totallytaz
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I don’t mind porn but would be hurt if my partner felt the need to subscribe to OnlyFans or pay to interact with a cam model.
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birdiefly246
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I know it's not really relevant to the thread but there are people, men and women, who don't. Some people have low sex drives or just don't want to. That is just as normal.
nobody is saying it's not natural. Some people just don't want to? Don't need to? I don't know why you'd think people would lie about it. Most don't have a reason to.
Rippedjeanmaybe
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I never do it, I don’t get pleasure from it. And my partner doesn’t either. He wouldn’t lie about it as he knows I don’t have an issue with it, he just doesn’t get pleasure from it either. We have a good sex life and it’s rare one of us wouldn’t be up for sex if the other initiates it. He definitely doesn’t do it in the shower either, he’s not in there long enough for a start...
Exactly, I can’t understand why people are so convinced that everyone does it. The majority of women I know don’t masturbate, I think I’ve read before that a much lower number of women than men do it. And a lot of men don’t do it either. I don’t know how anyone can say categorically that someone is lying if they say they don’t/their partner doesn’t, everyone is different.
Rippedjeanmaybe
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I’m not missing out, because I don’t enjoy it.
It’s like saying I’m missing out on coffee because I don’t drink it, but I don’t like it, so how am I missing out? Life would be boring if we are all the same, but luckily we aren’t. We all have different needs, wants, desires, likes and dislikes. If you enjoy it then that’s perfectly cool, I think it’s perfectly normal to do it, but I also think it’s perfectly normal not to.
I know a guy who regularly comments on Kylie Jenners photos things like “wow you’re so hot” “your arse looks amazing
” - he has a girlfriend as well! Obviously Kylie Jenner has better things to do than to notice his or the majority of the other comments on her post, but the fact everyone else can see it makes me cringe!Curlygirld
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Good sex and wanking aren’t an either or, you can have both. Really feel like some folk get quite high horsey about how good their sex is if they don’t wank 
My husband is generously proportioned, has great stamina, always lets me go first (several times over) and yet sometimes, I just couldn’t be fucked, needed a tension release and whacked the vibrator out. Party for one is still a party
My husband is generously proportioned, has great stamina, always lets me go first (several times over) and yet sometimes, I just couldn’t be fucked, needed a tension release and whacked the vibrator out. Party for one is still a party
Pinkblush
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We're not on social media as in twitter, facebook and gram. We both like reddit and you tube but he's not the engaging type that leave comments or get into discussions. We also have whatsapp. Neither of us are that guarded about our phones either as the kids usually take turns on to watch stuff or play games so there have been opportunities where I could have had a sneaky peek but .. curiosity killed that cat 
as they say.
I think most men view sexy material - although I have a friend who is adamant her bloke never has and never will. According to her he doesn't masturbate either
I think some women see it as a normal harmless male need and others, maybe because of insecurities, view it as a betrayal and deceitful.
as they say. I think most men view sexy material - although I have a friend who is adamant her bloke never has and never will. According to her he doesn't masturbate either
I think some women see it as a normal harmless male need and others, maybe because of insecurities, view it as a betrayal and deceitful.
watermelon sugar
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My partner has a code on his phone, I don't know it but that doesn't really bother me. I have just a swipe unlock on mine so he could easily get into it but he never bothers. He has a lot of girl friends, which i think bothered me a bit when we first got together but once I realised how serious he is about me & we had our baby and moved in together I started not to be bothered
When we first got together he used to like other girls pictures on FB. That used to annoy me only really because I had been cheated on in the past. To me, if you're in a relationship why are you liking pictures of girls with their bits hanging out posing all seductively? If it was a picture of one of his mates just smiling it didn't bother me, just the 'seductive' ones. Once he realised it got on my nerves he did stop.
He says he never masterbates and looks at porn. I don't believe him I guess it doesn't bother me. We don't have sex as much as we used to since we had the baby which is understandable. So if he needs to 'get his end away' that's fine by me
The only pleasure I need is a good night's sleep atm
When we first got together he used to like other girls pictures on FB. That used to annoy me
only really because I had been cheated on in the past. To me, if you're in a relationship why are you liking pictures of girls with their bits hanging out posing all seductively? If it was a picture of one of his mates just smiling it didn't bother me, just the 'seductive' ones. Once he realised it got on my nerves he did stop. He says he never masterbates and looks at porn. I don't believe him
I guess it doesn't bother me. We don't have sex as much as we used to since we had the baby which is understandable. So if he needs to 'get his end away' that's fine by meThe only pleasure I need is a good night's sleep atm
watermelon sugar
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I dont
I used to all the time but since I've had the baby I just can't be arsed
Self pleasure to me is a full 8 hours sleep and an uninterrupted meal time
Rippedjeanmaybe
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To be fair, she might not be wrong. My partner doesn’t masturbate or look at porn or similar. He’s always said it doesn’t interest him and to be fair, I am with his 24/7 (since lockdown), and before lockdown the only time we weren’t together was when we were both at work (working the same hours), so I think I would know if he was lying and he has no reason to lie anyway!We're not on social media as in twitter, facebook and gram. We both like reddit and you tube but he's not the engaging type that leave comments or get into discussions. We also have whatsapp. Neither of us are that guarded about our phones either as the kids usually take turns on to watch stuff or play games so there have been opportunities where I could have had a sneaky peek but .. curiosity killed that cat
I think most men view sexy material - although I have a friend who is adamant her bloke never has and never will. According to her he doesn't masturbate either
I think some women see it as a normal harmless male need and others, maybe because of insecurities, view it as a betrayal and deceitful.
bolimepipi
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my phone and laptop are always accessible to my boyfriend, the one thing i wouldn't show him is tattle
I genuinely most definitely do not masturbate. Not against it at all, don't judge people who do. Just doesn't interest me. Never feel the need when I've got a man sat right there lol.
THIS!Does it really matter if people wank or not... It’s as normal not to do it, as it is to do it. It’s all personal preference and I’m sure as adults no one would feel like they needed to lie about it
Not sure why it's so hard to understand that some people choose not to. I don't do it, but I don't have any issue accepting that other people do. It's personal preference.
I'm definitely not going to bother lying about it, not sure why anybody would. I just don't have that high of a sex drive - I feel like I'm getting enough from my partner so don't feel the need.To keep the thread on track - if he was commenting on pics of women half naked in a flirty way I'd chop his cock off.
Mulholland Drive
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My phones, tablets, laptops, PCs, fablets are all locked with two-tier authentication. This is nothing against my g/f, but purely because they're mostly my work devices, and i have to make sure they're totally secure in case of theft etc.
However, my current g/f has never really bothered or asked questions about any of them, or what I store on them in terms of personal contacts. She doesn't even ask what kind of wallpapers I have on them (although to be honest, I do have lockscreen pics of her on my phones and tablets)
I never ask her about what she keeps on her devices either. We're pretty open with each other, rarely keep secrets because I said right from the outset that I won't put up with being messed around with anymore. My second-guessing days are hopefully over.
And despite being apart for getting on almost 2 months now, I have never looked at other women here in South Africa. Well, actually that's not strictly true because I have, thanks to the hot summer weather. But nothing more than looking and admiring.
Of course what my g/f has been doing during these 2 months I really don't know. If she has been playing away, then I guess I will never know that either, but if I ever found out I would end it there and then.
However, my current g/f has never really bothered or asked questions about any of them, or what I store on them in terms of personal contacts. She doesn't even ask what kind of wallpapers I have on them (although to be honest, I do have lockscreen pics of her on my phones and tablets)
I never ask her about what she keeps on her devices either. We're pretty open with each other, rarely keep secrets because I said right from the outset that I won't put up with being messed around with anymore. My second-guessing days are hopefully over.
And despite being apart for getting on almost 2 months now, I have never looked at other women here in South Africa. Well, actually that's not strictly true because I have, thanks to the hot summer weather. But nothing more than looking and admiring.
Of course what my g/f has been doing during these 2 months I really don't know. If she has been playing away, then I guess I will never know that either, but if I ever found out I would end it there and then.
My bf has the highest sex drive of anyone I’ve ever met and doesn’t. He’s so open with me about everything and I still didn’t believe him at first but we’ve been together 24/7 since covid sooo
Rippedjeanmaybe
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I have spoken about it though, with women I’m friends with and there weren’t many that said they did. Just because you don’t understand what’s not to enjoy, it doesn’t mean everyone else thinks that way. I just don’t have any interest in it at all, I tried it when I was younger and single, but stopped when I got with my first boyfriend when I was 14 and I never went back to it.You say you don’t know many women who do it.... but that’s like saying you don’t know many woman who like anal sex.... you don’t know because it’s not spoken about. I just don’t understand what’s not to enjoy - if you enjoy sex, surely you’d enjoy solo sex...?
Exactly!!!!!!!!!!
I don’t think people are necessarily getting high horsey, or I’m certainly not anyway. I think my point about us having a good sex life and neither of us masturbating is more because we both feel our needs are met. For me, the only time I ever did it was when I was in my early teens, I was single and had no release. I stopped when I had my first boyfriend and never went back to it. Plus the fact we wouldn’t really have the time or feel the need as we are busy having sex with each other and outside of that we both work hard long days! I’m not being high horsey about our sex life, I actually think we are just “normal” for our ages. We are in our mid twenties and have been together six years, you would typically expect most couples in that scenario to have a fair bit of sex!Good sex and wanking aren’t an either or, you can have both. Really feel like some folk get quite high horsey about how good their sex is if they don’t wank
My husband is generously proportioned, has great stamina, always lets me go first (several times over) and yet sometimes, I just couldn’t be fucked, needed a tension release and whacked the vibrator out. Party for one is still a party
Pinkblush
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oh yeah it’s definitely natural, but not men all do it, that was my point. I asked mine loads of times when we first got together and he said he did it a bit in his teens, but never really enjoyed it. We have a great sex life though so maybe he doesn’t need to!
I think there might be quite a few people out there who have amazing sex lives and great sexual chemistry but still enjoy a little 'me time'.
watermelon sugar
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Yeah I find only fans different to porn. Bit weird if your partner was paying to see it
ChloChlo
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Not liking other peoples pictures would usually be in context.When people say liking other peoples pictures - what do you mean? You can’t like any picture the opposite sex posts or just selfies or whatever?
Me and my husband are pretty open. I know he watches porn and masturbates. That’s fine by me, more peace and quiet for me
I like other men’s pictures on social media, only men I know. And it wouldn’t be a selfie, I wouldn’t like anyone’s selfie, I find selfie culture weird. But I’d like a picture of their dog or kid, or if it was a group pic of a few lads I went to school with I would like it. I don’t think that’s disrespectful and I wouldn’t be annoyed if my husband did the same.
For example we both met at rehab and know alot of people of either sex from there, most can put up a simple selfie stating their recovery journey length or before/after shots of their addiction. I don't mind those.
Anything that has narcasstic undertones and made to grab sexual attraction (no matter how subtle - these can include sultry, filtered selfies or the classic wine glass dressed up in a doorway pose. I wouldn't like it if he was liking that sort of shit.
Group photos, photos of pets, children, cars, places (as long as it don't include her feet in sand and so on) etc. Don't care!