Parenting Hell Podcast #4

[ByTheWay]

They're going to get ripped to shreds by hamster care people now the latest guidance is a minimum of 100x50cm enclosures (no bars!) with 8-12 inches of bedding, and definitely no floors because hamsters have terrible eyesight and fall often. They're also definitely not supposed to have tubes or balls because they're dangerous and stressful! Can you tell I recently googled hamsters before getting a pet for my child then instantly regretted it..

I do agree with Lou in general because she's the default parent, so it can be assumed that she's loving getting up early when it's more likely it's just fallen to her. However when you're a full time stay at home parent it would end up that way. My husband and I both work 40 hour contracts so I would definitely get annoyed if people thought it was "lucky" for me to have a husband doing the correct percentage of care.

 

[frillylilly]

Rob makes a big thing about rich kids getting ponies but I don’t see how getting your kid goats is much different if you’re not expecting the kid to do the mucking out and care?

I do agree with Josh to an extent in that they have the money/means to provide their kids with nice experiences and so why not? But surely part of having a pet is about responsibility?

That said, I cannot remember picking up my dog’s poo or feeding her when I was 7 so maybe I’m being a hypocrite.

If animal rights groups get wind of the goats/rehoming comment then things might get hairy.

 

[CaptainHolt]

So he wants goats but doesn't want to do any of the care. That's basically what he's getting at.

His best option is to speak to a local farmer about them grazing in his paddock, then they get the cute goats but no responsibility. If farmers do such things.

I pray they don't get actual goats as pets, utter stupidity if they do. I also feel sad for the dog that he regrets getting.

I'm usually quick to give Rob a break but he annoyed me this week.

As for Lou.... When you're that pissed off, keep it for home. It was quite a hard listen, there was zero humour in that.

 

[DrMeredithGrey]

My partner makes me a cup of tea every single morning and brings it up to me before he leaves for work. If he has to leave for work before 6 he puts my mug, teabag and a spoon in front of the kettle so it’s all ready for me when I come down.
I can’t imagine feeling so strongly against the more simple act of kindness for your partner.
and yeah, this is after he’s woken the children and made them breakfast.
It’s literally no different to me making dinner or doing any other household chore whilst looking after the kids.

 

[ElektraWintour]

I’m behind so just listened to Josh saying he’s noticed when he’s sick his fool gets smaller. I had to text my husband and ask if it’s the same for him

 

[Bobbleowl90]

God, Lou is annoying.

 

[frillylilly]

I think Lou kind of flirts with being an influencer/mumfluencer sometimes

 

[isthisusernametaken]

I’m behind so just listened to Josh saying he’s noticed when he’s sick his fool gets smaller. I had to text my husband and ask if it’s the same for him

LOL I did the exact same thing

 

[squeeze1]

I think Lou kind of flirts with being an influencer/mumfluencer sometimes

She’s definitely dipping her toe that way isn’t she.

Mind you, Rose was private for years and in the last year she’s definitely made the most of the very slight exposure she gets.

Fair play to them but I’ll be a bit gutted if they go the way Rosie Ramsey has.

 

[Aussie]

I’m behind so just listened to Josh saying he’s noticed when he’s sick his fool gets smaller. I had to text my husband and ask if it’s the same for him

I asked Mr A too

 

[Katienana]

I think Rob and Josh both seem to do their fair share parenting wise, I'd be happy with the arrangements they have in place! I think Josh in particular puts everyone else first. A lot of stuff seems to.fall on him being the only driver as well.
Lou needs to remember that while being the default parent can be a pain the fact that she doesn't work a 9-5 job does mean they can go on loads of holidays every year, way more than she'd get with regular annual leave or even as a teacher.
Maybe my kids are just really well behaved but I've never found the mornings that bad, my 8 year old basically sorts himself out and the 12 year old makes me a tea these days!!

 

[softlygently]

You can tell Lou used to be a teacher, the way she speaks to Rob

 

[Whatevesmate]

I thought it was hilarious that after her rant Lou tells Rob to grow up, meanwhile sounding like a spoilt, petulant child.

 

[Hinchhater1442]

I don’t think it was podcast appropriate as such, but I don’t think Lou was entirely wrong but maybe didn’t articulate it well
Rob turns up last minute, gets the kids in the car, and drops them off (which by the sounds of it is a drive by drop off?) and I’m sure is then littered with praise about how he’s such a good/involved dad, Lou is so lucky, blah blah. When she’s the one that’s really done everything to get to that point.
A bit like when you do everythinggggg to host a BBQ but the bloke with a beer in his hand turning the sausages gets all the praise

 

[DrMeredithGrey]

I don’t think it was podcast appropriate as such, but I don’t think Lou was entirely wrong but maybe didn’t articulate it well
Rob turns up last minute, gets the kids in the car, and drops them off (which by the sounds of it is a drive by drop off?) and I’m sure is then littered with praise about how he’s such a good/involved dad, Lou is so lucky, blah blah. When she’s the one that’s really done everything to get to that point.
A bit like when you do everythinggggg to host a BBQ but the bloke with a beer in his hand turning the sausages gets all the praise

Yeah, I get what you mean there.
Still….i wouldn’t mind being the one that does the at home stuff and then gets to get ready after at my own leisurely pace.
everyone’s different though, and I personally hate the school drop off and pick up

 

[Whatevesmate]

She gets her own kids up for school - does she want a medal

 

[DontQuoteMe]

I actually quite like not having to do the school run. I get up, race around getting packed lunches etc sorted, then once they’ve all left, I can sit with a hot cup of coffee in a peaceful house!!

 

[TheBabeWithThePower]

I just can't imagine a world where we don't both have to get up, get the kids ready and then one of us does the drop off and both of us have to get to work!

I sort of didn't disagree with her point, however the tone felt off and unfunny, and didn't really recognise the privilege that they don't all have to be out of the door by 8.

 

[Bobbleowl90]

I just can't imagine a world where we don't both have to get up, get the kids ready and then one of us does the drop off and both of us have to get to work!

I sort of didn't disagree with her point, however the tone felt off and unfunny, and didn't really recognise the privilege that they don't all have to be out of the door by 8.

This is where the podcast is going wrong. It used to be relatable to a point. Yes I get the comments on here previously about how can we expect to relate to two celebs etc etc but it was relatable about children to some degree and made us all feel better about ourselves but they are so out of touch with it now.

Lou just comes across as an always right person and not one to back down even if/when she is wrong. She just sounds like a pain in the a.

 

[Longtimebrowser]

I think Rob and Josh both seem to do their fair share parenting wise, I'd be happy with the arrangements they have in place! I think Josh in particular puts everyone else first. A lot of stuff seems to.fall on him being the only driver as well.
Lou needs to remember that while being the default parent can be a pain the fact that she doesn't work a 9-5 job does mean they can go on loads of holidays every year, way more than she'd get with regular annual leave or even as a teacher.
Maybe my kids are just really well behaved but I've never found the mornings that bad, my 8 year old basically sorts himself out and the 12 year old makes me a tea these days!!

Yeah agreed, I have smaller kids than them and I my 2 year old is the only one I have to get fully ready. Everything is laid out for my 4 and 6 year old and they get themselves organised, even if there is a bit of shouting in the process She makes it sounds like she’s getting babies out the door.

And I know it’s coming from a place of pure jealousy, but I’d definitely put up with all the racing in the morning if it meant having an empty, peaceful house to sit and enjoy my coffee. I sympathise with the exhaustion of being the default parent and I know it’s probably frustrating to hear but they really don’t realise how privileged they are to have one parent at home. It’s a hard listen when you’re doing the same in the morning, driving your kids to school and then going to work.