guidance and I think I know my rights. I’m just nervous that a pushy consultant will bully it out of me, I’m a bit too soft to stand my ground

 

[CrystalWench]

Thought I would update this thread as the OP.

I ended up choosing to have an elective c section if the baby wasn’t born by 1 week past her due date. This was decided at 37 weeks and prior to that it was all up in the air! I’m happy to say I never had to fight for what i wanted, my consultant actually said to me ‘you can have whatever you want’. I did have to advocate for a growth scan though which helped me decide what to do (she was quite big).

I had a traumatic birth first time round and my midwife referred me to a consultant at my booking appointment because of that. I was also under the mental health team so I had support in the early appointments with the consultants.

So glad you didn’t have to fight for a section. I did, despite it being both genetically and physically impossible for me to give birth naturally. My mother has an insufficient pelvis as do I but also due to my physical disability it’s strongly advised against. Yet still the consultant said “well you could give it a go”. Thankfully he wasn’t in when I went into labour early and had to have an emergency section. So I’m so glad for you that you had a decent consultant and all went well.

 

[Dianne]

So glad you didn’t have to fight for a section. I did, despite it being both genetically and physically impossible for me to give birth naturally. My mother has an insufficient pelvis as do I but also due to my physical disability it’s strongly advised against. Yet still the consultant said “well you could give it a go”. Thankfully he wasn’t in when I went into labour early and had to have an emergency section. So I’m so glad for you that you had a decent consultant and all went well.

Sorry you had that experience! I had different consultants each time. The male consultant for me was the worst. He was quite unbothered by what I was saying and I felt deflated. The three female consultants I had were nice and all said yes to an elective c section, I definitely think in my case being under the mental health team helped.

 

[Blair-Waldorf]

Hi @Dianne just wondering if you have an update? I’m having an elective section after a traumatic first birth and a few other risk factors in 4 weeks so loving these positive stories

 

[judgejohndeed]

I’m not even pregnant yet I’m almost certain I want a c-section when I’m lucky enough to give birth. I don’t have any anxiety or traumas, I just have a weird fear of it, but I’ve read the NICE guidance and I think I know my rights. I’m just nervous that a pushy consultant will bully it out of me, I’m a bit too soft to stand my ground

The NICE guidance says you should be offered counselling if you have a fear of birth but you don’t have to take it up and you can still have a c section without it again make sure you’re informed and can show understand the risks for when you’re asked